i feel betrayed and like a fool

[jasn88cubs]

I'm just curious, did she spend much on you for your birthday? Because that's a deal breaker.

over $100.00 dollars

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Sounds like you technically broke up but you still had feelings for her, and so when you found out she was sleeping with other guys it hurt. I can understand that. The thing is though, if you're broken up but kind of not broken up – at least according to you – she is going to be able to take advantage of that. Might be better just the other not talk to her or be a couple. Letting her hang out in between the two is feeding her indecisiveness and seeing other guys as well. I don't know all the details but based on my interpretation that is what I would say.

she still has feelings gor me. doesnt seem like it but even yesterday when i found out about the guys she told me she sees herself marrying me

 

[jasn88cubs]

Better than what? You broke up (I'm guessing she broke up with you, right?). You don't own her body, and once you two broke up you had no right to expect her to "remain true to you"... once you break up you're no longer in a relationship, monogamous or otherwise. So no, you don't deserve better. She doesn't owe you anything. She violated no trust. You broke up. So what if she said she still has some feelings for you. So what if she said she could see herself marrying you. Plenty of people have feelings for people they aren't in a relationship with, and sometimes those feelings are for people they've never been in a relationship with or are in a relationship with someone else. Feelings don't equate to a commitment. There was no commitment, that's what breaking up means, thus you shouldn't have been expecting her to be committed. If you wanted a commitment you should have made one and asked her out again. You either didn't in which case she owes you nothing and you deserve nothing from her in this respect, or you asked her and she said no, in which case she made things pretty clear.

Again: You broke up. That is the important part. Literally everything else is completely irrelevant. She didn't cheat as you weren't her boyfriend. You were her nothing, and you can't cheat on nothing.

It may be blunt, but you need to hear and accept this. She wasn't yours and you called her names because, despite not being yours, you got jealous. That's possessive, dickish behavior.

/RealityCheck

the more i read this, the more you are right

(puts tail between legs)

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

the more i read this, the more you are right

(puts tail between legs)

It's probably a good realization to come to.

If you care about her, you need to make some decisions. Like can you still be friends while you aren't together? If not, if jealousy is going to be a problem, than you need to walk away. If you can get over it, and put it behind you then you need to be just that; Her friend. That means no anger, and no judgement. You can still be jealous, that's natural, but you can't act on it. That will ruin everything.

If you want more than friendship than you need to make that commitment, or again walk away. You can't sit around in a not-a-relationship where the investment is questionable and obviously leads to hurt feelings. So if you want more you need to ask her out, and if she can't do that you need to figure out why, and if it's nothing you can fix... than there's nothing you can do, and trying to hold onto what you don't have is just going to hurt the both of you.

 

[mrdeiz]

you've got cheated. you're not the first one, nor the last one

 

[bobjustbob]

She's a selfish cunt and I'd say you deserve better but you could be an asshole and totally deserve it, so who knows? But the fact that she boned two dudes and told you she wants more should make it obvious that you aren't her priority.


Plus, send us a picture.



P.S. Did she hump both of those guys at the same time? Because that opens up a whole new can of worms.

Neg rep to you Ace. Can't you be a little more sensitive? She spent $100 on him after they broke up.

What was this birthday gift? A piece of jewelry? Some clothes that she likes seeing you dressed in? Something ornamental that you can look at to remind you of her? A 15 piece Farberware cook set? As Dirk said, there might be something there.

 

[RASQ]

 

[feller469]

You broke up in October, but you are still planning to marry her. And she plans to add more notches to her headboard? But you are not to give up on her? Wow. This will not be used as evidence for the evolution of man.

 

[Ace Boobtoucher]

Neg rep to you Ace. Can't you be a little more sensitive? She spent $100 on him after they broke up.

What was this birthday gift? A piece of jewelry? Some clothes that she likes seeing you dressed in? Something ornamental that you can look at to remind you of her? A 15 piece Farberware cook set? As Dirk said, there might be something there.

Every time you write something like that about my erudite posts I feel compelled to counter.

 

[Bonezstorm]

You should make a picture after you've fallen down the stairs. It's not getting your girl back but it would amuse me

 

[jasn88cubs]

Neg rep to you Ace. Can't you be a little more sensitive? She spent $100 on him after they broke up.

What was this birthday gift? A piece of jewelry? Some clothes that she likes seeing you dressed in? Something ornamental that you can look at to remind you of her? A 15 piece Farberware cook set? As Dirk said, there might be something there.

just a couple of shirts an dthis poster thing and dinner and some sex stuff

 

[MMMariah]

First off stop whining about it like a little bitch. You'll never get a girl worth a shit if you run to a message board with your drama. I can only imagine how spineless you are in real life.

Sound harsh? GOOD! I meant it to sound harsh. There isn't a woman alive worth a shit who wants anything to do with a man who is acting like you are. She fucked other people because she wants a man, not a whiny pussy. She might love you but her biology wants more. It's built into women dude. Grow a pair of balls. Get some confidence and stay out of a relationship for a few years. Make yourself some money so $100 being spent doesn't seem like such a big deal. During the time you spend on being without a girlfriend focusing on your life and career you'll build some confidence.

Then and ONLY then, will you find what you're looking for.

 

[Mr_Stiffy]

What Happy said. What Mariah said. What Ace said. I reckon this much-ballyhooed $100 she spent may well have been guilt for knowing that you feel a lot stronger about her than you do about her. When I found out one of my exes was cheating on me (although we were actually together rather than the confused state you describe), I couldn't believe it because she'd been so awesome with treats, surprises and just little platitudes over the previous few weeks, then it hit me - guilty overcompensation.

Might be a moot point, sounds like you're ready to accept that Finger Cuffs and you aren't meant to be.

Last edited by Ace Boobtoucher; Yesterday at 22:33. Reason: I forgot to ask if his girlfriend is as big a whore as I perceived.

There are people that haven't mastered the edit function. Boobsy is not one of them.

 

[lurkingdirk]

over $100.00 dollars

 

[sean miguel]

Sure, she's banging other dudes but she spent over $100 on you for your birthday.

Don't be a fool, YOU'RE THE ONE for her. She can't be anymore clear.



And I didn't get jack shit for my birthday.

 

[SpexyAshleigh]

LOL I love this whole thread.

 

[steampunk]

Fuck her best friend, or her mom. Bonus points if you fuck her mom.

Your ex girlfriend sounds as if shes a turbo slut, could you hook me up with her cell number?

:rofl:

 

[alexpnz]

$100?

Wowee! I'm sure she spent more on the rubbers, Extasy and hotel rooms on those other cats she let ejaculate in her mouth.

Keep it movin' my dude....

 

[bobjustbob]

Sure, she's banging other dudes but she spent over $100 on you for your birthday.

Don't be a fool, YOU'RE THE ONE for her. She can't be anymore clear.



And I didn't get jack shit for my birthday.

My point exactly. When she sees you wearing those shirts, she views them as her being a part of you. The poster is something you are going to be looking at every day as a reminder of her. The dinner was quality time together. You don't think she's showering these other guys with these kinds of gifts, do you?

 

[lurkingdirk]

But does she treat him right on his birthday? I mean, if she's showering him with gifts worth over $100, obviously she wants no one else, regardless of who she's banging.

 

[sean miguel]

The poster is something you are going to be looking at every day as a reminder of her.

The poster would seal the deal for me, especially if was a Twilight poster.