Why do Men Cheat

[ApolloBalboa]

Having never really been in a relationship myself, but having experience in this matter due to watching my parents' relationship fail, both of their following relationships fail (one got married and divorced, one had a kid with a girlfriend and broke up but still pays for it), and having seen some of the same with other members of my family, it puts my faith in commitment in jeopardy rather than monogamy. They may be the same thing, but I'm not always sure. I get very easily disgusted when I hear anyone (and I mean anyone, whether it be somebody famous, a friend, a relative, etc.) feels the need to have something on the side, a back-up, a go-to, whatever you want to call it. I get disgusted when I see people having kids together in what they call a "partnership" or anything among those lines, and saying that marriage is stupid or obsolete or "we don't need a piece of paper to tell us that we're husband and wife". You know what? It never works, it NEVER FUCKING WORKS, and I've seen enough cases of it to tell you so.

What does everything I've said above have to do with cheating? Simple: a lack of general commitment and basic common sense. If you have something that you find meaningful, whatever it may be, you don't go looking for ways to fuck it up. That means stay with what you have, and if it turns out that you're not happy with what you've got, end it, don't go looking for something else to help you fulfill that need that you're not getting while you continue to tell yourself (and most likely the other person) that you've got everything you ever wanted.

 

[alexpnz]

I was a serial cheater when younger...I constantly needed validation that I was Good looking due to low self esteem.

Now I'm approaching 40 and I could give a shit less.

At the end of the day, busting a nut @ the end feels the same regardless of who's getting you off.

 

[93FXR]

I feel most cheating by either person in the relationship stems from a desire to leave. The desire to do the work to get past issues has gone. Problems have reached the point where the work seems to much, or the relationship was never really what it seemed in the first place. The "cheater" starts cheating as a way of "risking" being found out, thus ending the relationship without having to confront the true reasons for the break up. It has often been said that cheating is a symptom of other problems. As Billy Crystal said, "Well, that symptom is fucking my wife!".

I know there are people who say they love their SO while cheating. I don't think they are being honest with themselves. They are more likely staying and convincing themselves that they are still in love to avoid admitting they are staying for other reasons. I.E. The kids, the cost of divorce, the feeling of failure, or a countless number of other reasons.

 

[SabrinaDeep]

Women cheat too, or am i missing something? The escort thing is simply because if a woman wants to cheat she can get a night of sex without paying, while a man has to pay somehow especially due to this stereotype that if men cheat they do it because they are pigs, while if women cheat they are looking for love and therefore are somehow justified. I tell you more: we women tend to try and steal men from other women. We've got something for the married man, even if we wouldn't consider him if he was single. We hate his girl and we tend to try and punish her fucking him. Ultimately, for a straight man cheating there is a woman cheating, on average.

 

[lurkingdirk]

Men don't cheat, people cheat. It isn't a gender thing.

And, not all people cheat. It's a decision, not something hardwired in us. If your desire to be faithful is strong enough, you'll seek solutions to the things that are driving you to cheat, rather than feed those desires.

:2 cents:

 

[Harley Spencer]

Men don't cheat, people cheat. It isn't a gender thing.

And, not all people cheat. It's a decision, not something hardwired in us. If your desire to be faithful is strong enough, you'll seek solutions to the things that are driving you to cheat, rather than feed those desires.

:2 cents:

I highly recommend watching The Science of Sex Appeal. You'll see why so many of us are saying that we are biologically programmed to look for multiple mates.

 

[SpexyAshleigh]

Men cheat due to biological imperative. Men are hardwired to "spread their seed" as widely and as often as possible. Obviously it's avoidable (as has been mentioned in this thread) with the application of willpower, but the instinct is still there. The better question is; why is monogamy considered the norm? It's completely unnatural.

Because monogamy is natural for most females. While yes, biologically mens instinct is to spread their seed...womens instincts lean towards finding one mate, and sticking with him to raise their offspring with. Women are monogamous by nature. (thats not to say that some women won't still sleep around and cheat) But in this day and age, monogamy is just SAFER. STD's are rampant, and illegitimate children are dime a dozen. Sleeping around just increases your chances of something negative happening to yourself or the person you're cheating on....so modern societal standards dictate that monogamy keeps you safe and clean. We're not cavemen anymore, we've been groomed and raised to understand whats right and wrong...while sex isn't wrong, being unsafe and hurting others emotionally sure is.

(this hits close to home for me - one of my best friends bfs cheated on her, picked up fucking HIV and gave it to her...she ended it with him and a few weeks later found out that she was pregnant with his child so now she's stuck dealing with being HIV positive and raising this child...its a horrible situation and his nasty dick ruined her life....cheating CAN'T be worth all that...)

 

[cree]

Most of the people who cheat their partner choose to be and stay in relationship with same for wrong reason.

 

[lurkingdirk]

I highly recommend watching The Science of Sex Appeal. You'll see why so many of us are saying that we are biologically programmed to look for multiple mates.

I realise the argument that is being made, I just don't buy it. Having been married, were there times that I felt the urge to look for multiple mates? Yup. Were there times when I just wanted to jump in the sack with someone for a quickie? Yup. And I know there were multiple times it could have happened without consequences, but I didn't. I chose to get married, and that's something I take seriously. My urges are controllable, as are pretty much everyone's urges. If you make the decision to get married, or to be an exclusive partner with someone, then get yourself under control, and make good decisions.

But, that's just what I think, and I'm not the greenest bean in the basket.

 

[PlasmaTwa2]

All I've taken from this thread is that it is ok to be a whore because, hey, science.

 

[squallumz]

All I've taken from this thread is that it is ok to be a whore because, hey, science.

works for me!

 

[Lolita_Borgia]

I dont cheat ~ I have open relationships
Tried the whole monogamous scenario ~ its definitely not 4 me!!!

Master knows wot lessons I must learn... xXx :whip:

 

[SpexyAshleigh]

I realise the argument that is being made, I just don't buy it. Having been married, were there times that I felt the urge to look for multiple mates? Yup. Were there times when I just wanted to jump in the sack with someone for a quickie? Yup. And I know there were multiple times it could have happened without consequences, but I didn't. I chose to get married, and that's something I take seriously. My urges are controllable, as are pretty much everyone's urges. If you make the decision to get married, or to be an exclusive partner with someone, then get yourself under control, and make good decisions.

But, that's just what I think, and I'm not the greenest bean in the basket.

I pretty much agree with this. If you don't want to be monogamous, then don't get into a "monogamous" relationship with someone. Just play the field. Once you commit, you should remain committed. If you change your mind, then end shit before fucking others. Its not exactly rocket science.

 

[DR. B]

The last gf I had was in high school. I cheated on her with her friend. It was then I realized that I just don't want to be in a relationship, i wanted to fuck as many girls as i can and for some reason thats not ok with a lot girls. Many of my friends ask, "well dont u get lonely and just want snuggle up with someone?" sure, I have those types of girls too where I can make a movie night at home; a 12 pack, couple of joints and child's play 3 in the dvd and just wen you think it's finished, we pop another one in. most of the time I'm not looking to fuck her, but they come on to me. they spend a night and then they leave in the morning, back to their kids or boyfriends, whatever. IMO all men cheat, its just if they have the balls to do it or they really are in love. Do I believe in love? yes i do. how do i know? because i was in love, but my rep killed it. when i was with her, i didnt want anyone else sexually or mentally. the whole fucking every woman i can just fell out the window. i didnt want to disappoint her or betray her in any way. but like i said my rep killed me. i fucked a lot of her friends and even the six degrees of seperation fell in. she just heard a lot of dirty, nasty things about me from other girls. it didnt matter to me what she thought of me either, that was the past and i cant do nothing to change it. we stayed friends cause i thought i could handle being friends with her, but i couldnt so i broke it off, haven't talked to her in 5 months

so in essence it depends on what sort of man you have. men have a gene that tells them to fuck, fuck, fuck!!! but its all them if they can use that will power. and usually a good women can help him with it

 

[Zolf J. Kimbly]

And women don't cheat at all i suppose?

Women are always innocent victims yes?

WRONG!

Dare I say women cheat more than men do

They lie more too

This is a fact!

But to answer the question, Zolf has cheated for a vairety of reasons

Mainly its because the woman I am with refuses to do certain sexual acts that Zolf likes

These acts range from suckin on Zolf's big nuts to taking it up the brown eye

So I figures, if she ain't gonna do it, someone else will.

And thats that!

 

[squallumz]

bob dole dont need this.

 

[Deepcover]

I dont cheat ~ I have open relationships
Tried the whole monogamous scenario ~ its definitely not 4 me!!!

Master knows wot lessons I must learn... xXx :whip:

I believe everyone is different when it comes onto relationships. This is something else but I was wondering if any guys on here think they could ever live the cuckold life?

 

[Harley Spencer]

And women don't cheat at all i suppose?

Women are always innocent victims yes?

WRONG!

Dare I say women cheat more than men do

They lie more too

This is a fact!

But to answer the question, Zolf has cheated for a vairety of reasons

Mainly its because the woman I am with refuses to do certain sexual acts that Zolf likes

These acts range from suckin on Zolf's big nuts to taking it up the brown eye

So I figures, if she ain't gonna do it, someone else will.

And thats that!

We lie more and cheat more? That's not a fact. That's an opinion.

 

[vodkazvictim]

When I first started in this industry, I was so naive. I thought "escorts" were something you would find on Cinemax After Dark. More shocking to learn was the high number of married men who pay for sex with escorts/providers.

Over the years, so many men have indicated that they truly "love" their beatuiful wife - yet, while at the same time handing me $300 per hour to rock their socks off in the sack. It was a hard sell for me to accpet that a man can "love" a woman and yet seek to have sex with other women- paying alot of money for the sex no less.

Some justify the extra-marital affiars on poor health of thier spouse/partner; some say their wives simply do not provide certain sexual services (mainly a good BJ)

Im interested in hearing opinions on this subject. Can a man be faithful to one woman?
Do those of you who are cheating - would you be ok wth your SO doing the same? xoxoxo

So if it's so bad, why did you continue to service them?

In many cases, women seem to age faster than men. I can sometimes feel like I'm in my mid twenties when in the company of women my age. It's not fair, I know.

So why are a considerable number of women aging faster than the men in the same age bracket? :dunno:
Does it have anything to do with womens' daily application and removal of makeup that stretches the skin around the eyes? I don't know, I don't read chick mags... any theories on this?

Women mature faster. Men never grow up? :dunno:

I think it is because most men can't confide in their spouse and open up to them. Now, it may also be that they love their woman, but she isn't into doing some of the things that he "needs".

Then tell her, leave her or find a solution. Don't cheat.

Men don't cheat, people cheat. It isn't a gender thing.

I dont cheat ~ I have open relationships
Tried the whole monogamous scenario ~ its definitely not 4 me!!!

Master knows wot lessons I must learn... xXx :whip:

Not wot but what. Also, can you put an apostraphe in your sig please? It should read Bunny's got a cock.
/grammar and spelling nazi.

I believe everyone is different when it comes onto relationships. This is something else but I was wondering if any guys on here think they could ever live the cuckold life?

Id' rather eat my own testicles.

We lie more and cheat more? That's not a fact. That's an opinion.

LIE!
sorry, couldn't resist.

 

[Zolf J. Kimbly]

We lie more and cheat more? That's not a fact. That's an opinion.

Its not an opinion

It is the truth from Zolf's standpoint.

Women lie all the time

Every day stuff they do is a lie

From makeup that exaggerates their looks to outright lying about the suppleness of certain body parts

See, Check it:



men's lies are usually pretty harmless by comparison