A difficult situation

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capricorn

I'm with my girlfriend for over two years now. We've had our share of quarrels, but, overall, we get along quite well. However, recently one of her friends has started to catch my eye. I don't know how or why, but it simply happened. The problem is that the other girl is not some insanely hot chick that you would simply like to fuck the very second you first see her. I thought nothing special of her the first time I saw her, but after having a few short conversations with her I had to admit to myself that she really appeals to me. If I weren't already in a relationship, I would definitely ask her out and try to have something with her. But, being in a relationship, I feel awful about the whole thing. I really like my girlfriend and I have never cheated on her, nor would I do so now. What the hell am I supposed to do now? :(
 
How good of friends are they? Because potentially you'll probably lose out on both if they're good friends. My advice stick with your current girlfriend and whack it to the other one.
 
You haven't done anything yet. Why are you feeling guilty??

Here's why because you already know you're going to fuck around with her and you are now a.) Trying to justify it to yourself and b.) Waiting for an 'excuse' to do it.

Quit playing with yourself. If you have something thicker than water with the girl you're with stop thinking about fucking with her friend.

Understand no matter how you're romanticizing this in your noggin now it is an unworkable, untenable reality. If you pursue this...the only things most likely to happen are you will have busted up two friends to be with a girl that will amount to most likely what you already have.

Go do something nice for your girl to rid yourself of the guilt you now have for considering fucking her friend...then go on with your life...you're not missing anything Romeo.
 
Doc Scurlock said:
How good of friends are they? Because potentially you'll probably lose out on both if they're good friends. My advice stick with your current girlfriend and whack it to the other one.
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They're pretty good friends. Of course your advice is the only real option but I still feel bad about the whole situation.
 
maleonetwo said:
Be honest with her!
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Well, the consequences would probably be quite disastrous, and I would like to avoid that disaster if possible.

Hot Mega said:
You haven't done anything yet. Why are you feeling guilty??

Here's why because you already know you're going to fuck around with her and you are now a.) Trying to justify it to yourself and b.) Waiting for an 'excuse' to do it.

Quit playing with yourself. If you have something thicker than water with the girl you're with stop thinking about fucking with her friend.

Understand no matter how you're romanticizing this in your noggin now it is an unworkable, untenable reality. If you pursue this...the only things most likely to happen are you will have busted up two friends to be with a girl that will amount to most likely what you already have.

Go do something nice for your girl to rid yourself of the guilt you now have for considering fucking her friend...then go on with your life...you're not missing anything Romeo.
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Well.. you're right... but it's easier said then done.
 
capricorn said:
Well.. you're right... but it's easier said then done.
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Unless you're fucking her now...it's as easy as you doing something nice for your girl, realizing what you appreciate about her and that you're not missing anything...upon doing those things...."you'll feel right as rain...".:2 cents:

Your overriding mature self ought to be about not breaking up 2 friends over what you think you want (today).

There are too many other women in the world..If you break up with your girl for one reason...eventually end up with her friend or someone else that's one thing. But thinking about being with her friend while your in a relationship with her is ..well foolish.

When you think about about it..you'll understand this too.
 
capricorn said:
I'm with my girlfriend for over two years now. We've had our share of quarrels, but, overall, we get along quite well. However, recently one of her friends has started to catch my eye. I don't know how or why, but it simply happened. The problem is that the other girl is not some insanely hot chick that you would simply like to fuck the very second you first see her. I thought nothing special of her the first time I saw her, but after having a few short conversations with her I had to admit to myself that she really appeals to me. If I weren't already in a relationship, I would definitely ask her out and try to have something with her. But, being in a relationship, I feel awful about the whole thing. I really like my girlfriend and I have never cheated on her, nor would I do so now. What the hell am I supposed to do now? :(
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My advice (which is probably worth about :2 cents:) is to do nothing at the moment. Let things unfold on their own for now.

It's interesting because your attraction to her is not based on appearance, which is so often the case. It sounds like there's more to it than that. Being attracted to someone's personality can be the basis for a solid relationship.

I wouldn't make any 'decision' just yet. :yinyang:
 
Where is the problem? You'll see women you want to have sex with every day if you go to a public place. That's not wrong. How you react - and not just do you screw her or not, but how much mental energy you expend on her instead of your girlfriend is what makes the difference. Here's what your thought process might look like:

Hmm. Look at her. I'd like to bang her. Yeah, she's hot. I wonder what's for dinner. I have a wedgie. Would anyone notice if I picked it? What about if I picked my nose?

You will decide how much of a problem this becomes. Make good decisions. It's called being an adult.
 
Shifty said:
My advice (which is probably worth about :2 cents:) is to do nothing at the moment. Let things unfold on their own for now.

It's interesting because your attraction to her is not based on appearance, which is so often the case. It sounds like there's more to it than that. Being attracted to someone's personality can be the basis for a solid relationship.

I wouldn't make any 'decision' just yet. :yinyang:
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Letting things unfold on their own is a tempting path to follow... but I fear it's very dangerous. What if I get to like that girl even more? Not to mention that I could incidentally give myself away while in their company.
 
well, you put yourself in this situation...i see it as, u dont know what u want...if your in a relationship and ur thinking about another chick u wanna get with? uhmm, huge problem already...
 
**** the girlfriend. Then you'll no longer feel guilty for having feelings for her friend. Problem solved, you're welcome.

:hatsoff:
 
I dont see the points of these threads, why ask the question when you know the answer already. If you actually sit and think about it, anything with this other woman would end disastrously.

In short, dont do anything!

Theres always another girl around the corner, you're a guy, you will always look at women, any woman you arent actively fucking will appeal to you. Stick with the one you're with and be a man!
 
Well do you see you and your current girlfriend more as friends or are you two in love? Weigh the pros and cons with this girl vs. current girlfriend. Make sure you and this new girl have mutual feelings for each other as well. But most of all don't leave current girlfriend in the dark, have a discussion about this. I know easier said than done, but hey commuinication is the key.
 
capricorn said:
I'm with my girlfriend for over two years now. We've had our share of quarrels, but, overall, we get along quite well. However, recently one of her friends has started to catch my eye. I don't know how or why, but it simply happened. The problem is that the other girl is not some insanely hot chick that you would simply like to fuck the very second you first see her. I thought nothing special of her the first time I saw her, but after having a few short conversations with her I had to admit to myself that she really appeals to me. If I weren't already in a relationship, I would definitely ask her out and try to have something with her. But, being in a relationship, I feel awful about the whole thing. I really like my girlfriend and I have never cheated on her, nor would I do so now. :facepalm: What the hell am I supposed to do now? :dunno:
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Go Bungee jumping. I figure while you're hanging upside down, the pull of Earth's gravity will drain some sort of missing common sense into your noggin. OR you can say fuck it to that idea and shag this friend behind your girlfriends back on the real down low.

:nanner:
 
DOA82 said:
I dont see the points of these threads, why ask the question when you know the answer already. If you actually sit and think about it, anything with this other woman would end disastrously.

In short, dont do anything!

Theres always another girl around the corner, you're a guy, you will always look at women, any woman you arent actively fucking will appeal to you. Stick with the one you're with and be a man!
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Yeah I guess that's the only real option.

Sorry for asking stupid questions to which I already know the answer :D
 
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