Why do Men Cheat

[lurkingdirk]

They aren't the same thing but they go together. You can't tell someone you love them and then go and fuck someone else behind their back... I mean if you really love someone you don't want to see them be hurt, so why on earth would you be the one to do the hurting? If men have an urge to fuck multiple women, they should either A)Be single B) Be in a swinger relationship or C) Man the fuck up and satisfy that urge with porn..

I like to keep things interesting in the bedroom, If I thought my guy was losing interest you can bet your ass I'd be wearing a redhead wig and slutty clothes, rockin a southern accent and a fake name the next night.. and if that got boring I'd turn into someone else.. Women can keep their men satisfied, men just need to speak up.

Will you marry me?

 

[xfire]

My macro view is that people have all sorts of motivations for cheating and I really don't care what they are. Not my problem, not my business, not my place to judge. Now, if you want to get into specifics, what's the point of staying with someone that's cheating? You find out, you remove yourself from the situation. Motivation doesn't really matter unless you enjoy dramatics.

 

[Zolf J. Kimbly]

1) Pissing L3ggy off isn't the world's smartest idea.
2) Pissing off OCSMs is so collossally stupid that not even I indulge in it any more.
3) I anxiously await your imminent ban.

Jesus cheese and crackers there be a lot of you co-signin ass hats in this thread

Were the hell were all you co-signers at when Zolf was applying for a loan about 3 years back?

It takes a lot to make me hit the neg-rep - but you are so very deserving.

I hear ya man

It takes a lot for the Zolfster's dick to go limp

But all of that sub standard bullshit on your website sure did the trick

Zolf will remember it the next time he pops wood by the pool.

...dick weasel :thefinger

 

[Deepcover]

Please don't ban the zolfster. He's hilarious.

The PKingster likes his eccentricity.


Want. I love the crazy bitches.

You're crazy.

 

[Will E Worm]

There are adultery laws, aren't there? There certainly should be a grave punishment.

There should be. I don't believe it is mentioned in the state marriage license so they really can't enforce it. Also, since it is not in the marriage license no one should be going to court for divorce over it.

Reason Number #5 NOT to get a State Marriage License: Link

 

[PlasmaTwa2]

Also, I think it's been in the news once or twice but there's people who like people of their own gender. Not really procreation happening there.

 

[Deepcover]

I dont cheat ~ I have open relationships
Tried the whole monogamous scenario ~ its definitely not 4 me!!!

Master knows wot lessons I must learn... xXx :whip:

Liked how you use the whip there...reminds me of Catwoman.

 

[TheAdmiral]

Its not an opinion

It is the truth from Zolf's standpoint.

Women lie all the time

Every day stuff they do is a lie

From makeup that exaggerates their looks to outright lying about the suppleness of certain body parts

See, Check it:



men's lies are usually pretty harmless by comparison

 

[BadNewsBewes]

I'd say women cheat in a more calculative fashion. Men I think are more likely to cheat in one night stands when they are drunk, rather than build another relationship behind their partners back.

Five people I know recently split from long term relationships, four were because of the women cheating. Three cheated with people that had something to do with their work. They had built up a relationship on the sly, before eventually leaving for greener pastures. Their new relationships fizzled out within a few months, so it was all for nothing in the end. All involved young kids. What a mess.

"Never trust a woman or a automatic weapon." John Dillinger.

"Never trust a woman who wears mauve, whatever her age may be, or a woman over thirty-five who is fond of pink ribbons." Oscar Wilde.

 

[zeeblofowl_1969]

Love has nothing to do with sex.

 

[PirateKing]

You're crazy.

1. Nothing wrong with me
2. Nothing wrong with me
3. Nothing wrong with me!
4. NOTHING WRONG WITH ME!!!

1. Somethings got to give...
2. somethings got to give...!
3. SOMETHING'S GOT TO GIVE...!!

YAAAAARRR!!!


Yeah, maybe I am. So what?

 

[Harley Spencer]

I'd say women cheat in a more calculative fashion. Men I think are more likely to cheat in one night stands when they are drunk, rather than build another relationship behind their partners back.

Five people I know recently split from long term relationships, four were because of the women cheating. Three cheated with people that had something to do with their work. They had built up a relationship on the sly, before eventually leaving for greener pastures. Their new relationships fizzled out within a few months, so it was all for nothing in the end. All involved young kids. What a mess.

"Never trust a woman or a automatic weapon." John Dillinger.

"Never trust a woman who wears mauve, whatever her age may be, or a woman over thirty-five who is fond of pink ribbons." Oscar Wilde.

I think you're right. In fact, I completely agree with you.

But I think what's more important is why it's happening, not what is happening and not which gender is doing it. This thread has turned into a debate on whether men or women are the bigger liars and cheaters. I suppose that's the fault of the OP, asking why do men cheat, which has caused us to say, "Hey now, women cheat too!" And it's escalated.

I don't think it's important to accuse one gender of being the least faithful. It's not important which one cheats more. It's important to know why people cheat, people in general. I know why, I understand it. I've been on both ends of the cheating spectrum. I've been cheated on and I've cheated on others. I'm not proud of any of it, but I'm not ashamed of it anymore. I used to hate myself for it, but I've moved on, matured, I've grown up.

 

[Deepcover]

1. Nothing wrong with me
2. Nothing wrong with me
3. Nothing wrong with me!
4. NOTHING WRONG WITH ME!!!

1. Somethings got to give...
2. somethings got to give...!
3. SOMETHING'S GOT TO GIVE...!!

YAAAAARRR!!!


Yeah, maybe I am. So what?

If you can handle them driving you frustratingly insane then by all means...

 

[Rey C.]

Harley Spencer[/URL][/B], post: 6598259, member: 579739"]It's important to know why people cheat, people in general. I know why, I understand it.

Why do you think people do it?

 

[Harley Spencer]

Why do you think people do it?

There's multiple reasons and it differs from person to person.

For me, when I cheated on some of my exes, it was always due to some underlying issue with myself and the relationship I was in. Part of it was that I felt like my current guy didn't care about me. He was always making comments about how hot other women were, spending more time with his friends than me, not having sex with me when I wanted it but always expecting me to have sex when he wanted it, constant arguing in the relationship, etc. I wasn't happy. But I was also afraid to end the relationships for fear of being alone. To fulfill my selfish needs, to fill that hole that I felt like my guys didn't care about me, I strayed for someone else that did show that they cared about me. Two of the people that I cheated with were, like mentioned in a previous post, already a relationship in the making behind my guys' backs. After the first couple times I cheated, I eventually learned that I need to trust my gut, go with my instincts. If something seems bad, if I have any doubts that the relationship isn't working and we can't fix things, then I need to just end it. Cheating isn't fair to your SO, no matter how bad things are.

In some circumstances, it's about self control. Maybe your relationship is perfectly fine, but you still cheat because you can't resist temptation. Maybe you simply don't care enough about the other person to stay faithful.

Sometimes people cheat because they want a quick rendezvous and think they won't be found out. That it won't change anything. Perhaps sometimes their infidelity isn't discovered and they go on with their lives like nothing ever happened, but I think those situations are few and far between. Cheating almost always ends up badly.

And sometimes people have sex with multiple partners with no boundaries because they're in an open relationship, but that's something else entirely.

What it all comes down to is your own character, your own problems. There is always an underlying issue as to why a person is cheating on their partner. It could be about themselves or it could be about the relationship.

 

[Harley Spencer]

Why do you think people do it?

Sorry, DP

 

[Rey C.]

There's multiple reasons and it differs from person to person.

For me, when I cheated on some of my exes, it was always due to some underlying issue with myself and the relationship I was in. Part of it was that I felt like my current guy didn't care about me. He was always making comments about how hot other women were, spending more time with his friends than me, not having sex with me when I wanted it but always expecting me to have sex when he wanted it, constant arguing in the relationship, etc. I wasn't happy. But I was also afraid to end the relationships for fear of being alone. To fulfill my selfish needs, to fill that hole that I felt like my guys didn't care about me, I strayed for someone else that did show that they cared about me. Two of the people that I cheated with were, like mentioned in a previous post, already a relationship in the making behind my guys' backs. After the first couple times I cheated, I eventually learned that I need to trust my gut, go with my instincts. If something seems bad, if I have any doubts that the relationship isn't working and we can't fix things, then I need to just end it. Cheating isn't fair to your SO, no matter how bad things are.

In some circumstances, it's about self control. Maybe your relationship is perfectly fine, but you still cheat because you can't resist temptation. Maybe you simply don't care enough about the other person to stay faithful.

Sometimes people cheat because they want a quick rendezvous and think they won't be found out. That it won't change anything. Perhaps sometimes their infidelity isn't discovered and they go on with their lives like nothing ever happened, but I think those situations are few and far between. Cheating almost always ends up badly.

And sometimes people have sex with multiple partners with no boundaries because they're in an open relationship, but that's something else entirely.

What it all comes down to is your own character, your own problems. There is always an underlying issue as to why a person is cheating on their partner. It could be about themselves or it could be about the relationship.

Thanks for the very honest answer. Maybe it's because I'm an only child, but being alone has never bothered me. So breaking off one relationship, before starting another one (even if there is no immediate prospect in sight), has never bothered me.

I was in a relationship/fling several years ago with a woman, who I didn't know was married (and had kids!). I was going to Dallas at least once a month or so, and whenever I was in town we'd hook up. We even got together in other cities if we could arrange it. And then one of her co-workers clued me in that she was married. As mad as I got, I wondered how her husband (and kids) would have reacted. It's not like we were in love, or even headed in that direction, but I just thought, "what a fucked up thing to do!"

You're completely right that it's not a gender specific thing. Again, thanks for the honest reply.

 

[vodkazvictim]

Jesus cheese and crackers there be a lot of you co-signin ass hats in this thread

Were the hell were all you co-signers at when Zolf was applying for a loan about 3 years back?



I hear ya man

It takes a lot for the Zolfster's dick to go limp

But all of that sub standard bullshit on your website sure did the trick

Zolf will remember it the next time he pops wood by the pool.

...dick weasel :thefinger

*yawn* what?

 

[PirateKing]

If you can handle them driving you frustratingly insane then by all means...

''I became insane with long intervals of horrible sanity.''
- Edgar Allen Poe

 

[Harley Spencer]

Thanks for the very honest answer. Maybe it's because I'm an only child, but being alone has never bothered me. So breaking off one relationship, before starting another one (even if there is no immediate prospect in sight), has never bothered me.

I was in a relationship/fling several years ago with a woman, who I didn't know was married (and had kids!). I was going to Dallas at least once a month or so, and whenever I was in town we'd hook up. We even got together in other cities if we could arrange it. And then one of her co-workers clued me in that she was married. As mad as I got, I wondered how her husband (and kids) would have reacted. It's not like we were in love, or even headed in that direction, but I just thought, "what a fucked up thing to do!"

You're completely right that it's not a gender specific thing. Again, thanks for the honest reply.

I've always had a fear of being alone. It stems from being such an ugly child and in my early teen years. No one liked me, everyone picked on me, I was depressed as all hell. I've changed a lot through the years and grown into a better woman, but that part of my life will always be with me.

I have no problem being honest. I'm willing to admit my mistakes without being too ashamed of them.

Thanks for being agreeable! I was thinking you, or someone else, might respond saying something like, "You're giving cheaters too much credit. People cheat because they're dirty disgusting sluts, and there's nothing more to it."