Need some ex-girlfriend advice

[No_Man]

I want to give you more advice... advice that you don't want to hear. But I can see exactly where you are emotionally and I can see the giant train wreck that's coming regardless of what anybody tells you. And, frankly, that's bringing back some pretty bad memories...

So go get her. Be her knight in shining armor. And God help you both.

 

[mongo18]

Chicks always tell you that they want to be single for a while and that they're not ready for a relationship. Usually that's a good guarantee that they have somebody else already lined up.
One of the greatest parts of a breakup, especially one you didn't want, is eventually coming to the realization that the girl you still love is sucking somebody else's dick. It's a sweet feeling, similar to being kicked in the guts by a steel toe boot, and that's right about where you are now. Sorry, it's just something you'll have to learn.

 

[ChefChiTown]

Chicks always tell you that they want to be single for a while and that they're not ready for a relationship. Usually that's a good guarantee that they have somebody else already lined up.

Yup. You uh...you nailed it.

One of the greatest parts of a breakup, especially one you didn't want, is eventually coming to the realization that the girl you still love is sucking somebody else's dick. It's a sweet feeling, similar to being kicked in the guts by a steel toe boot, and that's right about where you are now. Sorry, it's just something you'll have to learn.

That is the best feeling in the world. I get hard just thinking about it. Wait, or does it make me want to jump off the top of my apartment building? I forget. :dunno:

 

[carl72]

Some great advice here.

I am really impressed.


Not one person has told him to go and try again with this girl except for the guy who is predicting you are going to go ahead and do it anyway.


I used to be our guy and I got beat around a couple times until I learned.

The turning point for me was when I started having a rotation of a few women at once. It gave me confidence that I could cut something off at any time if it didn't suit me.

I say that if every guy had that ability and the confidence that went with it, there would be a lot fewer girls playing games like this girl is doing to our guy here.

Remember this about women if you take nothing else from this:

No matter how hot they might be, take them on solely on their deeds. Just because you enjoy putting your penis in them doesn't make them good people. They are just people, no better or worse than anyone else who behaves the same way.

It is amazing to me how I see guys all the time who talk up all the great qualities of this girl or that girl and when you meet her you can totally tell he is snowing himself. She is attractive, so they automatically get a personality and cool factor they really don't have. Not to mention free dinners and gifts. We put up with way more shit from a looker than an plain jane.


Don't fall into that trap with this one or any of them.

You want them trying to prove themselves to you. I hate to say it, but it is the reality of American women that this is the attitude to keep this stuff from happening.


My solution: Women from other countries, especially Latin America.

It is so much better and sane.

 

[Boobinator]

put poo in her mailbox. that will make her confused!

 

[mongo18]

put poo in her mailbox. that will make her confused!

Quality advice!

 

[Will E Worm]

Last night, going out to the bars, I was in my buddy's car and we stop off at the cash machine. Well, guess who the fuck was on the other side of the road walking with a guy? Her, my ex. They weren't hanging off of each other and they looked like they were just talking, so I figure they're going to go down to one of the bars and have a drink (we're in college and she has class at 8AM and doesn't stay out late).

She's already been with him. She sounds desperate for affection her parents didn't give her, but that's not really an excuse.
It also sounds like she just used you for awhile.

She told me that she wasn't ready for a relationship

Why would you want to be with this girl or anyone who just wants to sleep around to "find" themselves?
She will get old and then she will realize she made bad choices in her life she can't erase. You're better off without someone like that.

 

[ChefChiTown]

Why would you want to be with this girl or anyone who just wants to sleep around to "find" themselves?
She will get old and then she will realize she made bad choices in her life she can't erase. You're better off without someone like that.

I agree 100%. :thumbsup:

Too many women (and men too) sleep around with as many people as they can and claim that they are trying to "find themselves", when, in all reality, they are just huge sluts who have absolutely no respect for themselves and want nothing more than to get their selfish rocks off.

Also, too many women (and men too) do this for a while until they reach their 30's. Then, and only then, do they finally realize how big of a fuck up they have been and immediately try to find the best and sweetest guy possible so they can "settle down". It isn't until they have fucked their life away (literally) that they realize what kind of guys they should've been dating in the first place. Ironically, they already had the guy they wanted, they just chose to be shallow, selfish and ridiculously superficial and leave him standing alone so they could go fuck a bunch of strangers.

Once they realize how truly alone they are, they'll run to the great guy that they had in their lives years ago, but, by then, it's way too late and he'll want nothing to do with her.

God, people are so fucking stupid. It's unbelievable, really.

 

[Will E Worm]

I agree 100%. :thumbsup:

God, people are so fucking stupid. It's unbelievable, really.

Thanks.

You can say that again.

Here's what might happen when you reveal your past to your current boyfriend or husband.

The Dave Chappelle Show - Real Sex

The craziest thing I ever did sexually? It would probably be having sex with old gangbang here without a rubber. Dave Chappelle

 

[Sherlock_Holmes]

:glugglug:

You are exactly right.

 

[Sherlock_Holmes]

I agree 100%. :thumbsup:

Too many women (and men too) sleep around with as many people as they can and claim that they are trying to "find themselves", when, in all reality, they are just huge sluts who have absolutely no respect for themselves and want nothing more than to get their selfish rocks off.

Also, too many women (and men too) do this for a while until they reach their 30's. Then, and only then, do they finally realize how big of a fuck up they have been and immediately try to find the best and sweetest guy possible so they can "settle down". It isn't until they have fucked their life away (literally) that they realize what kind of guys they should've been dating in the first place. Ironically, they already had the guy they wanted, they just chose to be shallow, selfish and ridiculously superficial and leave him standing alone so they could go fuck a bunch of strangers.

Once they realize how truly alone they are, they'll run to the great guy that they had in their lives years ago, but, by then, it's way too late and he'll want nothing to do with her.

God, people are so fucking stupid. It's unbelievable, really.

What a great post and you it's very true, this is more the norm than not sadly.

 

[ToastedOats]

What if she truly is still trying to make up her mind and this guy was offering advice?

Obviously you guys recognize the fact that I want her. I want her to come to me, is waiting the only thing I can do? I feel pretty helpless if that's all I can do. I realize its her that has to do the deciding, but is it OK/appropriate to ask her if she's decided anything or would that push her further away?

I don't want to rush her, but I don't like how she was with this other guy the other night. I want to know what she's thinking and feeling.

 

[Baill Inneraora]

Alcohol and a night at a strip club will get you over her.

(Yes, for those keeping score at home, I realize that is my solution to a lot of things)

 

[ChefChiTown]

What if she truly is still trying to make up her mind and this guy was offering advice?

Her mind is already made up and any "advice" that she is getting from this guy is completely pointless, as she already knows what she has decided to do with her life (in this moment).

Too many people use the excuse of "I'm trying to find myself" and too many people are blind to the reality of the situation. She already knows exactly who she is and she already knows exactly what she wants. Right now, she wants to be with other dudes and not you. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but it's the truth.

Obviously you guys recognize the fact that I want her. I want her to come to me, is waiting the only thing I can do? I feel pretty helpless if that's all I can do. I realize its her that has to do the deciding, but is it OK/appropriate to ask her if she's decided anything or would that push her further away?

Welcome to manhood. It's fun, ain't it?

I would avoid asking her if she's made up her mind. All it's going to do is two things...

1) It's going to make you seem desperate and impatient, which is not an attractive quality
2) She'll tell you the truth and it will be something you don't want to hear

I don't want to rush her, but I don't like how she was with this other guy the other night. I want to know what she's thinking and feeling.

No you don't. If you knew what she was thinking and feeling it would devastate you. Just do your best to forget about it. Obviously, it's a hell of a lot easier said than done...but you need to do it.

 

[Torre82]

Alcohol and a night at a strip club will get you over her.

(Yes, for those keeping score at home, I realize that is my solution to a lot of things)

At least one of those is pretty cheap. For comedic effect I'll leave the reader to decide which. lol

 

[Facetious]

I don't want her to say that she's completely done with me.

"Completely ?"

Do you want a grudge fuc% out of the deal ? Forget it dude ! Remaining on "stand by" will only prolong your suffering. I've been there a bunch of times and I have tons of buddies that have been there, I've seen it, I've lived it . . cut it off ! Cut out the secretive - stealthy stalking games, as well (I've been there too !), it's only going to prolong your agony.

I'd suggest that you no longer field calls from her, she's just gonna f$#k with your head !
I know that it's difficult to find your ex with another guy but you must understand that women don't need recovery time like guys do, they rebound just like you were never in their life to begin with ! They're just made that way and you can't do a thing about it.

When you meet a new lady, just keep in mind that she might ditch you for something better . . . or worse, for that matter ! Maybe you'll find her suckin' face with her hott g/f. :dunno:
Always cushion the "potential fall" (break up) by never loving her 100 percentile. Program your brain to only love her 90 %. Now, don't turn into a suspicious arse hole, just don't invest all of you emotions next time.


Here's a couple of 1 to 2 minute length videos that reveal what happens when you try to rescue a break up.

1 (RIP)

2

3

queries ?

 

[Becks...poamr]

Remember this: Women simply don't care.

Neither do men.

I guess it's all about one's experiences, don't you think?

 

[ToastedOats]

Her mind is already made up and any "advice" that she is getting from this guy is completely pointless, as she already knows what she has decided to do with her life (in this moment).

Too many people use the excuse of "I'm trying to find myself" and too many people are blind to the reality of the situation. She already knows exactly who she is and she already knows exactly what she wants. Right now, she wants to be with other dudes and not you. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but it's the truth.



Welcome to manhood. It's fun, ain't it?

I would avoid asking her if she's made up her mind. All it's going to do is two things...

1) It's going to make you seem desperate and impatient, which is not an attractive quality
2) She'll tell you the truth and it will be something you don't want to hear



No you don't. If you knew what she was thinking and feeling it would devastate you. Just do your best to forget about it. Obviously, it's a hell of a lot easier said than done...but you need to do it.

Fuck. I know her mind was made up at the moment, I just hope she starts to have second thoughts as far as that's concerned.

As far as asking her, I will leave that to her to let me know and go along with my own life as you're right, it will only push her further away and then make her think I'm impatient, needy, desperate, wrapped around her finger, weak, etc. I think by showing her and everyone else that I am moving on, I can show that I am a strong person and don't need anyone, just that I want someone to spend my time with. I've my eye on a girl in my history class...:thumbsup:

We both know a couple who broke up for a while and ended up getting back together, so while I shouldn't hold my breath about it, it actually happens and my ex said she wants to be like them and she gets a lot of her advice from the girl of that couple. Not much, but its proof that not all ends are permanent.

Thanks for the advice. I don't mean to refute everything said. I haven't gone through as much, so I have less that I'm going off of and appreciate your guys' wisdom.:thumbsup:

 

[LBP 76]

My life became SO much simpler and less stressful when I learned to just be myself and say what I think in social situations.

 

[Choronzon]

I could actually use a girlfriend, been single for a number of years now.

Send your applications, girls.