I think there are a lot of members that might feel the same way as well. I think that asking questions like that, however, is always going to be a disappointing exercise. Patty cake does what she wants, when she wants and there's no pleading that will get her to change -- why should she, it is a winning formula for her and her (somewhat) sycophantic following. Best to keep your distance and check in now-and-then to see if anythings changed. In terms of the plastic dildos, etc., I chalk it up to the fact that it is just easier for her to control the results that way, I dunno. :dunno: