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I may be the only guy one earth to be rejected by every girl
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Hey man. At least you're trying. I am terrible at talking to girls. I am quite awkward and get really nervous. Trying and getting rejected is better than not even trying at all.
Well, I got my Bachelor's in Psychology back in 2005 (ironic, I know). I didn't join any clubs while in college. I'll soon be a firefighter (if I pass training which starts real soon). I actually had a great childhood with my family. My parents were (and still are) together and loved me very much. However, my social life sucked something fierce. I never had any friends and got made fun of/beat up everyday during grade school and high school. I think it was because I was too timid, or because I loved "girly" stuff (as they loved to put it). That's the only reason I can think of, so my social skills never developed. I don't know if that answers your question, or not. I do have depression (diagnosis, pills and everything, but that's a long story), but I make every attempt not to show it to women.
And thanks for the advice, everyone. I really am grateful that you all responded to my thread.
I've been in that boat too so I know what you're going through.
Will E Worm
Conspiracy...
Well, I've been rejected too. Even the so-called Christian girls are as shallow and superficial as anyone. That's the truth.
Woman want the tall dark and handsome guy with money, or the guy who doesn't pay attention to them "bad" guy.
Women do it to themselves, then when their looks go they expect a decent man to be there for them.
:1orglaugh Think again.
Beauty is from within. Women and men need to stop being so superficial and shallow.
Remember what Ron White said. "Don't go for looks alone." Because you can't fix stupid."
Woman want the tall dark and handsome guy with money, or the guy who doesn't pay attention to them "bad" guy.
Women do it to themselves, then when their looks go they expect a decent man to be there for them.
:1orglaugh Think again.
Beauty is from within. Women and men need to stop being so superficial and shallow.
Remember what Ron White said. "Don't go for looks alone." Because you can't fix stupid."
Well, here's your "problem"
That sounds like some sensitive horse shit right out of the Seventeen first date manual.
You sound too nice, and the girls you go out on dates with sound too nice also.
You need to find some sluts, get drunk with them and have some sex that you both subsequently regret.
That'll cure you real quick of the whole "nice" thing. From now on, when you ask her for her number and don't get it, say to her "okay, let's not let this whole evening go to waste, how 'bout some cheap sex and we'll never talk again?" After all, she's already shut you down so you got nothing to lose. And I guarantee you, one of them will eventually say yes. Or at the very least you'll shock her by saying that and she'll tell all her girlfriends about it. And of them will be the slutty type who just craves that kind of blunt straight forwardness (and no-strings-attached sex) and she'll come looking for you.
You've got nothing to lose.
That sounds like some sensitive horse shit right out of the Seventeen first date manual.
You sound too nice, and the girls you go out on dates with sound too nice also.
You need to find some sluts, get drunk with them and have some sex that you both subsequently regret.
That'll cure you real quick of the whole "nice" thing. From now on, when you ask her for her number and don't get it, say to her "okay, let's not let this whole evening go to waste, how 'bout some cheap sex and we'll never talk again?" After all, she's already shut you down so you got nothing to lose. And I guarantee you, one of them will eventually say yes. Or at the very least you'll shock her by saying that and she'll tell all her girlfriends about it. And of them will be the slutty type who just craves that kind of blunt straight forwardness (and no-strings-attached sex) and she'll come looking for you.
You've got nothing to lose.
Ok, I don't know where to begin so this may be an odd post, but maybe it will shed some light on some things for you.
1) When I was < 17 years old I had never kissed a girl and the guys at school always picked on me and I never did anything about it.
2) At around 17 years old I met a friend over the computer that liked to party a lot. He got me out drinking and doing drugs and all the stuff your not supposed to do. I had some fun, got some drunken sex once or twice with random girls after a party, etc. Stil couldn't get a girlfriend or anything steady to lay.
3) 18 Years old I got arrested. Spent a few days in jail, came out, cleaned up, got a real job. Finished my school. Shaved my head, pierced my ears with hoops, got a tattoo that was partially visible. Dated a few girls. Had my first girlfriend.
4) Around 20 years old I ended up building more confidence by about 5 times what I had before. Started dressing a little better. Started wearing new shoes instead of old ones. Went to clubs on Friday/Saturday night with my new low-rider truck with amps and a lot of bass. Female friends I would see around the club would flash their tits at me and a couple of times I got a blowjob from them in my truck.
5) 21 years old. Got engaged to this hot chick. Worked out well for a year. She cheated on me numerous times and took off. She was partying hard and I was tryingt o build a business with my friend and was backing off the partying. I let my hair grow out, etc. I got depressed.
6) 22-24 years old. Hardcore into computers. Got a normal car. Took my ear ring out. Had a lot of female friends but none of them really putting out. I became the NICE GUY that the girls wouldn't fuck but they loved to hang out or talk on the phone with me.
7) 25-27 years old. Made some money aruond 25. Bought a nice bought and a house. Decided I was sick of having this ugly girlfriend that I settled for. Got a tan, put my earring back in. Started going to clubs and events on the water. Drank my ass off. Banged smoking hot chicks at the same time on my boat. 6 months later banged two smoking hot chicks at my house (different ones) and made that swap my stuff (LOL!)
8) 28-31 years old. Calmed down a lot. Worked harder. Bought another house. Started dressing preppy. I was still getting laid, but I couldn't get a girlfriend and the girls weren't nearly as hot. Confidence dropped. Tan went away. Grew hair out. No earring again. Drove a BMW 740i. Got a great IT job.
9) 32-PRESENT (33 years old). I still have the IT job. I have three cars. An NSX, a titan, a BMW. I have a boat. A nice house on the lake. Got a smoking hot fiance that fucked like a porn star and let me do whatever I want. She had come out of a LONG / BAD relationship of abuse and I had just enough fun / badboy in me to keep her excited, but I was prep and different and a nice guy and she liked it. FOR A YEAR. She left me because I liked to look at porn sometimes - LOL! Jesus. She was REALLY INSECURE btw.
Now, I decided I'm not going to get depressed. I'm combining my nice guy / prep boy into the bad-boy. My drinking is moderate. My smoking is moderate. I've learned from these ups and downs that I have to have more confidence. When I see a woman I tell her how hot she is. I tell the girls at work I want to hook up with them. I get invited to the parties that most people at work never know about. Topless girls are everywhere. I get there single and leave with 3 phone numbers. I pick which girl to hook up with. Now I'm seeing 3-4 chicks at once. I'm dressing more club like. I bought a fat watch. I'm getting 2 tattoos this weekend at my friends shop. The girls are smoking hot! It's 2:39PM right now and Im at my desk. There are two girls here that I could send an e-mail too that would leave the office and bang me in my truck (LOL!) and the other two live 20-30 minutes away but I KNOW that if I called one right now, she would meet me at my house and lay the goods down. 2 out of 4 of these chicks REALLY want to be my girlfriend or get married too..
What's my point?
Be funny, look the best you can, put highlights in your hair, buy a fat watch, be confident, don't be a dork, drink alcohol on occasion (hell get drunk as fuck sometimes) and don't be afraid to bea bit of an asshole or a jerk. The girls like jerks that are harder to reach. Oh yeah, don't make yourself to easy, they like a challenge too. I've learned a lot in the past 15 years
From 15-18 I couldn't barely kiss a girl. And I can honestly tell you that EVERY GIRL that has dated me or become my "friend" during my high times has fucked me. The ones that knew me in my low/dorky times wouldn't do it, but as soon as I popped out and partied and became confident they were wide open for the taking
1) When I was < 17 years old I had never kissed a girl and the guys at school always picked on me and I never did anything about it.
2) At around 17 years old I met a friend over the computer that liked to party a lot. He got me out drinking and doing drugs and all the stuff your not supposed to do. I had some fun, got some drunken sex once or twice with random girls after a party, etc. Stil couldn't get a girlfriend or anything steady to lay.
3) 18 Years old I got arrested. Spent a few days in jail, came out, cleaned up, got a real job. Finished my school. Shaved my head, pierced my ears with hoops, got a tattoo that was partially visible. Dated a few girls. Had my first girlfriend.
4) Around 20 years old I ended up building more confidence by about 5 times what I had before. Started dressing a little better. Started wearing new shoes instead of old ones. Went to clubs on Friday/Saturday night with my new low-rider truck with amps and a lot of bass. Female friends I would see around the club would flash their tits at me and a couple of times I got a blowjob from them in my truck.
5) 21 years old. Got engaged to this hot chick. Worked out well for a year. She cheated on me numerous times and took off. She was partying hard and I was tryingt o build a business with my friend and was backing off the partying. I let my hair grow out, etc. I got depressed.
6) 22-24 years old. Hardcore into computers. Got a normal car. Took my ear ring out. Had a lot of female friends but none of them really putting out. I became the NICE GUY that the girls wouldn't fuck but they loved to hang out or talk on the phone with me.
7) 25-27 years old. Made some money aruond 25. Bought a nice bought and a house. Decided I was sick of having this ugly girlfriend that I settled for. Got a tan, put my earring back in. Started going to clubs and events on the water. Drank my ass off. Banged smoking hot chicks at the same time on my boat. 6 months later banged two smoking hot chicks at my house (different ones) and made that swap my stuff (LOL!)
8) 28-31 years old. Calmed down a lot. Worked harder. Bought another house. Started dressing preppy. I was still getting laid, but I couldn't get a girlfriend and the girls weren't nearly as hot. Confidence dropped. Tan went away. Grew hair out. No earring again. Drove a BMW 740i. Got a great IT job.
9) 32-PRESENT (33 years old). I still have the IT job. I have three cars. An NSX, a titan, a BMW. I have a boat. A nice house on the lake. Got a smoking hot fiance that fucked like a porn star and let me do whatever I want. She had come out of a LONG / BAD relationship of abuse and I had just enough fun / badboy in me to keep her excited, but I was prep and different and a nice guy and she liked it. FOR A YEAR. She left me because I liked to look at porn sometimes - LOL! Jesus. She was REALLY INSECURE btw.
Now, I decided I'm not going to get depressed. I'm combining my nice guy / prep boy into the bad-boy. My drinking is moderate. My smoking is moderate. I've learned from these ups and downs that I have to have more confidence. When I see a woman I tell her how hot she is. I tell the girls at work I want to hook up with them. I get invited to the parties that most people at work never know about. Topless girls are everywhere. I get there single and leave with 3 phone numbers. I pick which girl to hook up with. Now I'm seeing 3-4 chicks at once. I'm dressing more club like. I bought a fat watch. I'm getting 2 tattoos this weekend at my friends shop. The girls are smoking hot! It's 2:39PM right now and Im at my desk. There are two girls here that I could send an e-mail too that would leave the office and bang me in my truck (LOL!) and the other two live 20-30 minutes away but I KNOW that if I called one right now, she would meet me at my house and lay the goods down. 2 out of 4 of these chicks REALLY want to be my girlfriend or get married too..
What's my point?
Be funny, look the best you can, put highlights in your hair, buy a fat watch, be confident, don't be a dork, drink alcohol on occasion (hell get drunk as fuck sometimes) and don't be afraid to bea bit of an asshole or a jerk. The girls like jerks that are harder to reach. Oh yeah, don't make yourself to easy, they like a challenge too. I've learned a lot in the past 15 years
From 15-18 I couldn't barely kiss a girl. And I can honestly tell you that EVERY GIRL that has dated me or become my "friend" during my high times has fucked me. The ones that knew me in my low/dorky times wouldn't do it, but as soon as I popped out and partied and became confident they were wide open for the taking
Ok, I don't know where to begin so this may be an odd post, but maybe it will shed some light on some things for you.
1) When I was < 17 years old I had never kissed a girl and the guys at school always picked on me and I never did anything about it.
2) At around 17 years old I met a friend over the computer that liked to party a lot. He got me out drinking and doing drugs and all the stuff your not supposed to do. I had some fun, got some drunken sex once or twice with random girls after a party, etc. Stil couldn't get a girlfriend or anything steady to lay.
3) 18 Years old I got arrested. Spent a few days in jail, came out, cleaned up, got a real job. Finished my school. Shaved my head, pierced my ears with hoops, got a tattoo that was partially visible. Dated a few girls. Had my first girlfriend.
4) Around 20 years old I ended up building more confidence by about 5 times what I had before. Started dressing a little better. Started wearing new shoes instead of old ones. Went to clubs on Friday/Saturday night with my new low-rider truck with amps and a lot of bass. Female friends I would see around the club would flash their tits at me and a couple of times I got a blowjob from them in my truck.
5) 21 years old. Got engaged to this hot chick. Worked out well for a year. She cheated on me numerous times and took off. She was partying hard and I was tryingt o build a business with my friend and was backing off the partying. I let my hair grow out, etc. I got depressed.
6) 22-24 years old. Hardcore into computers. Got a normal car. Took my ear ring out. Had a lot of female friends but none of them really putting out. I became the NICE GUY that the girls wouldn't fuck but they loved to hang out or talk on the phone with me.
7) 25-27 years old. Made some money aruond 25. Bought a nice bought and a house. Decided I was sick of having this ugly girlfriend that I settled for. Got a tan, put my earring back in. Started going to clubs and events on the water. Drank my ass off. Banged smoking hot chicks at the same time on my boat. 6 months later banged two smoking hot chicks at my house (different ones) and made that swap my stuff (LOL!)
8) 28-31 years old. Calmed down a lot. Worked harder. Bought another house. Started dressing preppy. I was still getting laid, but I couldn't get a girlfriend and the girls weren't nearly as hot. Confidence dropped. Tan went away. Grew hair out. No earring again. Drove a BMW 740i. Got a great IT job.
9) 32-PRESENT (33 years old). I still have the IT job. I have three cars. An NSX, a titan, a BMW. I have a boat. A nice house on the lake. Got a smoking hot fiance that fucked like a porn star and let me do whatever I want. She had come out of a LONG / BAD relationship of abuse and I had just enough fun / badboy in me to keep her excited, but I was prep and different and a nice guy and she liked it. FOR A YEAR. She left me because I liked to look at porn sometimes - LOL! Jesus. She was REALLY INSECURE btw.
Now, I decided I'm not going to get depressed. I'm combining my nice guy / prep boy into the bad-boy. My drinking is moderate. My smoking is moderate. I've learned from these ups and downs that I have to have more confidence. When I see a woman I tell her how hot she is. I tell the girls at work I want to hook up with them. I get invited to the parties that most people at work never know about. Topless girls are everywhere. I get there single and leave with 3 phone numbers. I pick which girl to hook up with. Now I'm seeing 3-4 chicks at once. I'm dressing more club like. I bought a fat watch. I'm getting 2 tattoos this weekend at my friends shop. The girls are smoking hot! It's 2:39PM right now and Im at my desk. There are two girls here that I could send an e-mail too that would leave the office and bang me in my truck (LOL!) and the other two live 20-30 minutes away but I KNOW that if I called one right now, she would meet me at my house and lay the goods down. 2 out of 4 of these chicks REALLY want to be my girlfriend or get married too..
What's my point?
Be funny, look the best you can, put highlights in your hair, buy a fat watch, be confident, don't be a dork, drink alcohol on occasion (hell get drunk as fuck sometimes) and don't be afraid to bea bit of an asshole or a jerk. The girls like jerks that are harder to reach. Oh yeah, don't make yourself to easy, they like a challenge too. I've learned a lot in the past 15 years
From 15-18 I couldn't barely kiss a girl. And I can honestly tell you that EVERY GIRL that has dated me or become my "friend" during my high times has fucked me. The ones that knew me in my low/dorky times wouldn't do it, but as soon as I popped out and partied and became confident they were wide open for the taking
Wow, that's one hell of a story. I don't drink or smoke though, but kudos to you for finding such an awesome job.
Wtf L3ggy, what are you saying?
Get out and start practice A.S.A.P! The sooner you start the better. Call some girls you know and hear what they are up to for tomorrow, or for the weekend for that matter.
I saw liquidkaos post and I can tell you a little story about my life and how my best friend showed me that being a jerk and doing outrageous things make you king..
From the ages of 1-15 Supernerd, fat wore glasses, smart, video game playing on the weekend, wrestling watching, funny guy in class that was the friend of all the girls just not the boyfriend. At around 16 I got home schooled for a year came back for my senior. My best friend "Mr. Outgoing" with the cool rep from his older brother had become the man at the school. First day of school we showed up together and was his instant partner in crime. Instant trust to the scene with the cheerleaders and popular rich girls. Except I had no clue about girls and what to do with them or how to talk to them. At age 17 1st 2 months of Senior Year I learned from the master "Mr. Outgoing". We made fake ids went to bars out of town on Thursdays got drunk made out with girls who where 7 8 years older than us then went to school Friday. Never spoke about it until someone asked and we showed the pictures to 1 person, never said a word, by lunch time it was legendary. Everyone knew we could make fake ids, get beer, go to bars, and we never spoke a word about it, he let everyone else talk about how cool he was and always said no to anything they asked. Buy us beer, make us a fake id, can we go, NO. boys girls didn't matter it was NO. Friday football then after parties, Nope we didn't go we went to Bourbon Street got drunk got some pictures. Two months straight of weekends. I had girls I never met walk up to me in halls, "aren't you Ben's friend that goes to Bourbon Street on school nights", Yes I am. "your hot." Thanks.
Rest of Senior Year we acted like we were above everyone. And what did they do worship us. The more of jerks we acted, the more we said no we not going to that shitty party, not doing this or that, the more they wanted to hang out with us. The more girls would pass by and introduce themselves and ask what we were doing on the weekend. I walked the halls like I was a King. Girls hollered my name out I had never seen before and I ignored them and walked on. We nailed all the girls we wanted, and never said a word. Never bragged. Prom night do we take girls from school hell no. We go to hustler club tell 2 chicks of our plan they think its insane and are in, we pay two strippers to come. Almost get thrown out of the prom for the way they danced. Legends were made and most importantly attitude was born.
If you walk in a bar and think, act, walk, talk like a nerd your a nerd.
Get the attitude like no girl is good enough for you and she's lucky you even talking to her. Go on a date tell her its not going to work out. Don't buy girls drinks. Don't ask for their numbers. Thats what 99% of guys do. Be the 1%
From the ages of 1-15 Supernerd, fat wore glasses, smart, video game playing on the weekend, wrestling watching, funny guy in class that was the friend of all the girls just not the boyfriend. At around 16 I got home schooled for a year came back for my senior. My best friend "Mr. Outgoing" with the cool rep from his older brother had become the man at the school. First day of school we showed up together and was his instant partner in crime. Instant trust to the scene with the cheerleaders and popular rich girls. Except I had no clue about girls and what to do with them or how to talk to them. At age 17 1st 2 months of Senior Year I learned from the master "Mr. Outgoing". We made fake ids went to bars out of town on Thursdays got drunk made out with girls who where 7 8 years older than us then went to school Friday. Never spoke about it until someone asked and we showed the pictures to 1 person, never said a word, by lunch time it was legendary. Everyone knew we could make fake ids, get beer, go to bars, and we never spoke a word about it, he let everyone else talk about how cool he was and always said no to anything they asked. Buy us beer, make us a fake id, can we go, NO. boys girls didn't matter it was NO. Friday football then after parties, Nope we didn't go we went to Bourbon Street got drunk got some pictures. Two months straight of weekends. I had girls I never met walk up to me in halls, "aren't you Ben's friend that goes to Bourbon Street on school nights", Yes I am. "your hot." Thanks.
Rest of Senior Year we acted like we were above everyone. And what did they do worship us. The more of jerks we acted, the more we said no we not going to that shitty party, not doing this or that, the more they wanted to hang out with us. The more girls would pass by and introduce themselves and ask what we were doing on the weekend. I walked the halls like I was a King. Girls hollered my name out I had never seen before and I ignored them and walked on. We nailed all the girls we wanted, and never said a word. Never bragged. Prom night do we take girls from school hell no. We go to hustler club tell 2 chicks of our plan they think its insane and are in, we pay two strippers to come. Almost get thrown out of the prom for the way they danced. Legends were made and most importantly attitude was born.
If you walk in a bar and think, act, walk, talk like a nerd your a nerd.
Get the attitude like no girl is good enough for you and she's lucky you even talking to her. Go on a date tell her its not going to work out. Don't buy girls drinks. Don't ask for their numbers. Thats what 99% of guys do. Be the 1%
It's all about confidence. But you can't just create confidence out of nothing...
but what you can do is, find areas (other than women) in your life that you can be confident about, like, if you are very good at your job, or you are good at sports or very well-read. What I mean is, cultivate yourself so can be more proud about yourself. It isn't even necessarily about being good with tangible things or being smart or any of that, but it can help, the most important is learning to appreciate your life regardless of what others think or feel about you. Sort of like learning to love yourself, haha!! Don't have to turn into a narcissist either though, but women are not usually attracted to self-pitying men, that is a turn-off (I find it a turn-off in women myself).
Anyways, maybe if you are able to build confidence in yourself in other areas of your life that will help make you more confident in other areas, including women (I consider it a spill-over effect).
And if nothing really works, and you can afford it, you can always try seeing a therapist or something of that nature.
but what you can do is, find areas (other than women) in your life that you can be confident about, like, if you are very good at your job, or you are good at sports or very well-read. What I mean is, cultivate yourself so can be more proud about yourself. It isn't even necessarily about being good with tangible things or being smart or any of that, but it can help, the most important is learning to appreciate your life regardless of what others think or feel about you. Sort of like learning to love yourself, haha!! Don't have to turn into a narcissist either though, but women are not usually attracted to self-pitying men, that is a turn-off (I find it a turn-off in women myself).
Anyways, maybe if you are able to build confidence in yourself in other areas of your life that will help make you more confident in other areas, including women (I consider it a spill-over effect).
And if nothing really works, and you can afford it, you can always try seeing a therapist or something of that nature.
the dating game is just that. don't ask me no silly questions, I won't play no silly games. I don't take no shit off of nobody.
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