Older Men Dating Younger girls

I honestly think that age is just a number my bf(smallville206) is much older than i am and it just makes i think my sex life more funner to me lol. I've alwayst liked older men because of how mature they are and and how they are around woman and treat them.
 
I think a big age gap is a problem. Im 37 and my Girl is 29, she can fuck all night long and im strugling so much to keep up with her (can anyone help a poor weak old man:D). She's trying to put me into an early grave i think :rofl::1orglaugh

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I think a big age gap is a problem. Im 37 and my Girl is 29, she can fuck all night long and im strugling so much to keep up with her (can anyone help a poor weak old man:D). She's trying to put me into an early grave i think :rofl::1orglaugh

My Girl

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So, you're dating an attractive, sexually enlightened young lady. Oh, I so feel your pain. Asshole. :thefinger

lmao, well 28 is considered old as hell for me... so ha! I'll stick to college chicks my age :rofl:
 
Easily old enough to be her father,do you all think that will be a problem for him,especially in the more consevative parts of the country? Personally I have no problem with it,but conventional thinking would say his base would think that it was awful he was married to someone so much younger.

Her "sketchy" background (putting it mildly) will not go over with "the heartland's" sentimental yearnings for "classy people."

I'm almost embarrassed for ex-Sen Thompson in that he's actually earnestly running for POTUS and literally thinks nothing controversial exists regarding his gutter-trash trophy wife.

I don't think Christian Conservatives are going to turn out for this election. They got burned by Karl Rove and W., they aren't going to give their "blessing" to Thompson when he is a walking, talking mockery of their values.
 
:hatsoff: To the old guys having young gf's. Why not? If both are happy, go for it!

Myself at 35, already face this issue, and have done so for some years already. Not so much because I prefer or go after the younger girls, but the fact that I'm still without kids, makes me not really fit with the woman my own age, as they already have kids on most cases.

And the few cases they dont, they either dont want any kids, are overly career driven, or cant have them. And since I do want some, younger girls is the only option left.

Now there might be the odd 35 yo girl out there wanting kids, that still dont have any, which is a "normal" type". But thats like finding the needle in the haystack, and I've simply given up looking for it.


So, all in all, for me, a girl 10-15 year younger is actually the right fit. Now, if I could make any choice, I'd prefer a more mature partner and all, but thats not an option, so I just deal with it, and try to make things work. THe girls see this issue aswell though, and dont really care. Aslong as one has fun together, and makes the other one feel good and appriciated, Go for it!:lovecoupl
 
:hatsoff: To the old guys having young gf's. Why not? If both are happy, go for it!

Myself at 35, already face this issue, and have done so for some years already. Not so much because I prefer or go after the younger girls, but the fact that I'm still without kids, makes me not really fit with the woman my own age, as they already have kids on most cases.

And the few cases they dont, they either dont want any kids, are overly career driven, or cant have them. And since I do want some, younger girls is the only option left.

Now there might be the odd 35 yo girl out there wanting kids, that still dont have any, which is a "normal" type". But thats like finding the needle in the haystack, and I've simply given up looking for it.


So, all in all, for me, a girl 10-15 year younger is actually the right fit. Now, if I could make any choice, I'd prefer a more mature partner and all, but thats not an option, so I just deal with it, and try to make things work. THe girls see this issue aswell though, and dont really care. Aslong as one has fun together, and makes the other one feel good and appriciated, Go for it!:lovecoupl

Caitnop writes about one situation where older and younger makes sense. There is some one in my family (not me!) who I am very close to. She has a boyfriend way older than her, call him Mike. Mike is married with grown children. She has no intention of breaking up his marriage and she really does not want to marry anyone. But she wants to have a family. Mike and her have a baby. He is a really supportive dad, although obviously he cannot be there all the time. He has a child which is looked after by a really good mother who is also a very good and loyal friend and he has a sex life which he does not get with his wife and he also gets an extra circle of friends. She has a baby and a father for it who is much more supportive than most other dads that I see and a really good friend in Mike. They are both very interested in art, something again Mike does not get to enjoy with his wife.

It may be strange but it works.
 
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Caitnop writes about one situation where older and younger makes sense. There is some one in my family (not me!) who I am very close to. She has a boyfriend way older than her, call him Mike. Mike is married with grown children. She has no intention of breaking up his marriage and she really does not want to marry anyone. But she wants to have a family. Mike and her have a baby. He is a really supportive dad, although obviously he cannot be there all the time. He has a child which is looked after by a really good mother who is also a very good and loyal friend and he has a sex life which he does not get with his wife and he also gets an extra circle of friends. She has a baby and a father for it who is much more supportive than most other dads that I see and a really good friend in Mike. They are both very interested in art, something again Mike does not get to enjoy with his wife.

It may be strange but it works.

Your female family member sounds like she has real problems. She is apparently content to date a guy who fathered her child even though he is still with his wife? Does she have any self esteem? Or is she just incredibly ignorant?

And as for Mike; based on what you typed, old 'Mike' is an asshole. Not maybe. Not possibly. Not even probably. He IS an asshole.
 
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McRocket

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:hatsoff: To the old guys having young gf's. Why not? If both are happy, go for it!

Myself at 35, already face this issue, and have done so for some years already. Not so much because I prefer or go after the younger girls, but the fact that I'm still without kids, makes me not really fit with the woman my own age, as they already have kids on most cases.

And the few cases they dont, they either dont want any kids, are overly career driven, or cant have them. And since I do want some, younger girls is the only option left.

Now there might be the odd 35 yo girl out there wanting kids, that still dont have any, which is a "normal" type". But thats like finding the needle in the haystack, and I've simply given up looking for it.


So, all in all, for me, a girl 10-15 year younger is actually the right fit. Now, if I could make any choice, I'd prefer a more mature partner and all, but thats not an option, so I just deal with it, and try to make things work. THe girls see this issue aswell though, and dont really care. Aslong as one has fun together, and makes the other one feel good and appriciated, Go for it!:lovecoupl

10 or 15 years? You are dating women that are less then 2 years out of high school? While you are less then 5 years from middle age? And one of your reasons is that you want to date one that wants children but does not have any? Sorry, I ain't buying it. I think you just like 'em young.
Surely, most western women are not thinking about having babies when they are 20. Or even 22 or 23. Many? Sure. But I doubt that most western women in their early twenties are actively looking to get pregnant right away. By their late 20's? Okay.
I can see your logic if you are dating women say 27 and up. But women as young as 20? Your logic loses it's...logic to me.

I honestly think you like 'em much younger then you and you use your above pretext as justification.

If you want to date younger women? Fine. Just make sure you are being honest with yourself - and more importantly, with them. Women at 20 can often be ALLOT more impressionable (and easily influenced) then one can at 30 - as I assume you are well aware of and are enjoying that fact.
 
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I do agree that age is only a number and in a lot of cases these relationships can and do work. However, some of them are highly sespect; especially the celeb ones where money and fame is a factor.
 
For me it doesnt matter who dates who as long as they care about each other, and frankly Id never voice an opinion on it if it was someone I knew because it would be non of my business. But all your points are interesting and true. The different points in life is very right. Imagine your an older woman with kids, single young bloke comes along and is only about 4 years older then her eldest. It would entail some difficulties indeed even within family life, that might cause a break up. The 10 year gap is how I look on things, 19-29, 30-40 etc. But life is like a box of chocolates. You might have to take the last orange one and be happy with it. And within reason, nothing should get in the way of true love. :wave2:
 
Your female family member sounds like she has real problems. She is apparently content to date a guy who fathered her child even though he is still with his wife? Does she have any self esteem? Or is she just incredibly ignorant?

And as for Mike; based on what you typed, old 'Mike' is an asshole. Not maybe. Not possibly. Not even probably. He IS an asshole.

She is not ignorant and she does not have 'real problems' any more than any one has. And she does have self esteem. You never met Mike so how do you possibly know what he is like.

What you have written here is just based on prejudice.

Mel
 
10 or 15 years? You are dating women that are less then 2 years out of high school? While you are less then 5 years from middle age? And one of your reasons is that you want to date one that wants children but does not have any? Sorry, I ain't buying it. I think you just like 'em young.
Surely, most western women are not thinking about having babies when they are 20. Or even 22 or 23. Many? Sure. But I doubt that most western women in their early twenties are actively looking to get pregnant right away. By their late 20's? Okay.
I can see your logic if you are dating women say 27 and up. But women as young as 20? Your logic loses it's...logic to me.

I honestly think you like 'em much younger then you and you use your above pretext as justification.

If you want to date younger women? Fine. Just make sure you are being honest with yourself - and more importantly, with them. Women at 20 can often be ALLOT more impressionable (and easily influenced) then one can at 30 - as I assume you are well aware of and are enjoying that fact.

There are 50 year olds that are impressionable. There are 70 year olds who have never grown up. There are 15 year olds more mature than many 40 year olds - they do not have life experience but they know they don't and are intelligent enough to know what they do not know. But there are still some 50 year olds who think they know it all.

As for younger girls wanting children - well I definitely do. It is the most natural thing for a woman to want. The healthiest time for a girl to have babies is about the ages of 16 - 26. I know that many women under pressure to conform to ideas of career success are holding off until they are 35 or older when the risk of harming themselves or their babies is greater.

Women having their babies in their later 30s is just a screw up of the last maybe 60 years of human history.

Mel
 
No doubt that some, maybe many relationships between younger girls and older men are weird in different ways but not all.

Sterobbo01's example of some celeb cases would make anybody suspicious. And biscuit shows an example of where some problems might have to be dealt with but that does not mean every case is wrong.

And also just because a relationship seems weird does not mean it is bad, it could turn out to be weirdly wonderful.

Mel
 

McRocket

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There are 50 year olds that are impressionable. There are 70 year olds who have never grown up. There are 15 year olds more mature than many 40 year olds - they do not have life experience but they know they don't and are intelligent enough to know what they do not know. But there are still some 50 year olds who think they know it all.
There are always exceptions. But obviously the younger you are, the more naive, lacking of knowledge and wisdom; and thusly more impressionable you are. There is no way around it.
And I guarantee you that there are things that many women will get talked into when they are 20 that they would never fall for when they are 30.

I have no real problem with a young woman coming on to a much older man. But I have a big problem with an older man coming on to a much younger woman.
 
There are always exceptions. But obviously the younger you are, the more naive, lacking of knowledge and wisdom; and thusly more impressionable you are. There is no way around it.
And I guarantee you that there are things that many women will get talked into when they are 20 that they would never fall for when they are 30.

I have no real problem with a young woman coming on to a much older man. But I have a big problem with an older man coming on to a much younger woman.

Yes in general all this is right but there can be many exceptions and you cannot start condemning an older guys for being with a younger girl unless you know the people you are talking about.

For example I have a problem with any guy I do not know hitting on me (hmmm ... well let me be honest I do not have a problem many guys hitting on me, but I would have if many guys did - ah well!) if I do not know them. But I do not have a problem with men of any age being friendly and getting to know me. And I do not see myself getting into a relationship type friendship with any guy unless I know him very well. I know I am not the only girl who is like this. But I also know some people do crazy things.

Mel
 

McRocket

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Yes in general all this is right but there can be many exceptions and you cannot start condemning an older guys for being with a younger girl unless you know the people you are talking about.
I did not condemn the 35 year old. I simply questioned his motives.
And as for the father of your family members child - I DO most certainly condemn him. The guy committed adultery, got the woman pregnant and now is basically a bigamist. I condemn him now and tomorrow and probably for many years to come.
The guy is a pig. Period.
 
I did not condemn the 35 year old. I simply questioned his motives.
And as for the father of your family members child - I DO most certainly condemn him. The guy committed adultery, got the woman pregnant and now is basically a bigamist. I condemn him now and tomorrow and probably for many years to come.
The guy is a pig. Period.

Wow. I know him and I think he is a really sincere and genuine guy.
 
You may be right. I just don't trust guys that openly make it a habit of pursuing women barely out of their teens when the guys are not far from middle age.

I just don't trust guys! - until I get to know them. But I think older guys are as trustworthy as younger. It is not that I think you are wrong about how older men can be but that you aer wrong in thinking younger guys are more OK.
Mel
 
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