monkeyspanky45
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Just curious about your opinions
Should a pornstar or former one tell their significant other about what they do or did?
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Little Red Wagon Repairman
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The poor clueless fella needs to know why so many people are laughing and pointing so I say "yes".
Aaliyah Love
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Well they're currently still performing, yes, of course, a relationship should be full disclosure.
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Well they're currently still performing, yes, of course, a relationship should be full disclosure.
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Well they're currently still performing, yes, of course, a relationship should be full disclosure.
Yes. If you try to hide something like that from someone you claim to care about, you are a scumbag.
Little Red Wagon Repairman
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If she had stopped but did it for years wouldn't it make things easier for her to tell him instead of risking him finding out on his own in his own way? Seems getting in front of the issue gives the lady more control of how she is perceived. Wouldn't want to be accosted by some sweaty pervert at the grocery store who has no sense of appropriateness.
Of course. They're gonna find out one way or another. If a woman was still active, that's clearly cheating. And if it was something she did years ago, that could lead to all kinds of problems if it was kept secret.
Besides, some might like it. If my girl told me that there was a a bunch of porn out there that she did before she met me, I'd want to see every second of it.
Besides, some might like it. If my girl told me that there was a a bunch of porn out there that she did before she met me, I'd want to see every second of it.
Aaliyah Love
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well I think all relationships should be full disclosure for the simple fact that honesty is always the best policy.. and why would you want to be with someone who doesnt accept ALL of you anyways? Not sure what that has to do with getting sexually harrassed at the grocery store, tho.. you lost me there? lol
Little Red Wagon Repairman
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I wasn't referring to you as the one being harassed. I meant it would be nice to avoid the boyfriend finding out from a run-in with his gal's "#1 Fan".
Since you believe in being honest you avoid that awkward situation. I think it would be good for others to follow that example also realizing in the long run it works out best for them too.
interesting question
It would be up to her if she wants to tell me. I mean if you're dating a women not in the industry, should she disclose all the men she slept with before you?
As for me, I don't care if she was in the business or if she was a normal turbo slut. Somethings are best left unsaid, but if you must know how many cocks she sucked, it seriously isn't any of your business.
It would be up to her if she wants to tell me. I mean if you're dating a women not in the industry, should she disclose all the men she slept with before you?
As for me, I don't care if she was in the business or if she was a normal turbo slut. Somethings are best left unsaid, but if you must know how many cocks she sucked, it seriously isn't any of your business.
I agree here. What she did before we met is 100% her business and I don't care because she wasn't with me. I would like to know she was in Porn just so I don't find out on my own and be stunned by it. Not sure if I would want to see any of her work but I would like to know just so nothing comes up later than would stun me.
John_8581
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monkeyspanky45
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I've read that many men lives have been ruined once they're wife or girlfriend have been outed
Yes. Because its not the same as merely having slept around. It has been made public. And it therefore becomes the significant other's business.
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Yes. Because its not the same as merely having slept around. It has been made public. And it therefore becomes the significant other's business.
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Yes. Because its not the same as merely having slept around. It has been made public. And it therefore becomes the significant other's business.
Then they are weak and not real men. I couldn't be with someone who was in Porn now - I just can't and I admit it and it might be my loss but I just can't. I don't want to wake up next to her in bed, kiss her and tell her "I LOVE YOU" and hear it back and then go to the kitchen and have breakfast and when we leave for work I go in my casual/business outfit to the office and hear her say to me, "I love you, honey, I'll be home around 5 and we can have a romantic dinner but right now I am off to work to do a scene with Johnny Sins and then a DP Creampie with Keiran Lee and Johnny Castle. See you at 5 when I get home - Love you." I know there is a big difference between making love and having sex and women in the industry have sex even when it looks like they are making love - but I couldn't handle this
If she was in Porn for 5 years and then stopped and we met after she left the industry I am OK with it because what she did before we met is her business.............but once we start a relationship and BOTH say those 3 words she is mine and I am hers and not anyone else's. If we both agree to bring in someone for a 3-some OK - but we BOTH have to agree to it.
The simple answer for me is yes. Sooner or later that truth will come out. However this is one where I would want it to be said almost at the start. That's just my opinion though.
bobjustbob
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Okay folks, let's give this a little twist. Let's say you guys were or are porn stars. Lots of stuff of you masturbating on camera and having sex with other men and women in circulation. Are you really going to expect the same kind of understanding from the average woman to just accept it as just a job? Toss prostitution into the mix also. It's legal in some places and just another job like a plumber or lawyer.
No I would not expect them to handle it but at least they would have the choice to not deal. If they couldn't I'd know they were not the right one and wouldn't care to be with them. I have done jobs I don't care to tell people but does not have possible long reaching problems attached to them. Let's just forget the immediate ones of possible infections or disease. Let's go with the longer reaching ones of notability or perhaps the ability to not find new work because of previous jobs. Plus what about kids in the future. Do you tell them or let them find out/get harassed about it? See this is why you should know.
Also remember the old adage you don't really want to know your partners number of partners.
:2 cents: need some water now
Also remember the old adage you don't really want to know your partners number of partners.
:2 cents: need some water nowAbsolutely! Who the fuck cares? We ALL have skeletons in our closets and it it's true love , this shouldn't be a problem.
What about the guy wih slept with 50 women? Who the fuck cares. Just be honest.
Speaking from experience the answer is an overwhelming YES. First of all I want to know if I'm dealing with a hypocrite who watches it and jerks to it but judges the people in the videos. Secondly it gives you a bit of an upper hand because what man wouldn't be a little bit intimidated dating a porn star? It will make him step his game up sexually and it turns the tables....it's usually the girl who is the one self-conscience going into a relationship.
I have held off telling people that I am becoming friends with and it's gone both ways. Some were totally fine with it and thought it was interesting. I've also had judgmental assholes who like me and accept me until they find that out then they suddenly see me differently. So I used to just put it out there right away and then let it play out.
Best way to weed out the religious idiots and hypocrites.
I have held off telling people that I am becoming friends with and it's gone both ways. Some were totally fine with it and thought it was interesting. I've also had judgmental assholes who like me and accept me until they find that out then they suddenly see me differently. So I used to just put it out there right away and then let it play out.
Best way to weed out the religious idiots and hypocrites.
