My girlfriend wants to do porn

[BNF]

If you give her the ok make sure your the only guy she performs with like Crissy Moran did with her boyfriend. Cause you don't want a bunch of random guys screwing your girlfriend. If she's going to get fucked on camarea make sure its by you.

Which Crissy has stated was a mistake.

I'm still suggesting that porn for money is a permanent "solution" to a temporary "problem".

I also respect the fact that she wants your approval, but IMO it's no win whatever you decide. You'll be holding her back if you say no and going against your own wishes if you say yes. It's a question, that if was asked to me, would have me considering "cut-n-run".

 

[FreshFish]

Which Crissy has stated was a mistake.QUOTE]

What do you mean by that, is she going to retire, she better not, she has a gorgeous face nice big jlo ass, cute smile. please dont quit!

Oh yeah, i would probably want to marry Crissy Moran,Sandee Westgate, and veronica something nova too!:bowdown:

 

[scrock]

Lots of money to be made...chances are that if your girl is sexual enough to want to do porn...well..it's going to be hard to control her anyway

http://www.adultcatering.com - some freebies

 

[bendher]

If I was you (their is no way to change her mind) I'd start a website just for her so she wouldn't have to need.......co-stars, or dump her but remain friends or just tell her why you don't want her to do it and why she shouldn't do it maybe that would change her mind :2 cents:

 

[bigbenny]

I wish my girlfriend would get a job....

 

[Aegis]

I am more with Calpoon here... a lot of people seem to think it's okay to get off on these women, but should their own women have these kinds of desires and what not, then god forbit it. How many men here (some, but not most) would say no to sex with all the hot pornstars, and getting paid for it. So naturally some women want to do it, too. It pays well and if you're open minded it can be a fun and enjoyable and sexy profession.

I think that you're mixing the desire to watch and enjoy porn, and the wish to make porn. You can't compare one persons's interest in watching porn and fantasizing, to another person's wish to have sex with strangers on camera.

Even if we talk about many men wanting to fuck their favorite pornstars, that's still not the same as if they want to do it on camera and show it to the world.

 

[calpoon]

I think that you're mixing the desire to watch and enjoy porn, and the wish to make porn. You can't compare one persons's interest in watching porn and fantasizing, to another person's wish to have sex with strangers on camera.

Even if we talk about many men wanting to fuck their favorite pornstars, that's still not the same as if they want to do it on camera and show it to the world.

why not?

I'm not trying to patronize, I really am asking what the difference is, and how you draw a line between the two.

 

[Aegis]

why not?

I'm not trying to patronize, I really am asking what the difference is, and how you draw a line between the two.

I don't really know how much you'd like me to elaborate on what I find to be the differences between watching porn and making porn.

Personally I think that's pretty obvious in itself, but that may just be my way of viewing it.

 

[calpoon]

i'm just trying to wrap my head around how getting off to someone else that's not your partner works in a monogamous relationship. and I don't see a distintion between actually doing it or not, because as long as someone wants to do it, then I'm inclined to believe that the only reason they don't is a lack of oppurtunity.

 

[Aegis]

i'm just trying to wrap my head around how getting off to someone else that's not your partner works in a monogamous relationship. and I don't see a distintion between actually doing it or not, because as long as someone wants to do it, then I'm inclined to believe that the only reason they don't is a lack of oppurtunity.

Many couples watch porn. I don't really see it as a desire to actually have sex with any other than their partner, but rather a way to spice up their sex life, or to help them masturbate when alone.
As for it only being a matter of lack of opportunity, that may very well be the case for many people, but I'd still say that people like to fantasize about things they wouldn't really want to do in real life. It could be because it's physically impossible, it's illegal, they don't want to cheat on their partner or some other thing.
I think that's a a good thing to have some fantasies, and I'd be hesitant to always label people as if they actually want to do the things they like to think about.

 

[bigdaddytodd22]

If you love your girlfriend, let her follow her dreams. Yes, it could be bad or good. It can add spice in your love life with each other. Never know!!!!!

 

[ninetysixcavy]

You can't make a hoe a housewife. But can you make a housewife a hoe?

WTH was that post? Anyway, that's my :2 cents:

No: I would never let my woman do some shit with fifteen-hundred other blokes. No fuckin way. I don't trust anybody anymore with all these diseases and shit, and I am a very private mofo , and I think my girl adheres to my personality. Nah, I'm too old (at 25 ) and I don't even like porn. I just like looking at naked women posing in pictures. :glugglug:

 

[ninetysixcavy]

If you want a housewife, the 50s are over, my friend. These days women are anything and everything they want to be. I know you're joking, but a lot of men aren't joking when they're looking for a housewife, a good mother, a lady in the street but a freak in the bed, or a virgin... and guess what... those things aren't how women are defined or how women define themselves. Your woman should not be your housewife, nor your sex toy, but should be your everything - or at least your most things. Your best friend. Your confidente. Your partner in life and in bed and in crime. Someone you can tell your deepest secrets, fears and desires to, and someone who feels comfortable telling you hers. Until people find that person, they are foolish to marry anyone, because they are jumping the gun and missing out on real closeness and infinite togetherness.

Uh, oh...I think I'm in jail.

I can trust my girl with anything, and likewise, she can trust me. It's so hard to find that, and I am starting to think that's it for me with messing around with other women, because I don't know if it will be that easy to find that again. Shit.

 

[hedonis]

i'm just trying to wrap my head around how getting off to someone else that's not your partner works in a monogamous relationship. and I don't see a distintion between actually doing it or not, because as long as someone wants to do it, then I'm inclined to believe that the only reason they don't is a lack of oppurtunity.

Completely not true. Men have a tendency to be very visual creatures, as a general rule, so a visual aid is what comes in handy when men masturbate. Using a visual tool like porn (whether it's a magazine, a video, the internet, etc.) I think is what *keeps* a lot of men from seeking partners outside their relationship.

I've been a fan of watching, or "using" porn for around 2 decades now, and I've never one time even considered cheating on a person I was in a monogamous relationship with. Porn was/is just a way to keep the mind aroused while taking care of business.

H

 

[FreshFish]

Man, so much to read, im getting tired of this link. Smallville, if you feel like your relationship is doomed, i would say let her do porn, your going to break-up anyway, get some of the loot while your both together. If you care about her and vice versa(< I always wanted to put that in a sentance:glugglug: ) dont let her do it PERIOD!:fight:

 

[hedonis]

You're right, men tend to be more visual creatures, and that is the conventional wisdom. And you're right, pornography probably shouldn't be considered cheating. And on my advice website I often tell girls that say as much, well, think about it, he's not really cheating, just using visual aids to fantasize.

But at the end of the day it's all down to the couple, and the individuals, and what they define as cheating. If a woman - or man - decides that looking at naked pictures is cheating, as controlling as that may seem, it is an issue that cannot just be dismissed. If you do it behind her back, you are "cheating" on her per se, because you're lying to her, or being deceitful. Trust is far far more important than monogamy. Monogamy is a rule many couples make for their relationship. Trust is something *every* couple *needs* to have *inherently* to survive.

So as much as I agree with your assessment of "men" being visual, a lot of women are visual too, and the female equivalent would be reading romance novels maybe, or Penthouse Forum - and a lot of the women who don't want their men looking at porn may not do those "female equivalents" and may feel he is sharing his sexual desire and energy with other women through porn.

I don't agree with that - but I understand it. It can't just be ignored or dismissed. A hell of a lot of women I know feel that way about porn. Maybe some men don't want their woman rubbing her clit thinking about being fucked in the ass by Brad Pitt or George Clooney or Tyson Beckford or frikkin David Beckham... it's kind of similar, isn't it?

Now me - I'm fine with it, both ways, and I think we should all aspire to be more sexually tolerant, open, to share everything... but that doesn't change the fact that some women don't want their men looking at porn, and doing it behind her back is the same as doing anything else behind her back. It is lying, deceitful... if you can't be honest with her about your sexuality, you're not as close as she thinks you are, which means you're not very sexually close at all. Which is lonely for you, and sad for her, in a way.

Anyway, bottom line is, I don't think "men are visual creatures" is an excuse for looking at porn. I don't think we NEED an excuse, although I often say that to women, that we're visual creatures. The truth is every man and woman are different, and some of us are visual creatures but we are also secretive creatures, and if your woman wants to know you and be close to you and you are keeping your pornstar and magazine model desires to yourself, then you haven't reached the level of sexual sharing that it is possible to reach if you trust someone completely and absolutely and know they will not judge you - and you can be yourself with them. There is little more satisfying in life than knowing your partner could know your every thought - and still love you just as much.

Fox

Fox, anyone ever tell you that you think too much? :glugglug: Sometimes it's a wonder to me that your head doesn't explode with all the stuff bouncing around in there. But then, like me, your a KC Chiefs fan, so you have to do something to keep the pain at a minimum... :thumbsup:

H

 

[calpoon]

I've been a fan of watching, or "using" porn for around 2 decades now, and I've never one time even considered cheating on a person I was in a monogamous relationship with. Porn was/is just a way to keep the mind aroused while taking care of business.

H

well, that's actually my point. I don't really consider it cheating either. it's not because it doesn't take anything away from or change the situation of your relationship. a relationship is just that between two people. anything else that they do outside of it doesn't have to effect it. that's what I've been saying all along.

I guess I should share my expereince that made me realize this. I was seeing someone and she decided that she wanted to be a stripper. I was a pretty jealous guy at the time so I wasn't very happy about it. eventually we talked about it and it changed my mind when I realized that it was just a job and all of the guys that watched her could pay a million dollars and they'd never have the part of her that she shared with me.

 

[FreshFish]

Get some of the loot? What's the loot? Are they bank robbers? If they'd told me they were bank robbers and just come out and been honest about it, my advice would have been very different - like "hide the money at Fox's house, then turn yourselves in".

You always wanted to put what in a "sentance"? "Vice Versa"? "Loot"? "Period?" Are you saying you should switch roles with her to get some of her loot while she's on her period? I don't get it.

Loot=money,cash,get rich.
Vice Versa=you kinda got that right.
If i said i was going to get laid, would you think that i mean get somes eggs?or lay eggs? Or my girl slobed my knob, would you think that i meant she sucked on the door handle? If i said im going to the John, you would probably think im gay? I bet if i told you that im going fishing at some lake, you probably think that i meant that im going to hit on some girls? :laugh:

 

[FreshFish]

So what happened with everything smaleeville or whoever started this thread? updates!

 

[Member2019]

Well, you have to shed the jealousy, obviously, but it's really a bigger picture ...

While I am a bit of a jealous person,

Well, the first thing you have to shed is the jealousy. She will not only be with other men, but hanging with them for photoshoots, promos, etc..., often very "friendly." If you can recognize it is all in the professional matter, or even just "having good fun" (she's in the spotlight, lusted by many), then it might be right for you and her.

Although you'll have to take a caring role, separate from your emotions and focus more hers -- especially when you feel she's been neglecting you at times (as all of us men feel) and she is very vunerable. The industry can be very demanding, demeaning and even a bit too "care free" at times that she might not like it at times. If your love is strong, with that level of caring, then it will work for you and her however it works out, however far she wants to pursue it.

the thought is kind of a turn on imagining my girl as a porn star,

The question is, what will you bring with that? Just what you will want to imagine, or all the reality that comes with it.

especially when she also said she would have no problems bringing girls home for me so she's not the only one having fun.

But there may be times when she doesn't have fun. Be ready. If you're both into having an "open" relationship, then maybe you can start that even outside of porn and see if it works there first. Just a thought (if you haven't already).

Is this doomed to failure or could it be an interesting adventure?

It's all about both of you being honest about what you value, what you are open to and what you find will work for both of you, and not so much about "compromises." I wish you the best of luck in whatever path it leads you down.