Cheating...Is It Forgivable?

[pathetic wanker]

I think either you should stay together in a relationship and not cheat at all, or you should both agree that it is okay to experiment with other people (or something along those lines). It seems that the problems start when one person in a relationship wants to experiment, and the other person doesn't want to... there shouldn't really be any forgiving

 

[georges]

Gotta have to agreewith Roughneck.

 

[Legzman]

My ex cheated on me...eventually I forgave her. But not till after a long bout with depression. It was over as soon as she told me about it.

At the time when you first find out there is a tidal surge of uncontrollable emotions. First thought is kill both people involved. I had to walk away before I did something I'd regret.

So while it is forgivable, eventually. It is still a damn good way to end a relationship! Obviously who ever is doing the cheating doesn't give a fuck about the other person anymore. And doesn't have the balls to say so.

If your in an open relationship and it's under controlled circumstances, then it's not cheating in the first place. But if it's suppose to be just the 2 of you, then it needs to stay just the 2 of you. If either step outside of that, it's over, end of story!

 

[McRocket]

Is adultery forgivable? Of course it is. If a Jew who survived the Holocaust can forgive his/her Nazi torturers, then forgiving for adultery/cheating is certainly possible.
Anything is forgivable.

Me? I could forgive.

But as long as I was able, I (assume I) would NEVER forget.

 

[coolbeers]

No.

 

[Legzman]

Is adultery forgivable? Of course it is. If a Jew who survived the Holocaust can forgive his/her Nazi torturers, then forgiving for adultery/cheating is certainly possible.
Anything is forgivable.

Me? I could forgive.

But as long as I was able, I (assume I) would NEVER forget.

No you don't! You move on with your life, but you can never forget...at least I can't...even after 3 years...

 

[rian_evilclown]

i wouldnt forgive someone personaly... unless it was some kind of extreme circumstance

 

[Plastique]

Is adultery forgivable? Of course it is. If a Jew who survived the Holocaust can forgive his/her Nazi torturers, then forgiving for adultery/cheating is certainly possible.
Anything is forgivable.

Me? I could forgive.

But as long as I was able, I (assume I) would NEVER forget.

"Nazi War Criminals being lambasted only last month by Italian Jews" http://www.haaretz.com/hasen/spages/872248.html mean anything to ya?

Although... the holocaust is pretty much what your heart feels like when you get that "There's something I've been meaning to tell you" speech just before they walk out the door, with their new bloke waiting in the car. So no, forgiveness is out of the window.

And forget? I'd hardly say I would forget when someone has removed my heart, stamping on it in front of me and then laughing as they take half your house and bank account.

Still... 3 years on, several thousand anti depressants and 100's of hours of therapy and I feel that I'm now getting over it:spin:

 

[Writers Block]

I personally feel that if your married or in a serious relationship than cheating is not forgivable by any means. Your spouse has shown you that they will not stay fatefull and they are likely to do it again.

 

[McRocket]

"Nazi War Criminals being lambasted only last month by Italian Jews" http://www.haaretz.com/hasen/spages/872248.html mean anything to ya?

Although... the holocaust is pretty much what your heart feels like when you get that "There's something I've been meaning to tell you" speech just before they walk out the door, with their new bloke waiting in the car. So no, forgiveness is out of the window.

I typed some Jew. Not all Jews had forgiven the Nazis.
And if just one Jew can forgive that. Then it is certainly possible for the human soul to forgive something as comparatively minor as adultery.

And as for losing half of your things. Why do people not sign pre nuptial agreements? When I was engaged I made it absolutely clear to my then fiancé that we were not going down the aisle until we had an iron glad pre-nup signed. And she agreed.
People have to stop being so naive about marriage and love.
Always watch your back because no one else will.

But it pleases me that you are getting over it and moving on. I sincerely hope you find the love you wish from your next/present partner.

 

[pathfinder]

In a word. NO.

my opinion is this...
if you really gotta cheat then be a man and break up with the girl your with.
don't be no backstabbing son of a bitch...
(this post isn't pointed at someone special, just some random rant.)

 

[2sexy4u]

If the cheating is just sex then yes it is forgivable. Sex is pleasure, but if the cheating is another love relationship then the answer is no. I want my man/woman to love only me, and I love him/her.

 

[Zimbobway]

Yes

 

[pathfinder]

If the cheating is just sex then yes it is forgivable. Sex is pleasure, but if the cheating is another love relationship then the answer is no. I want my man/woman to love only me, and I love him/her.

I guess it depends on how much value/importance one places on sex. For some people it's the ultimate way to physically express one's love for another person... for others it's like anything else that gives pleasure...

 

[O85]

Unforgivable, i would never cheat on my girl, and she would never cheat on me, we are in love and that is proven with the time we spend toghether EVERY night, without fail.

 

[McRocket]

Never say never.

Though I hope you are correct.

 

[bigcollegeprof]

When the wife is very young and beautiful, its forgiveable, especially if she experiences higher ecstacy with her stud.

 

[mrtrebus]

Never!

 

[holdol]

No

My wife most likely would never forgive me.
I could never forgive myself.

 

[mrtrebus]

No

My wife most likely would never forgive me.
I could never forgive myself.

Don't worry.
I'll never tell.
:shy: