The girl I want has a fiance, what should I do?

This is messed up but I have been conversing with a chick from work, who has a fiance, for the past 3 months. He went out of town and we went out and had sex in her apartment. It isn't just about the sex, I really enjoy her company and could see myself with her...The guy beats her, steals from her and, according to her, never wants to have sex. We have hooked up a few more times since then and she constantly tells me that she's going to leave him but I feel as though she's just stringing me along. Any advice?
 
Tell her you're not prepared to be the other guy, and when she dumps him she can have a spot on your dick, but not until then.
 
Ask her to choose : Her fiance or you, she can't have both.
 
Yeah, thanks, sounds like that's the best thing to do but its just that I have no willpower; sex with her is amazing.
Don't make excuses, of course you have willpower. You are in control of your cock not the other way round. She may be in a bad relationship but having sex with her isn't going to help, she has to leave this guy of her own accord. & then jumping head first into another relationship may not be the best thing for her.
Move. On.
 
Don't make excuses, of course you have willpower. You are in control of your cock not the other way round. She may be in a bad relationship but having sex with her isn't going to help, she has to leave this guy of her own accord. & then jumping head first into another relationship may not be the best thing for her.
Move. On.

Everyone seems to have the same advice so it must be good. I just thought of something, if she'd cheat on that guy she'd probably do the same to me in the future if things weren't going as smoothly as before. That sucks, thanks all for your help I will try my best to turn her down or at least just distance myself emotionally and enjoy the sex.
 
This is messed up but I have been conversing with a chick from work, who has a fiance, for the past 3 months. He went out of town and we went out and had sex in her apartment. It isn't just about the sex, I really enjoy her company and could see myself with her...The guy beats her, steals from her and, according to her, never wants to have sex. We have hooked up a few more times since then and she constantly tells me that she's going to leave him but I feel as though she's just stringing me along. Any advice?

Why would you want a woman who stays engaged to a person who is abusive to her? Better yet, why are you taking advantage of her sexually? Like it or not that's all you have since she can't possibly know what love is without loving herself.

Tell her it's not likely she can love anyone until she's ready to love herself enough to leave an abusive relationship and you're not going to be her enabler (provided she's not making this stuff up to begin with).

But seriously...stop taking advantage of this chick if she is in a relationship like this. There have gotta be other chicks you can get your rocks off with.
 

Ace Bandage

The one and only.
Well, if you know a place to bury a body, you could always just stab him with a steak knife. If you've described him accurately, then I'm sure no one will miss him...
 
Why would you want a woman who stays engaged to a person who is abusive to her? Better yet, why are you taking advantage of her sexually? Like it or not that's all you have since she can't possibly know what love is without loving herself.

Tell her it's not likely she can love anyone until she's ready to love herself enough to leave an abusive relationship and you're not going to be her enabler (provided she's not making this stuff up to begin with).

But seriously...stop taking advantage of this chick if she is in a relationship like this. There have gotta be other chicks you can get your rocks off with.


I was going to ask the same questions there. Something is not right. I would move on. Maybe they are made for eachother.
 
He went out of town and we went out and had sex in her apartment. It isn't just about the sex, I really enjoy her company and could see myself with her...The guy beats her, steals from her and, according to her, never wants to have sex.
Okay, red flag #1 ... she's complaining about her man to you. That means if she complains about him, if you ever become her boyfriend, she'll complain about you too. She might also be sleeping with other men as well.

If he is really beating her, then she should leave him. If he would stalk her if she did, then she needs 1) to get a restraining order and 2) to get some professional protection in the meantime. Help her do both.

We have hooked up a few more times since then and she constantly tells me that she's going to leave him but I feel as though she's just stringing me along. Any advice?
Dude, this is always bad news. You typically don't want to get in the middle of such a situation or, if you do, keep the sex out of it. It will make you more objective.
 
She leaves him or forget her. Be strong for her sake, she needs to leave this asshole.

If she's too stupid to do that and is one of these bitches who thrives on the drama of being in 2 relationships and whining about the asshole bf (who she stays with but cheats on) then leave her, never worth it to get too mixed up with a cheap whore who is to dumb for her own good.
 
My advice is don't get emotionally involved with her.She I think has issues of her own she must work out.

If you can keep the love and sex thing seperate ,keep hitting it.If you can't better to just let it end.
 

Supafly

Retired Mod
Bronze Member
She has to leave that guy if you want to have a relationship with her.

But it sounds as if she's one of these women that love to nag about her fucked-up relationship, but won't do anything about it.

I smell m,assive future trouble in this for you.

You better find a woman who is really free.
 

Will E Worm

Conspiracy...
You already had sex with her. Tell him and she is yours or maybe not.

Let's find out. ;)


Actually he should be told. She is a liar and he shouldn't have to marry a liar.
A female that acts like that doesn't deserve to be married.
 
Come on mate you need to take a breath and think about this,
right now she's getting extra cock when she wants it, that's gotta be good for her ego "look at me I'm fuckin 2 men" if she really wanted away from her abusive fiancée she'd have the strength to leave him, but she wont!!

Be strong and walk away, you don't need it your life.

good luck
 

feller469

Moving to a trailer in Fife, AL.
if she is cheating on her fiancee she will most likely cheat again, even on you
 
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