Where do I start? So I recently got back in touch with my ex. In 10th grade she was my first gf (no, I wasn't her first bf). I know, I'm a loser, and it gets worse. We were long distance... She was a girl I knew throughout middle school before I moved. We lived about 50 miles away and neither really had the means to see each other. We were dumb. Anyways, we got pretty "serious," if that's what u want to call it. And by that, I mean we talked on the phone everyday for 4 hours and she spent the night at my house once and we lost our virginities together. We dated for a couple months then she left me for a guy at her school. She started dating him, then via myspace, let me find out. Thing is, we didn't stop talking after that. We kept talking the exact same after before. Still 4 hours a day, all the "I love you"s and everything. About a month after, I went to where she lived and we went to the movies, where she told me she didn't want to cheat on her bf and ditched me. After that we completely stopped talking. About a year and a half later, I moved across the country. When I was 18 and added me on fb and messaged me. She then called me and she told me how she was sorry and we kinda laughed at how stupid we were for even trying the whole relationship. She knew I had always planned on moving back to where she lives cuz it's my hometown, and she suggested that we "roommate together. After that we didn't talk again. A couple months went by, I finished school and moved back. I never got back to her about roommating because I figured since she didn't contact me she just forgot. Flash forward to a couple weeks ago, she texts me and says she wants to hang out. I told her I was busy twice but the third time I just said ok and went to hang out with her. We hung out casually and she dragged me around our middle school's neighborhood. She was being all touch-y and showing all the obvious signs but I just treated her like a friend. During the the next week she continued to text me saying how she likes the new me and I've discovered that she's basically become a girl version of me. She's a total stoner now, which she was not. Her hip hop has been replaced with grunge, u get the point. A week later we hung out again and went to the movies. Again nothing happened but the obvious connection is there. For the past couple of days, we've been texting and I've been considering it. So idk if I should get back with her or not now. All my friends say no and that I should "play her back" and the usual "she's an ex for a reason." I want to date her again, but I'm not sure if I really trust her. Is she really a different girl? Or is she just lonely, bored, and bullshitting? Any suggestions?
Should I get back with my Ex?
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[size=+2] no. Forget about that twat waffle.[/size]
SabrinaDeep
Official Checked Star Member
Go back go back! You're fucking 18! If you don't make this mistakes (or not?) now when do you wanna make them?! Go back with her and enjoy the feeling. You're privileged. Use that privilege,
Give it a shot now that you're both older. Who knows, it might work out this time. Good luck! 
I know I should probably just say fuck her but idk. Like when we started talking this most recent time, I was purposefully being a dick but she just kept trying. She seems so serious but idk if it's all a big act. She's even said we should try dating again, but she said she would want to take it slow. Btw my 2 best friends date girls that belong to a group of about 5 that hang out and apparently they ostracize her stating "our opinions of her couldn't get any lower." Idk, my head is all twisted. I'm not gonna lie, I am starting to have feelings, but at the same time I'm holding back because I'm not sure if she's serious yet and idk what to do.
Arden Adamz
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I suggest you hook up again and enjoy the rush, but don't take it too seriously.. You're both still young... Just let things play out as they will...I'm sure she's not the only one who has changed, you're both a little more mature at this point and probably have different perspectives on relationships... It will be fun to explore the new dynamic... but definitely don't move in together!
Harley Spencer
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You could get back with her, but certainly don't move in with her, because you're not at that stage right now to be moving in with her- your feelings aren't mutual, you're confused, you aren't sure what to think.
I say give it a shot, why the hell not? Like Sabrina said, do it now while you've got the chance. If it doesn't work out then yeah, You Might get hurt, but it's best to learn from a mistake sooner rather than later. It'll be an experience that will help make you who you are as life goes on. We learn from our mistakes, at least we should (I know I do), we mature, we're able to make better decisions later on in life partly based on our experiences and decisions earlier on in life.
I think her saying to take it slow might be a good idea, but by the way you're making it sound, she doesn't really want to take it slow. First she wants to be roommates, then try dating again, ...? That's not taking it slow. Not really anyway. Least not the roommate part.
Try just hanging out with her a few times, go out to eat, go see movies, go shopping, find a hookah lounge and go with some friends, just hang out. See how well you mesh with her just hanging out before jumping into an exclusive relationship.
Typically, yes, you are exes for a reason. But you never know. And perhaps to solidify that rule of thumb, you could get back with her to learn that firsthand.
Best of luck to you!
I say give it a shot, why the hell not? Like Sabrina said, do it now while you've got the chance. If it doesn't work out then yeah, You Might get hurt, but it's best to learn from a mistake sooner rather than later. It'll be an experience that will help make you who you are as life goes on. We learn from our mistakes, at least we should (I know I do), we mature, we're able to make better decisions later on in life partly based on our experiences and decisions earlier on in life.
I think her saying to take it slow might be a good idea, but by the way you're making it sound, she doesn't really want to take it slow. First she wants to be roommates, then try dating again, ...? That's not taking it slow. Not really anyway. Least not the roommate part.
Try just hanging out with her a few times, go out to eat, go see movies, go shopping, find a hookah lounge and go with some friends, just hang out. See how well you mesh with her just hanging out before jumping into an exclusive relationship.
Typically, yes, you are exes for a reason. But you never know. And perhaps to solidify that rule of thumb, you could get back with her to learn that firsthand.
Best of luck to you!
I am not a degenerate, thank you very much. A pervert, maybe, but definitely not a degenerate. :dickhead:
alexpnz
Lord Dipstick
Profund, yet accurate..........for once.
To answer OP, Negative!
Ex is EX for a reason, ya dig?
First think: Do you currently have another girl on the side besides this ex? If NO then the answer should be pretty obvious, get what you can bro.
If YES then move on, life's short and you still have a loooooot of women to have relationships (brief or long) with, your ex's time's run out!
My real advice to you is, don't spend too much time deciding because it just complicates things and wastes your time. Decide what to do as soon as possible and be a man and go through with your decision!
If YES then move on, life's short and you still have a loooooot of women to have relationships (brief or long) with, your ex's time's run out!
My real advice to you is, don't spend too much time deciding because it just complicates things and wastes your time. Decide what to do as soon as possible and be a man and go through with your decision!
So this post ended up just like real life. Girls say yes, guys say no.
Girls(and gsb): is there something I can do to see if she's forreal or if it's a big act? Maybe something I can ask or some kinda game I can play with her?
Guys: Some of u say you've been there before. Was it worth it in the end?
Girls(and gsb): is there something I can do to see if she's forreal or if it's a big act? Maybe something I can ask or some kinda game I can play with her?
Guys: Some of u say you've been there before. Was it worth it in the end?
Harley Spencer
Official Checked Star Member
Don't play games. Be real. Like I said, hang out with her and go on dates for a while to see how things go. There is no one question that will determine whether or not she's being real. If it's an act, she will keep acting. You have to use your instincts. Follow your heart, but take your head with you.
I think I'm just gonna say "fuck it" and go for it. You guys (well mostly girls) are right, I'm only gonna live once and I'm only 19 so to hell with it. If it was all bullshit and I end up getting hurt, oh well. Then again, I may just be an idiot in love with a whore but whatever. Let's see how this goes. Thanks.
