The Official Harley Spencer Discussion Thread! (AMA)

[Harley Spencer]

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sounds like a solid philosophy to me

I think so too!

Well, you're still looking at potential dietary issues (including low body weight, and possibly vitamin deficiencies) and also the smoking. Beyond that, your general inability to orgasm with most men would be a contributing factor, as women tend to be more likely to become pregnant if they cum, since the mouth of the cervix will dip down during orgasm. Beyond that, even fertile people trying to conceive can require a lot of attempts before it happens. So I wouldn't be overly concerned until a doctor has confirmed something one way or the other, and as said, there's adoption even then.

You know... I'm starting to think I know way too much about this shit...

Weight and dietary issues can't be the case. My little cousin who is like 5'9" or some shit is skinnier than a string bean, ate the poorest meals all throughout her life (usually- I mean when I'd visit, there'd be nothing but condiments, a jug of milk, a loaf of bread with nothing to eat the bread with, and beer in the house), smoked cigarettes and pot, did all sorts of drugs, and somehow managed to get pregnant (had the baby less than a year ago).

And while I know the smoking does have an effect, that can't entirely be the case either because I haven't always been a smoker. I started smoking when I was 17, and I started having sex when i was 14. So that's 3 years of regular sex that was often unprotected when I wasn't a smoker.

I didn't know that my orgasms had anything to do with it. I do cum now during sex, enough times that I lost count. But it's not very often. Either way, with that logic we'd have to orgasm at the same time which is just like.... freaking impossible in my mind. I still have a tough time with it, it's a miracle when it does happen, but to have a simultaneous orgasm? Pffft! Yeah right.
Though then again I didn't think I'd ever like girl on top, let alone reach orgasm from it, and now it's my favorite position and I have more orgasms on top than during missionary. There's only been 2ce total in missionary with my boyfriend.

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

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Weight and dietary issues can't be the case. My little cousin who is like 5'9" or some shit is skinnier than a string bean, ate the poorest meals all throughout her life (usually- I mean when I'd visit, there'd be nothing but condiments, a jug of milk, a loaf of bread with nothing to eat the bread with, and beer in the house), smoked cigarettes and pot, did all sorts of drugs, and somehow managed to get pregnant (had the baby less than a year ago).

And while I know the smoking does have an effect, that can't entirely be the case either because I haven't always been a smoker. I started smoking when I was 17, and I started having sex when i was 14. So that's 3 years of regular sex that was often unprotected when I wasn't a smoker.

You're looking at mitigating factors. It's not "this works/this doesn't" it's "this will make it more likely/this will make it less likely". It's still always a game of chance.

I didn't know that my orgasms had anything to do with it. I do cum now during sex, enough times that I lost count. But it's not very often. Either way, with that logic we'd have to orgasm at the same time which is just like.... freaking impossible in my mind. I still have a tough time with it, it's a miracle when it does happen, but to have a simultaneous orgasm? Pffft! Yeah right.
Though then again I didn't think I'd ever like girl on top, let alone reach orgasm from it, and now it's my favorite position and I have more orgasms on top than during missionary. There's only been 2ce total in missionary with my boyfriend.

Orgasms definitely factor, and they don't have to be simultaneous. Ideally he should cum first, this way the semen has a chance to pool, and the cervix can dip down into it (sperm can live for up to a week inside a woman, so yeah, it doesn't have to be simultaneous). And positions will help. Missionary is best (or anything with you on your back), preferably with a pillow underneath to raise your butt.

 

[eric2136]

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Damn ! how'd I miss these !?! ...SUPERHOT and I LOVE them :drool2: !!!

Harley Spencer[/URL][/B], post: 7625721, member: 579739"]New picture time! Wearing and stuffing my tiny micro blue string bikini. One of the most awkward things to wear, but I know you guys like it

 

[Harley Spencer]

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You're looking at mitigating factors. It's not "this works/this doesn't" it's "this will make it more likely/this will make it less likely". It's still always a game of chance.



Orgasms definitely factor, and they don't have to be simultaneous. Ideally he should cum first, this way the semen has a chance to pool, and the cervix can dip down into it (sperm can live for up to a week inside a woman, so yeah, it doesn't have to be simultaneous). And positions will help. Missionary is best (or anything with you on your back), preferably with a pillow underneath to raise your butt.

But if the man cums first, how am I supposed to cum?

Damn ! how'd I miss these !?! ...SUPERHOT and I LOVE them :drool2: !!!

Thanks I'm glad you like them!

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

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Harley Spencer[/URL][/B], post: 7626280, member: 579739"]But if the man cums first, how am I supposed to cum?

Smack him in the head and tell him to keep going?

Alternately there's vibrators, oral, fingers, round two, any number of things...

 

[Vanilla Bear]

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Harley Spencer[/URL][/B], post: 7626280, member: 579739"]But if the man cums first, how am I supposed to cum?

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

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Harley Spencer[/URL][/B], post: 7626280, member: 579739"]But if the man cums first, how am I supposed to cum?

That particular brand of smiley is not really applicable here. If you pay attention to her posts or read her journal you'd know that Harley find it incredibly difficult to orgasm under most circumstances. In fact, most of the methods I listed probably wouldn't even work for her sadly.

 

[Harley Spencer]

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Smack him in the head and tell him to keep going?

Alternately there's vibrators, oral, fingers, round two, any number of things...

Vibrator, yes! Round two, maybe. Oral or fingers probably wouldn't work, as it never has yet.

Don't imply that you think I'm stupid or some shit because of the question I asked. I knew perfectly well how I could cum, but there's a lot of background information that you're ignoring, and basically the question I asked was rhetorical.

Seriously, every now and then you post something half decent, but the majority of your posts are not nice, so.... think about that.

EDIT: Scratch that. Many of your posts are nice, at least they used to be, but as of late (like, the past few months or so), your posts toward me and some other OCSMs on here are rather negative, with you throwing in a compliment or two to make it seem like you're being nice but really it's an insult in disguise. If that's not what you intend your posts to be, I might suggest thinking before you post.

That particular brand of smiley is not really applicable here. If you pay attention to her posts or read her journal you'd know that Harley find it incredibly difficult to orgasm under most circumstances. In fact, most of the methods I listed probably wouldn't even work for her sadly.

Exactly.

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

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Vibrator, yes! Round two, maybe. Oral or fingers probably wouldn't work, as it never has yet.

Well, on top is now working for you now (at least on occasion) when it didn't used to. That could potentially means that everything is open to change.

Honestly I wonder how much of your issue here is psychological. You seem to be overly worried about how you're perceived, and you have trust issues. You've also said that you doubt that men are, in fact, looking to pleasure you. The two acts singled out as never working are, when you think about it, the two that would be entirely about the man being there for your pleasure. Which makes me wonder whether when a guy is performing them whether you're worrying that his heart is in it. Whether he's enjoying it or not. Whether he's just biding time and will be there until you finish. You've said that your current guy is very giving in bed. Perhaps this aspect of him makes you comfortable, since you're more likely to accept that he's worried about your pleasure, and thus more prone to relax and accept that he will put in the time and effort to make it happen. As a result, You Might be less worried about whether or not it will happen, thus in turn making it more likely to happen.

Just a thought. I'm probably entirely off base... :dunno:

Seriously, every now and then you post something half decent, but the majority of your posts are not nice, so.... think about that.

EDIT: Scratch that. Many of your posts are nice, at least they used to be, but as of late (like, the past few months or so), your posts toward me and some other OCSMs on here are rather negative, with you throwing in a compliment or two to make it seem like you're being nice but really it's an insult in disguise. If that's not what you intend your posts to be, I might suggest thinking before you post.

Yes. M12 and I have had words about this before.

 

[Harley Spencer]

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Well, on top is now working for you now (at least on occasion) when it didn't used to. That could potentially means that everything is open to change.

Honestly I wonder how much of your issue here is psychological. You seem to be overly worried about how you're perceived, and you have trust issues. You've also said that you doubt that men are, in fact, looking to pleasure you. The two acts singled out as never working are, when you think about it, the two that would be entirely about the man being there for your pleasure. Which makes me wonder whether when a guy is performing them whether you're worrying that his heart is in it. Whether he's enjoying it or not. Whether he's just biding time and will be there until you finish. You've said that your current guy is very giving in bed. Perhaps this aspect of him makes you comfortable, since you're more likely to accept that he's worried about your pleasure, and thus more prone to relax and accept that he will put in the time and effort to make it happen. As a result, You Might be less worried about whether or not it will happen, thus in turn making it more likely to happen.

Just a thought. I'm probably entirely off base... :dunno:



Yes. M12 and I have had words about this before.

You Might be right. Everything you said makes complete sense. I know a lot of it is psychological, but some of it is physical too. The thing with me for getting off is that I like consistency- I get into a rhythm that feels great and I need to keep doing that to cum, absolutely no changes in speed, angle, depth, or pressure. With fingers and oral, I have no control over that unless I were to legit grab his mouth or fingers and move it myself, which I don't think would be very fun. Well fingers would be ok, but I may as well do that myself if that's what's gonna go down. Grabbing his mouth would just be hysterical to me, I couldn't take that seriously. Of course I could also sit on his face if I really wanted control, but I've slept with girls who did that with me (they sat on my face) and I hated it. That is not comfortable. So... I'll stick with regular sex and vibrators

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

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You might be right. Everything you said makes complete sense. I know a lot of it is psychological, but some of it is physical too. The thing with me for getting off is that I like consistency- I get into a rhythm that feels great and I need to keep doing that to cum, absolutely no changes in speed, angle, depth, or pressure. With fingers and oral, I have no control over that unless I were to legit grab his mouth or fingers and move it myself, which I don't think would be very fun. Well fingers would be ok, but I may as well do that myself if that's what's gonna go down. Grabbing his mouth would just be hysterical to me, I couldn't take that seriously.

Well, consistency shouldn't be too great an issue if the guy is aware of it. Have you discussed this frankly with the men you've been with and made it very clear that you need this?

Of course I could also sit on his face if I really wanted control, but I've slept with girls who did that with me (they sat on my face) and I hated it. That is not comfortable. So... I'll stick with regular sex and vibrators

Well, what might not be comfortable for you, isn't necessarily the same way for everyone else. I mean, obviously the position she takes up matters, but I've never had too big an issue getting comfortable with a woman mounting my face.

 

[larss]

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Harley Spencer[/URL][/B], post: 7625721, member: 579739"]New picture time! Wearing and stuffing my tiny micro blue string bikini. One of the most awkward things to wear, but I know you guys like it

Thank you, Harley.

Thank you, very much indeed.

I am suitably aroused.

 

[Mr_Stiffy]

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The thing with me for getting off is that I like consistency- I get into a rhythm that feels great and I need to keep doing that to cum, absolutely no changes in speed, angle, depth, or pressure. With fingers and oral, I have no control over that unless I were to legit grab his mouth or fingers and move it myself, which I don't think would be very fun.

I know Happy has just said as much, but talk to your man. I would hope most guys who want their lady to reach orgasm do so because they want the lady to have that exquisite pleasure and not just to satisfy ego or in hope of receiving similar treatment in return, and if that requires a little blunt conversation, they'd be more than happy to engage in it rather than know you weren't being 100% fulfilled. During the act itself, you'd be amazed at how far a "just like that" or "don't stop" goes. I recently had the pleasure of going down on a lady of some experience (in her early 40s) and I was blown away at the confidence and knowing what she liked to the point where she was telling me what to do and how, and for how long. I was a little worried myself that I wouldn't be able to push her buttons given the difference in experience (I'm a novice by comparison) but she helped me please her so we had an equally enjoyable experience. Having said that, what Happy says about the back-brain element of "is his heart in this" is a big factor too. The biggest compliment I got was "what made it great is you ate it like you loved it" - which was true.

It sounds to me as though you might have had enough good sex to know certain feelings where you think "if I have enough of this for long enough, I'll orgasm" - get this across to your bloke and you're golden. In fact, I can't think of anything better to hear than "just like that" or "keep doing that" when engaged in an act purely for lady's pleasure. It makes me want to keep doing it until the end of time.

Sorry to stick an oar in if it's not welcome. Hey..... sticking an oar in, have you tried that? <jk>

 

[Harley Spencer]

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Well, consistency shouldn't be too great an issue if the guy is aware of it. Have you discussed this frankly with the men you've been with and made it very clear that you need this?

Well, what might not be comfortable for you, isn't necessarily the same way for everyone else. I mean, obviously the position she takes up matters, but I've never had too big an issue getting comfortable with a woman mounting my face.

Yep he knows, we've talked about it a number of times.
Sadly, he's not young anymore. By age 59, you start to develop some libido problems, like soft erections, stamina issues, and trouble maintaining an erection. I know he's into the sex so I don't take it personally at all, it's not something he has control over. So what I mean by this is that sometimes I can't always have total consistency because even when I get into a rhythm, he loses his erection sometimes in which case I'm riding him while he's soft, which isn't easy to do, so we stop and do other stuff until he gets hard again.

As for going down on me or using fingers, it's hard for me to explain what it is that I need. The thing with other girls who get off that way is that they like the wetness and the soft tongue. That doesn't seem to do it for me. As for fingers... well I've only been able to get myself off with my own fingers a few times (maybe like 3 times, ever), so I can't imagine it's going to be any easier with someone else's hands.

But hey I don't think it's the end of the world if I can't cum while being eaten out! That's not such a bad thing at all. Means more action for the guy, right?

Thank you, Harley.

Thank you, very much indeed.

I am suitably aroused.

You're welcome, Larss.

That emoticon is interesting, I don't think I've ever seen that one before.

I know Happy has just said as much, but talk to your man. I would hope most guys who want their lady to reach orgasm do so because they want the lady to have that exquisite pleasure and not just to satisfy ego or in hope of receiving similar treatment in return, and if that requires a little blunt conversation, they'd be more than happy to engage in it rather than know you weren't being 100% fulfilled. During the act itself, you'd be amazed at how far a "just like that" or "don't stop" goes. I recently had the pleasure of going down on a lady of some experience (in her early 40s) and I was blown away at the confidence and knowing what she liked to the point where she was telling me what to do and how, and for how long. I was a little worried myself that I wouldn't be able to push her buttons given the difference in experience (I'm a novice by comparison) but she helped me please her so we had an equally enjoyable experience. Having said that, what Happy says about the back-brain element of "is his heart in this" is a big factor too. The biggest compliment I got was "what made it great is you ate it like you loved it" - which was true.

It sounds to me as though you might have had enough good sex to know certain feelings where you think "if I have enough of this for long enough, I'll orgasm" - get this across to your bloke and you're golden. In fact, I can't think of anything better to hear than "just like that" or "keep doing that" when engaged in an act purely for lady's pleasure. It makes me want to keep doing it until the end of time.

Sorry to stick an oar in if it's not welcome. Hey..... sticking an oar in, have you tried that? <jk>

You're fine I'm more than happy to have actual discussions in my thread rather than the typical banter of posting photos for everyone to drool over

I know my guy's heart is in, so there's no issue there. I can tell just by his reactions when he goes down on me and whatnot. He gets hard, very heavy breathing and sometimes moaning himself, and even gets wet.

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

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Yep he knows, we've talked about it a number of times.
Sadly, he's not young anymore. By age 59, you start to develop some libido problems, like soft erections, stamina issues, and trouble maintaining an erection. I know he's into the sex so I don't take it personally at all, it's not something he has control over. So what I mean by this is that sometimes I can't always have total consistency because even when I get into a rhythm, he loses his erection sometimes in which case I'm riding him while he's soft, which isn't easy to do, so we stop and do other stuff until he gets hard again.

Viagra. Even when it's not needed, it's fun recreationally. :thumbsup:

As for going down on me or using fingers, it's hard for me to explain what it is that I need. The thing with other girls who get off that way is that they like the wetness and the soft tongue. That doesn't seem to do it for me. As for fingers... well I've only been able to get myself off with my own fingers a few times (maybe like 3 times, ever), so I can't imagine it's going to be any easier with someone else's hands.

Out of curiosity, what approach is being taken here? Like, from what angle specifically? Ideally attempting to withdraw the clitoral hood as far as possible and stimulate the uppermost portion of the clit is what should be aimed for. Since that's where it's most protected, it's also where it's most sensitive since it tends to see the least amount of friction day-to-day. So if that's not where the majority of the attention is being applied, you might want to consider that.

But hey I don't think it's the end of the world if I can't cum while being eaten out! That's not such a bad thing at all. Means more action for the guy, right?

Guys are easy though, so that's not an issue. This should be one of the more reliable ways for you to receive pleasure, and a method that wouldn't rely on a guy's sexual stamina, and if there's occasional ED issues popping up that's even more important.

You're fine I'm more than happy to have actual discussions in my thread rather than the typical banter of posting photos for everyone to drool over

Which is one of the things that makes you as cool as you are. You're actually interactive.

It's also probably the only reason I haven't been kicked out of the thread yet!

 

[ApolloBalboa]

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Which is one of the things that makes you as cool as you are. You're actually interactive.

It's also probably the only reason I haven't been kicked out of the thread yet!

Yeah, but you're bogarting the damn thing, how am I supposed to get Harley's attention with you here?

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

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Yeah, but you're bogarting the damn thing, how am I supposed to get Harley's attention with you here?

:o .... sorry?

 

[Harley Spencer]

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Yeah, but you're bogarting the damn thing, how am I supposed to get Harley's attention with you here?

Just like that. I'll talk to anyone so long as they actually have something to say other than, "Hey."

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

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Harley Spencer[/URL][/B], post: 7628845, member: 579739"]Just like that. I'll talk to anyone so long as they actually have something to say other than, "Hey."

But "Hey." is my best line! :weeping:

 

[jitna]

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does "howdy" work better?