Why Do People Cheat?

[sputnikgirl]

1. People cheat because they don't realize the value of relationships. Our society does not reward the value of fidelity, at this point in history.

2. People cheat because they don't want to accept responsibility for their actions. It's easier to live in denial, rather than see the faults in your actions.

 

[meesterperfect]

Cheating is a very efficient way to spread your genes to the next generation. It not the survival of the fittest, rather it's the survival of the most successful reproducer.

Yeah, the scientific approach. I think your'e correct.
At least as far as the male of the species goes, most cheating is probably due to the inner core of your brain, the Hypothalamus, producing hormones that make them seek sexual activity with as many as possible to ensure the survival of the species. "Horny" to the laymen.
With women its different, they usually cheat for a much more complex reasons, and I still don't think science has even come close to understanding it.
Men Cheat because their body's tell there brain to, or vice versa.

footnote: Sexual dimorphism
Several hypothalamic nuclei are sexually dimorphic, i.e. there are clear differences in both structure and function between males and females.

Some differences are apparent even in gross neuroanatomy: most notable is the sexually dimorphic nucleus within the preoptic area, which is present only in males. However most of the differences are subtle changes in the connectivity and chemical sensitivity of particular sets of neurons.

The importance of these changes can be recognised by functional differences between males and females. For instance, the pattern of secretion of growth hormone is sexually dimorphic, and this is one reason why in many species, adult males are much larger than females.

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Oh, and Sputs right also.

 

[sequtor1304]

Being disappointed with what you've gotten is going to be a fairly large part of it, or that its no longer what you felt you loved. It won't be that they don't place a high value on the relationship they are in always, but its hard to not cheat alot of the time when you only get to see your partner for small periods during the day and then not at night.

I've only ever cheated once and that was when i was working as a tech, doing 8am-6pm with 1 hour travel between and she was working rotating shifts. There was a period of a couple of weeks were the only time we spent together was *****.

The job and the relationship didn't last much longer, there are a million and one reasons to cheat and not to cheat. But if there isn't any intimacy in the relationship ( intimacy being more as a communicative thing, than foreplay or sex). Under those circumstances what we had wasn't really the relationship either of us wanted, regrettable as it was if I didn't cheat would we still have both been miserable together only seeing each other only to discuss bills and rent and why we have blown our budget out on this or that?

the important thing is circumstance there is never going to be a black or white reason behind anything, if your reason is only shits and giggles and your not willing to be honest there is already something wrong

 

[free4440273]

so many reasons: insecurity, lack of monies, breakdown in trust, problems with one's sexuality and/or security, vindictiveness, lack of commitment, getting into a wrong relationship too early (with hindsight), problems at work, office/work relationships, maybe even boredom (in the bedroom but also in general). not nice to go through...

also, it's all too 'easy' nowadays to fall in and out of relationships: there are consequences obviously, but they seem to be trivialized - "Oh, who cares if i hurt his/her feelings?? S/he will get over it soon enough" etc.

 

[CaDDaFy]

People cheat because at the end of the day we are highly evolved ******* with ****** instincts, impulses, Propagate. people are not meant to stay together that’s why allot of relationships breaks down because the man fucks her she gets pregnant because she wants baby due to her biological built in clock and once his work his done he heads off looking for a new female to impregnate.

I observe males & females in bars & clubs its like watching two birds of paradise, the female spots the male she wants and she’ll start strutting her stuff (feathers) then the male will start feeling abit randy and start making his way over to her, & that’s why alot of the time fights star, 2 males fighting over a female. When people get pissed they tend to let there true Primitive cave dwelling self come out.

 

[anomaly]

People cheat because at the end of the day we are highly evolved ******* with ****** instincts, impulses, Propagate. people are not meant to stay together that’s why allot of relationships breaks down because the man fucks her she gets pregnant because she wants baby due to her biological built in clock and once his work his done he heads off looking for a new female to impregnate.

I observe males & females in bars & clubs its like watching two birds of paradise, the female spots the male she wants and she’ll start strutting her stuff (feathers) then the male will start feeling abit randy and start making his way over to her, & that’s why alot of the time fights star, 2 males fighting over a female. When people get pissed they tend to let there true Primitive cave dwelling self come out.

I agree with you but I think cheating just stems from the fact that people do really love the person they in a relationship with. I know of many people who are in relationships because of money, convenience, comfort and sex.:******:

 

[Milan]

OMG, why do people cheat......people in a committed relationship?

this question is one of the most difficults questions for me to even start to get my mind around. I agree with what CaddaFy said to a degree.

However, what seperates us from other ******* is free will and the ability to control our natural instincts. I have known many who may have wanted to cheat but didn't. They could and may have wanted too but they decided not too because the fear of losing someone they really cared about was far greater than the desire to get laid by someone else.

now, do i believe that maybe we all ought to re-think what committement means and the difference between love sex and just sex. maybe so and I agree we are evolving and with that some ideas might should change.

but, we can decide not to cheat. i think a lot of decisions in life are made based on fear............fear of losing someone, fear of not laying that hot person, fear of losing a job, fear of getting a disease, .............whichever fear is greater probably plays into the decision a lot......or maybe not........

maybe we should re-think traditional relationships.......obviously most people have desires to have sex with other people outside of their relationship apparantly.

or maybe we should try being honest with ourselves and understanding who we are and what our needs and desires are before we start trying to be honest and committed to others......

 

[CaDDaFy]

Thats makes a refreshing change, people are agreeing with me.

 

[CaDDaFy]

Alot of poeple carnt stand the idea of being alone they need someone to share there interest & problems with.