Anyone here actually dated a pornstar? Pornstars, what was your experience dating outside the biz?

[Cynical-Obsession]

So a pretty straightfoward question I'd say. Has anyone here actually dated a pornstar? If so, what type of experience did you have. Was the sex as good as you'd imagined or was it a bit of a let down.

On the flipside of that, if you are a pornstar do you typically date normal guys or is it just easier to date someone inside the business.

I've always wondered what it would be like and aside from obviously dating a beautiful woman, I'm not sure I could handle the experience. I don't know for sure but I think I'd be a bit jealous and wouldn't want to share. Also, the whole std thing freaks me out a bit. I know pornstars get tested, but still.....

Then again, if there is a connection and the possibility of being happy I suppose those things wouldn't matter.

 

[luis1972]

When I dated her, she was a normal girl, after some years that we didn't know about her, we found her again in a low budget XXX film

 

[Mr_Stiffy]

If it's the sex that mostly interests you, there are threads in the Redlight section with testimonials from guys that have fucked some of the many pornstars that escort.

 

[Aaliyah Love]

It always ended badly, when the person realized I wasn't a sex goddess, but a normal person. And they always ended up insecure/jealous. Even when I was just solo webcamming. Which always ended up in me ending the relationship, because I don't put up with that type of bullshit in my life. Need someone to accept me for ME, not what they want to change me into.

And for the record, your risk of stds would be lower fucking a porn person who gets tested regularly every 13 days and has sex with other people who do the same than a civilian girl you meet at a bar. I have worked in porn for years and I never had a dirty test, not ONCE. An on set transmition of HIV hasn't happened since 1995.

 

[Cynical-Obsession]

It always ended badly, when the person realized I wasn't a sex goddess, but a normal person. And they always ended up insecure/jealous. Even when I was just solo webcamming. Which always ended up in me ending the relationship, because I don't put up with that type of bullshit in my life. Need someone to accept me for ME, not what they want to change me into.

And for the record, your risk of stds would be lower fucking a porn person who gets tested regularly every 13 days and has sex with other people who do the same than a civilian girl you meet at a bar. I have worked in porn for years and I never had a dirty test, not ONCE. An on set transmition of HIV hasn't happened since 1995.

This is exactly what I was looking for and I do appreciate you taking the time to reply. Also, I do appologize for my assumption about stds in the porn business. I made an uneducated assumption and that is certainly something I shouldn't have done. Very foolish of me.

Having said that, you would think that people who get into a relationship with a nude model or pornstar would realize that being with other partners is sort've in the job description. I would imagine that most porn performers date inside the business as a result?

 

[Little Red Wagon Repairman]

No I haven't.

 

[Aaliyah Love]

This is exactly what I was looking for and I do appreciate you taking the time to reply. Also, I do appologize for my assumption about stds in the porn business. I made an uneducated assumption and that is certainly something I shouldn't have done. Very foolish of me.

Having said that, you would think that people who get into a relationship with a nude model or pornstar would realize that being with other partners is sort've in the job description. I would imagine that most porn performers date inside the business as a result?

I know people who date in the biz, and I know porn girls who date "outside of the biz" it just comes down to is your partner accepting of who you really are, and secure in that and themselves? Just because I dated a bunch of insecure and jealous dudes who couldn't handle it doesn't mean everyone does.I've seen other successful relationships in porn, it just hasn't happened for me. Which is fine

 

[Aaliyah Love]

and I'll say this.. the girls who date/marry men or women who are NOT in the porn industry, those partners seem to fall into one of 2 categories from what I've seen..

1.they are swinger types and either enjoy watching their woman get fucked by others, or they have an open relationship and they're both fucking multiple people and separate sex and play time from love.
or 2. People who are monogamous to their partner but just really don't care about what they do for a job. They also separate sex and all of the other silly stuff we do on camera and love.They are just secure in themselves and their relationship and have no insecurity/jealous about it. Sometimes these people will help her with her career, such as helping her shoot/edit, etc. and sometimes they have nothing to do with it. One of my girlfriends is married to a lawyer. Another has been in a serious relationship with an author.
It's just nice for me to see these successful relationships to know that it CAN be done and they DO exist!

 

[Ace Boobtoucher]

www.whosdatedwho.com

Hope that clears up any questions.

 

[Aaliyah Love]

cool, way to kill a thread

 

[Deepcover]

Guess that guy should've cut down eating Jimmy Dean sausages

 

[Harley Spencer]

and I'll say this.. the girls who date/marry men or women who are NOT in the porn industry, those partners seem to fall into one of 2 categories from what I've seen..

1.they are swinger types and either enjoy watching their woman get fucked by others, or they have an open relationship and they're both fucking multiple people and separate sex and play time from love.
or 2. People who are monogamous to their partner but just really don't care about what they do for a job. They also separate sex and all of the other silly stuff we do on camera and love.They are just secure in themselves and their relationship and have no insecurity/jealous about it. Sometimes these people will help her with her career, such as helping her shoot/edit, etc. and sometimes they have nothing to do with it. One of my girlfriends is married to a lawyer. Another has been in a serious relationship with an author.
It's just nice for me to see these successful relationships to know that it CAN be done and they DO exist!

Yeah pretty much this. That first category of guys sucks, though I suppose if the girls dating those types are ok with it, good for them, but it's not my cup of tea.

So far I've had a mixed bag of dating since I entered the adult industry. The first guy was really jealous and tried to commit suicide over it, the second was pretty ok with it but we had a few issues, one of them being that he thought it'd be ok to try sleeping with other girls, suggesting threesomes and such, as me "being in the industry, of all people I should understand" . Another was absolutely fine with it, but we didn't work out for reasons not related to my work. My last was the photographer of my site, and we didn't work out for a whole slew of reasons that I'm not going to get into right now, and we're continuing to work together despite the breakup. And my current one... is new, outside the industry, and is absolutely happy with my work

 

[Ace Boobtoucher]

cool, way to kill a thread

I agree. It is a cool way to kill a thread.

 

[BusterLoads]

the second was pretty ok with it but we had a few issues, one of them being that he thought it'd be ok to try sleeping with other girls, suggesting threesomes and such, as me "being in the industry, of all people I should understand" .

There's absolutely no way I'd date a girl in the industry if I wasn't fucking other girls.

 

[Mr_Stiffy]

If I started going out with a girl and then found out she was in the industry, I don't know how I'd take it. Depends how I found out and how far into the dating, I guess. Having never been in the position, I don't know, and I'm sure I never will.

If I started seeing someone with foreknowledge that they were in the adult biz... then, that's part of the deal and I would only get in if I knew I could handle it. Only a fucking idiot would start going out with a girl knowing what they did and then try to get them out of it. That's lame. Again, it's never going to happen, but there you go.

The issue has been done to death, and my answer remains the same ; I'd go out with a pornstar, if we clicked and got on, had things in common etc and I thought we would work well together. My attitude to "fucking other people" in that case is that it's not cheating, it's work, and the issue with cheating is the violation of trust - and I know what that feels like - but if you know what they're doing, then no trust has been broken. I also wouldn't expect - or want - to be allowed to fuck other people on the side, because that's me going out and seeking intimacy with other people for the pure pleasure of it, not because it's my job. What the pornstar does on set is work, she still comes home to me, and that's where all the important stuff goes on. The whole "having a life together" deal, the dates, the sharing a bed, the "other half" stuff. I'd like to think I'm strong enough to deal with it, if that person I just "click" with happens to be in that line of work.

I assume other guys don't agree/understand, and that's fine. It's a moot point anyway, like I say... never gonna happen.

 

[Ace Boobtoucher]

But Stiffler, what about my awesome link?

 

[Aaliyah Love]

There's absolutely no way I'd date a girl in the industry if I wasn't fucking other girls.

.and most porn people would say that's lame. But, that's none of my biz

 

[Mr_Stiffy]

But Stiffler, what about my awesome link?

I'd rather click a blind link promising "14yo Pr0n" than anything you've unearthed, Touchy.

 

[Maggie Green]

and I'll say this.. the girls who date/marry men or women who are NOT in the porn industry, those partners seem to fall into one of 2 categories from what I've seen..

1.they are swinger types and either enjoy watching their woman get fucked by others, or they have an open relationship and they're both fucking multiple people and separate sex and play time from love.
or 2. People who are monogamous to their partner but just really don't care about what they do for a job. They also separate sex and all of the other silly stuff we do on camera and love.They are just secure in themselves and their relationship and have no insecurity/jealous about it. Sometimes these people will help her with her career, such as helping her shoot/edit, etc. and sometimes they have nothing to do with it. One of my girlfriends is married to a lawyer. Another has been in a serious relationship with an author.
It's just nice for me to see these successful relationships to know that it CAN be done and they DO exist!

Totally agree. My partner is of the second type, he knows that it's just work and has no problem whatsoever. We aren't swingers and have no desire to be. He helps run my clip store, edits and does all kind of things related to my business. I feel fortunate to have someone who loves and accepts all aspects of me.

 

[Aaliyah Love]

Totally agree. My partner is of the second type, he knows that it's just work and has no problem whatsoever. We aren't swingers and have no desire to be. He helps run my clip store, edits and does all kind of things related to my business. I feel fortunate to have someone who loves and accepts all aspects of me.

wow you're a very lucky girl! That's great, I'm happy for you! BTW, I was on a radio show where you called in the other day! Don't know if you heard me saying hi or not.. but.. HI! LOL