It's the Golden Rule. No one wants to be told what to do. Everyone wants everyone else to respect the limits and values they set for themselves. I've never understood the "these are my expectations, you are to move to them."
That does not work in business. That does not work in relationships. Men forget that.
I always try to imagine a world where every woman who goes on a date, every woman who takes off her clothes, every woman who decides to say hi to a man, is not immediately judged by how she looks, how she acts and if she consents or not. Imagine a world where women never have to worry if the man will respect her consent or not? Judge her for what she does or doesn't do? Look at her for not how she looks or what she does, but how she treats others?
I think a lot more of us men would see a different world with regards to how women approach us. And yes, selfishly, I have to admit a lot of my fellow men would likely get laid a lot more as a result too. "I have a dream ..."
We still try to push these "values" on everyone, instead of stopping and recognizing the one things that really matters in this world: Consent
Do you have the consent to do something with or to someone else? And if you do not, it does not mean they are a bitch, frigid, mean or otherwise inconsiderate. They just have what they wish, and everyone needs to respect that, just like anything we would want for ourselves.
There is also a lot of passive-aggressiveness on the Internet. It is so easy to sit back and "fire semi-anonymously," or even as yourself. But we are a new generation that has grown up with mass slander, libel and "Internet justice."
No one likes to talk about what happened to Ryan Lanza. He was cruxified and threatened by thousands within hours, all while he was trying to deal with what was going on with his family too, because some reporter named him, instead of his brother. I might have committed suicide with that type of day, literally. People want to judge others. I guess it's to make them feel better about themselves, to look in the mirror and say, "I'm not as bad as (insert people)."
The problem is that we judge a lot of people repeatedly, and often wrongly. The world would be quite different if we did not do such, much better in my view. But, alas, we seem to focus on judging others than helping them.
That's why everyone should really consider what they say. Because even if it was not her, she could be watching. I've always warned about this with how men treat women in general.
Because even if a woman is allegedly a "selfish bitch," how you treat her does say things about you, as a man. You should always treat all women like ladies. If they are really the type that does "take advantage" of the gentleman, the best thing to do is just avoid the woman as much as possible.
Only a few times women have asked me, "Why do you let her walk all over her? How could you like someone like her?" They assumed I was nice to her, because I liked her.
I responded, "It's up to the woman to walk all over me if she wants, I'll just try to avoid her as much as possible so I don't let her get to do it much. Because I do not like her, but I'm not going to stop being a gentleman just because of her."
That's literally how I advocate all men approach life. You prevent women from walking all over you by just avoiding the ones who do. Don't wait for her to "come around." How she treats people is up to her, not you. How often she gets to do it to you is up to you, just avoid her to minimize it. Other women notice. Trust me, they do.
That's what makes a "real 'nice guy'" versus an "always put up with her shit 'nice guy.'" There are more than just "nice guys" and "bad boys" out there. It's never that simple.
I've never seen Wendy say anything that makes her such a woman. She is also free to choose how she wants to address her (free) fans and (paying) consumers. I only commented on Denise Milani prior because she alienated a lot of her loyal fanbase overnight, including men like myself who didn't expect her to go nude. That was her decision, but it also cost her a lot of paying customers too.
Hey D-man, I like you, and will continue you like you, so please take my comments to heart.
Be careful reading into how people act -- and that is a literal "act" -- on-camera. She's not in a social setting. She's not just lounging with her friends at the pool. She's being a model.
Some models act no different than with friends. Some men like and even prefer that. That overused "girl-next-door" often applies.
Some modules carry themselves with proper structure, and are even required based on the audience they are addressing. Many men like that too.
I wouldn't read into how women act on film. No one can really evaluate a person without knowing them. How a woman carries herself really is not a good judge of who she is. How she treats others is. And the only way to know that is not in a celebrity-based forum, but in-person, in a friendly social setting.
Hey man, you have that right at a consumer. But this is FreeOnes, and it's all free. So it goes both ways too. There are plenty of other women for you to enjoy. And I enjoy talking to you about them too.
I've said this in other threads, the most recently in Angela White's thread, and I'll say it again here.
I was with a number of women in my younger years,, a few that were way, way outta-my-league (I was never much of a catch). You'd be surprised how people act, and how much crap they have to put up with, without responding. It really, really hurts them, and they still have to find a way to realize that was just one individual, not all men, or alleged type of men. And that's just with a limited, in-person audience. On a celebrity-scale, it's unreal, and I cannot image everything invovled.
A lot of the OCSMs here take a lot of crap from members ... and this is, after all, "FreeOnes." We don't pay a dime. These women have their livelihoods, and how they are perceived makes huge differences in their abilities to -- in many cases -- literally eat. They are here because of that, true. But they also do not have to be. It takes a lot for them to be here, and some might argue the cost-benefit for them might be "questionable."
Every person in the world "loses their cool" sooner or later. The problem with a model is the same as any celebrity ... all they have to do is do it once, and it harms them ... possibly for life, or at least awhile. Their name, their image, is their income. Maybe the person they did it too deserved it, actually, in almost every case, they more than did. Maybe it wasn't that harsh, and far less harsh than what the person did to them in the first place. But people will quote them, take their comments out-of-context, and it gets used over and over.
Because in the end, the last thing we want here is OCSMs coming on the board, and wondering if what they say or do will only hurt their memberships. If that is the case, FreeOnes will cease to be a good avenue for OCSMs and fans altogether. And that's the last thing I want to see, for all of us.
