Maturity ...
That means you shouldn't "freak out" if she's moving on, and just deal with yourself, not worry about her.
When you were together, who's happiness was most important? Hers, right?
Now that you are not together, who's happiness is most important when it comes to her? Hers still!
You need to do the same with regards to yourself as well, focus on your happiness.
But the key is to ensure it is independent of her because, again, she broke up with you.
I had many, many girlfriends in high school dump me, and often go into another relationship way too early.
In many cases, she slept with the guy when she didn't, and he either didn't want her any more, or expected it all-the-time.
Then when my ex-girlfriends came running back to me, and wanting me to "feel sorry for them," they got the smack of truth.
"Don't tell me about your immaturity and indecision. Tell me you either want me, or you really wanted to move on."
Most of the time I was already with someone else, and I wasn't about to be immature and cheat on my new girlfriend with my old.
This is what it's all about dude, learning what you can live with.
It's hard to give 2+ years with someone up, but sometimes, it's for the best.
And if not, then you will eventually get back with her, just let it be her choice too, not just only yours.
She just broke up with you, so she's not going to go right into another one.
If she does, then that's on her, and she'll deserve any pain she gets if she can't handle it.
I.e., if her new boyfriend pressured her into being with him, don't get mad, just ignore it, it's not your concern.
Be friend with her, but leave it as friends, don't assume any more.
"Given her space and time."
Did she really want that or does she not want to be with you as a boyfriend now?
If she does not want to be with you, no amount of "space and time" makes any difference.
Just leave it be, don't assume any more, I know it's hard as fuck, but it's no longer love and jealousy, it's now desire and envy.
That's a really bad combo if she doesn't want to be with you any more than a friend.
If you let her think of it first, her wonder what she missed, then she may come back.
But you have to be ready for her not to feel that at all, and get past it.
Now if she gets all pissy and says, "I cannot believe you got over me so easily," don't take offense.
Just let her know, "I loved you so much, wanted you back, but I had to put it aside so I could not force you to do anything.
So if you want to come back, I'm here for you, but don't cop the attitude I don't want to be with you.
It was you that made the decision, and I'm ready to take you back, if you're willing to accept me."
Sometimes women are immature, and you just have to not give into their immaturity.
If you show and return maturity, then either they will notice, or they will be in their "own little world" and you might be better off without them.
In any case, don't react, just be yourself, deal with the loss, don't believe it may happen again, and only worry about it if it actually does.
Sometimes women fuck with men (as vice-versa), and it's sometimes best to get off the roller coaster, at least for a little while.
And the bigger question is, how are you going to deal with it?
The best way to deal with it is, "I want you to be happy, even if that's not with me."
As I've stated many times, sometimes that may not impress her, but it may impress the woman around you.
I dated many friends of ex-girlfriends who were either immature, or were mature and didn't realize what they had with me.
I know you want her, and I know it was a very long relationship, but at some point, you have to realize it only works when both want it.
If you can master that, you can master relationships, even if you get fucked over.
Best of luck.
Dude, she broke up with you, which means you're not boyfriend-girlfriend any more.
That means you shouldn't "freak out" if she's moving on, and just deal with yourself, not worry about her.
When you were together, who's happiness was most important? Hers, right?
Now that you are not together, who's happiness is most important when it comes to her? Hers still!
You need to do the same with regards to yourself as well, focus on your happiness.
But the key is to ensure it is independent of her because, again, she broke up with you.
I had many, many girlfriends in high school dump me, and often go into another relationship way too early.
In many cases, she slept with the guy when she didn't, and he either didn't want her any more, or expected it all-the-time.
Then when my ex-girlfriends came running back to me, and wanting me to "feel sorry for them," they got the smack of truth.
"Don't tell me about your immaturity and indecision. Tell me you either want me, or you really wanted to move on."
Most of the time I was already with someone else, and I wasn't about to be immature and cheat on my new girlfriend with my old.
This is what it's all about dude, learning what you can live with.
It's hard to give 2+ years with someone up, but sometimes, it's for the best.
And if not, then you will eventually get back with her, just let it be her choice too, not just only yours.
She's probably taking a mature approach to her life, realizing that a relationship is not in her best interest right now.
She just broke up with you, so she's not going to go right into another one.
If she does, then that's on her, and she'll deserve any pain she gets if she can't handle it.
I.e., if her new boyfriend pressured her into being with him, don't get mad, just ignore it, it's not your concern.
This is a good attitude.
Be friend with her, but leave it as friends, don't assume any more.
And this started as a good attitude, but then turned into a possible bad attitude.
"Given her space and time."
Did she really want that or does she not want to be with you as a boyfriend now?
If she does not want to be with you, no amount of "space and time" makes any difference.
Just leave it be, don't assume any more, I know it's hard as fuck, but it's no longer love and jealousy, it's now desire and envy.
That's a really bad combo if she doesn't want to be with you any more than a friend.
Don't think about it, don't ever bring it up, don't dwell on it at all.
If you let her think of it first, her wonder what she missed, then she may come back.
But you have to be ready for her not to feel that at all, and get past it.
Now if she gets all pissy and says, "I cannot believe you got over me so easily," don't take offense.
Just let her know, "I loved you so much, wanted you back, but I had to put it aside so I could not force you to do anything.
So if you want to come back, I'm here for you, but don't cop the attitude I don't want to be with you.
It was you that made the decision, and I'm ready to take you back, if you're willing to accept me."
Sometimes women are immature, and you just have to not give into their immaturity.
If you show and return maturity, then either they will notice, or they will be in their "own little world" and you might be better off without them.
In any case, don't react, just be yourself, deal with the loss, don't believe it may happen again, and only worry about it if it actually does.
Sometimes women fuck with men (as vice-versa), and it's sometimes best to get off the roller coaster, at least for a little while.
Dude, I know you don't. The reality is, she may.
And the bigger question is, how are you going to deal with it?
The best way to deal with it is, "I want you to be happy, even if that's not with me."
As I've stated many times, sometimes that may not impress her, but it may impress the woman around you.
I dated many friends of ex-girlfriends who were either immature, or were mature and didn't realize what they had with me.
I know you want her, and I know it was a very long relationship, but at some point, you have to realize it only works when both want it.
If you can master that, you can master relationships, even if you get fucked over.
Best of luck.
