The Official Harley Spencer Discussion Thread! (AMA)
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My first impulse was to name names... 'cause I'm a bastard.
Still, good enough. :dunno:
Elwood70
Torn & Frayed.
My first impulse was to name names... 'cause I'm a bastard.
Well, since I'm only 99.98% sure which name you were going to say, I chose the diplomatic route.
Harley Spencer
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Yay! Elwood's here! See, it's interesting over here
I thought crush porn was more about men who want women to stomp on their junk and stuff. I've seen that stuff before in documentaries and whatnot. But then I googled it and... oh my god! That is the most awful thing ever. Basically it's a fetish for women to crush small animals with their heels. That's so terrible. How could any woman even bring herself to do that? I saw a page where there's a petition to ban that genre. The petition started in 2010, and I couldn't find any word on whether or not the petition was successful. I can't believe that would even NEED a petition. That is nothing more than animal abuse, which is completely frowned upon, so there shouldn't be a petition. The people participating in it should simply be arrested. They were trying to argue that it's their freedom of speech, but fuck that nonsense. Freedom of speech doesn't mean you have the freedom to abuse other living things. Ugh, I'm so disgusted by this.
So you don't like clown wigs... what if I had my hair dyed blue or purple or a mix of both colors? Would that be too clownish? I'm a big fan of pretty colored hair.
And yes, folks with foot fetishes all have varying opinions and tastes. Some are into toes, some like soles, some like painted toenails, some like to see feet getting dirty, some have a thing for taking stockings on and off, some want bare feet, and some have a thing for women in shoes. I have no problem with any of those things, so for anyone to request a foot photo set or video is no biggie to me. I'm happy to indulge in most fetishes, but there's some of the more extreme ones that I absolutely will not do. Basically if it involves pain, feces, or anything illegal/morally wrong, it's a no-go.
I'm interested to know who the names of the girls with soulless eyes are. Some PMs maybe? Sorry, I'm such a snoop sometimes.
I thought crush porn was more about men who want women to stomp on their junk and stuff. I've seen that stuff before in documentaries and whatnot. But then I googled it and... oh my god! That is the most awful thing ever. Basically it's a fetish for women to crush small animals with their heels. That's so terrible. How could any woman even bring herself to do that? I saw a page where there's a petition to ban that genre. The petition started in 2010, and I couldn't find any word on whether or not the petition was successful. I can't believe that would even NEED a petition. That is nothing more than animal abuse, which is completely frowned upon, so there shouldn't be a petition. The people participating in it should simply be arrested. They were trying to argue that it's their freedom of speech, but fuck that nonsense. Freedom of speech doesn't mean you have the freedom to abuse other living things. Ugh, I'm so disgusted by this.
So you don't like clown wigs... what if I had my hair dyed blue or purple or a mix of both colors? Would that be too clownish? I'm a big fan of pretty colored hair.
And yes, folks with foot fetishes all have varying opinions and tastes. Some are into toes, some like soles, some like painted toenails, some like to see feet getting dirty, some have a thing for taking stockings on and off, some want bare feet, and some have a thing for women in shoes. I have no problem with any of those things, so for anyone to request a foot photo set or video is no biggie to me. I'm happy to indulge in most fetishes, but there's some of the more extreme ones that I absolutely will not do. Basically if it involves pain, feces, or anything illegal/morally wrong, it's a no-go.
I'm interested to know who the names of the girls with soulless eyes are. Some PMs maybe? Sorry, I'm such a snoop sometimes.
That's something else. No idea what that's called. :dunno:
Well, the one .gif that I wish I hadn't seen had a woman place something white and furry the size of a bunny or guinea pig on a desk, then put a small, transparent sheet of glass over it, then sat on the glass until, apparently, the animal underneath suffocated. I don't get it on any level.
Regarding legality, well like most things it's going to breakdown place-to-place. Thanks to Google I can tell you that there was a law for it the US (banning production, sale and distribution), but it was really broad, so it was struck down as unconstitutional (it apparently would have made it illegal to show any animal that's been or is being harmed... so this would include humane society footage of abused animals in shelters). As of late 2010 a new law was passed, which has not been struck down, and should make it illegal again.
I could get behind that. But then I could get behind the clown wig. Then again, I can get behind most anything... I'm pretty easy going. :dunno:
I kinda wish I had an actual fetish.
Sure, I can PM you... no harm in that.
Harley Spencer
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It's easy to cater to people with fetishes since that makes it easier on me for figuring out things to shoot, but on the other hand, I like having the freedom to do things my own way and have a lot of variety. For example, if my website was all about bondage, I'd only have bondage fans, so anyone with a different fetish or different tastes in general wouldn't come to me.
Yeah, that's kind of why I'd want one. Because then I could totally just be, like, "Hey, I'm into this!" and could focus on that one thing and it would just be so... very straightforward. That appeals to me I guess because there often doesn't seem to be a lot of straightforward stuff going on in my brain.
On the other hand, I'm pretty easy to please as it stands, so I guess I have that going for me. :dunno:
Harley Spencer
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Ha yeah don't worry about it. A fetish is technically defined as something that a person literally can't get off on anything but that one thing. Too many people say that they have a certain fetish, like feet, shoes, brown hair, big boobs, round asses, bondage, leather, latex, cosplay, boots, etc. but often times, it's not an actual fetish for them, because while they might find that one thing to be an insane turn on, they are equally turned on by numerous other things and are absolutely capable of reaching orgasm by things other than that one particular thing. That's not a fetish, that's just... a turn on. Like I'm turned on by the idea of a guy tying me up and having his way with me, but it's not a fetish. That's actually never happened to me, so... Simply fantasy actually.
Never happened? Huh, that seems like a pretty easy one to make a reality. All you need is some rope and some free time... :dunno:
Harley Spencer
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I have messed around with a little bondage before, but it was nothing major and it didn't exactly pan out the way you'd fantasize about. I've blindfolded guys before, tied their hands up, and had them tie my hands up, but that's nowhere near what I'd ultimately want. Like... I don't want to have to ask to be tied up, you know? I'd want it to just happen, no discussion about it, no nothing. Just tie me up and go to town.
jitna
Eternally hoping to lick Briana
maybe we can get Miss to help you with that?
Well, with no discussion beforehand it becomes problematic unless there's an understanding in place previously. I mean, that's not something someone can just do without knowing it's something that's desired. Otherwise, you know, it's a very bad thing.
Harley Spencer
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Ok well assuming you're in a relationship with someone who already knows your sexual boundaries, there shouldn't be an issue. Like my current guy knows I'm comfortable with bondage, at least I'd imagine he does seeing as he's tied me up for some shoots before and I'm pretty sure I've mentioned it in conversation before. He knows me very well and I trust him, so if he were to ever tie me up, I'd trust that he wouldn't do anything that would hurt me.
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She likes to tie girls up?
There's still some potential issues there that are going to have most men shy away from it. Without absolute knowledge that this is something that you'd want sprung on you it's always going to be kind of questionable. Knowing someone is okay with bondage is fine, but that doesn't necessarily mean someone wants to be surprised with it. Consent is a tricky issue, and one that most people don't want to even give the illusion of being insensitive to. That's the type of thing that could instantly end a relationship, and maybe end with a trial and possible jail time. Some things require an absolute, and an agreement to be made at some point. Since spontaneity is the desire, you make the agreement now then, hey, maybe it happens a month later when it isn't expected. No agreement though and you're going to hard pressed to find a guy who's going to want to go testing the waters there. Just too potentially volatile.
I agree with Happy here. Be very carefull with surprises of this kind. It tricky, not only with the issue of consent, as Happy details, but also in that the mind doesn't like shocking surprises. Even with an agreement, written and signed, it may cause some damage in the mental department.
Harley Spencer
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Well, no damage on my end. Maybe I'm just one of those rare few that likes surprises like that.
I don't think I'd be worrying about Harley in that respect.
That's entirely possible.
It's just kind of important to remember that we live in a world where consent has become a scary enough issue that anything in that general vicinity can make a man's balls retract. Most guys worth a damn aren't about to take any kind of chances with that sort of thing anymore.
Harley Spencer
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Exactly. I'm very open sexually, there's very few things that I won't try. I aim to please, and in return I expect to be pleased.
