I've Fallen For My Neighbor

[sancho jose]

Be very careful with this one.

 

[gunslingingbird]

Be very careful with this one.

Wow! What great insight! A regular Dear Abby, he is!

 

[Dream_Deceiver]

When is this going to be in Jerry Springer or Ricky Lake?
Sorry for that.

Probably she's afraid of leaving him, so he wouldn't do something bad.
I just hope that ends good for you both, with you dating her.

 

[alexpnz]

Be VERY careful with this one Fam!.......I was kinda in the same situation but w/ my bosses daughter (I know, another story for another time!) and its drug on for years with no real future in the relationship.....BUT I can tell you this much......certain chicks just dig being treated like shit, chances are if she saw her mom be treated like shit (if that was the case!?) its the only way she knows how to go about being w/ a man!
If by chance you do get her away......dont be suprised if she gets sick of being treated like a queen and goes back to what she knows best!!!

Good luck Fam! I can sorta relate as i said earler and I'm rootin for ya!!!

BTW.....been 10 years and I still havent got her 100%

 

[TITS KING]

So what..........just be careful......she may spank your......

 

[lovejoy]

The real answer to this situation is:

1. She is a "user". She takes what she can get and you come along. She will take anything and if things don't go her way, she will go back to her bf.

2. This kind of woman is NOT worth your time. If she is mature enough, she will NOT be in this shape, constant bickering, arguing for what ?? Think ! Brother !

 

[gunslingingbird]

^ Violator and lovejoy are brothers? :eek: That explains a few things. :thumbsup:

 

[abc_tongue_xyz]

That's kind of a long time. Philbert made a point to say that she is probably attracted to assholes. If she's been with this jerkoff for a year or so, he's probably right.

Sure, You Might treat her really nice and You Might be a great guy, but if she's been dating an asshole for a year or two, she probably isn't attracted to guys like you. She's probably attracted to the assholes; the guys who treat her like shit. Then, in her few moments of weakness, she'll turn to a guy like you for temporary comfort and support (making it seem like she wants you, even though she's using you), then, after you've made her feel better about herself, she'll run right back into the arms of the asshole boyfriend.

I would let this one go if I were you.

:2 cents:

I'd firmly agree. Some women just gravitate toward the jerks. You're there to prop her up and validate her....she is using you, not consciously or maliciously.

 

[Violator79]

You're going to love this one:


I got home from work a few minutes ago, and her boyfriend opened the door to see if I was bringing something, and I just flat out said "If you have a problem with me, just say it. Be a man and tell me." He said it's me that has a problem with him. I said damn right I do and gave the reasons why. I just wanted to come home and relax, but now, thanks to him I'm all wound up and ready to go a few rounds.

 

[ChefChiTown]

You're going to love this one:


I got home from work a few minutes ago, and her boyfriend opened the door to see if I was bringing something, and I just flat out said "If you have a problem with me, just say it. Be a man and tell me." He said it's me that has a problem with him. I said damn right I do and gave the reasons why. I just wanted to come home and relax, but now, thanks to him I'm all wound up and ready to go a few rounds.

That's not going to help you win this girl over.

 

[Violator79]

That's not going to help you win this girl over.

Well maybe it'll help her see that she's with a no good, worthless loser. I just hope she wakes up realizes that he's the wrong guy for her.

 

[titsrock]

^
I think you have to watch out or your "chivalry" might be interpreted as bullyism by him and later on by her.

Does he currently live with her or does he just sleep over because he has nothing else to do?

I think you already told her your feelings and you need to let her get rid of the piece of shit boyfriend.

You don't really want to get entangled in a domestic situation or have this boyfriend decide that fucking with you and your apartment becomes a pastime for him....

 

[sassysue]

It's sweet that you like her, but if she really wants you she will go with you. She may be really attached to guy, maybe before drugs. He could have had a life event that triggered all this and she has an attachment to him. They have history.

Unfortunately for you, she probably doesn't have the same degree of feelings for you as you have for her.

 

[ChefChiTown]

Well maybe it'll help her see that she's with a no good, worthless loser. I just hope she wakes up realizes that he's the wrong guy for her.

How do you know he's wrong for her? Maybe he actually makes her happy and it just seems as though he is a dick. It's hard to tell what people want until they act on it.

If he was such a bad boyfriend, why should be going out with him for so long? Possible answer: Maybe she likes the way he treats her, even if you don't.

^
I think you have to watch out or your "chivalry" might be interpreted as bullyism by him and later on by her.

That's a good point. You have to remember that chivalry is dead, so when a girl sees it, it will spook her. I held the door open for one of my female friends once and she honestly said the following, "I can open my own fucking door, THANKS".

It just goes to show that chivalry can backfire because, for some reason, some women actually like being treated like shit.

 

[laxe]

Well maybe it'll help her see that she's with a no good, worthless loser. I just hope she wakes up realizes that he's the wrong guy for her.

Hate to burst your bubble, but that's how all guys feel when we see a girl we like, and see her boyfriend. No matter what, we're going to think that we're better for her and that her BF is a waste of DNA.

 

[laxe]

ok, i've been holding off on this for a while, but the time has come for everyone's advice:

About 6 months ago, i got a new neighbor and let me say she's absolutely beautiful. At first we just casually talked and that was the extent of it. But lately, i've found myself totally falling for her. There's only one little problem: She has a boyfriend. But let me tell you about him: He's unemployed, on probation, her whole family hates him and he is an asshole in the truest form. He does nothing but sleeps 23 1/2 out of 24 hours a day, bitches and argues with her over the smallest things and from i've heard, since the walls are thin, he can't even fuck her right and sure as hell doesn't make love to her like a real man should.

Now before you say it, i know i shouldn't get involved with their business and for the most part i don't. I do, however, treat her better than he ever could. i've bought her a steelers super bowl shirt and a couple days later i heard him say to her "burn it." she didn't do it. She said she'd pay me back but i told her she owes me nothing for it. I've made sure she was alright one night after he made her cry so hard i was seeing red. The kicker is, earlier tonight after i got home from work, i could tell they were fucked up, as in high as a kite. They had to go somewhere and i offered to drive them because i didn't want her driving in her condition. She said she was alright, but she did say she'd pick me up at the store since i went for a walk. She did come a little while later and her boyfriend wasn't with her. She told me that he's a little weirded out over how nice i am to her. I flat out told her she should dump him and gave the reasons why. She said he's jealous over how i treat her.

She said she does like me (and not as a brother, which is a big win), and she doesn't know what to do. I told her i care very much about her and if he has a problem with me, be a man and say it to my face. The only reason i haven't beat the shit out of her boyfriend is she begged me to calm down, and i listened to her. I think about her all the time. We're perfect for each other.

Now my question is: Should i keep treating her better than her boyfriend and keep making him jealous? Keep in mind i don't act like her boyfriend. All i told her is i'm there if she needs me and if he ever lays a finger on her, he's going to the hospital.

lmao

 

[bert the banana]

Speaking only as a guy who used to be the asshole standing between you and this girl. That asshole until I found Jesus Christ and decided to stop drinking, doing drug, having sex with strangers and beating my girlfriend so hard I had to go to the hospital because I fucked up my hands.

I would stay far away from that shit. If that guy is anything like I used to be, he'll fuck you up so bad you'll be shitting in a bag and breathing through a tube. So don't do it. I beg you stay away from those people.

Praise God!
Don't do drugs!

Bert The Banana

 

[knowone]

One possibility: asshole provokes you, you deck him, she comforts him, and you get charged with assault, maybe harassment, stalking, etc.
Women that put up with assholes are illogical/unpredictable, your involvement should begin & end with calling 911.

 

[Dream_Deceiver]

Speaking only as a guy who used to be the asshole standing between you and this girl. That asshole until I found Jesus Christ and decided to stop drinking, doing drug, having sex with strangers and beating my girlfriend so hard I had to go to the hospital because I fucked up my hands.

I would stay far away from that shit. If that guy is anything like I used to be, he'll fuck you up so bad you'll be shitting in a bag and breathing through a tube. So don't do it. I beg you stay away from those people.

Praise God!
Don't do drugs!

Bert The Banana

Use drugs!
Don't praise God!

 

[Violator79]

^
I think you have to watch out or your "chivalry" might be interpreted as bullyism by him and later on by her.

Does he currently live with her or does he just sleep over because he has nothing else to do?

I think you already told her your feelings and you need to let her get rid of the piece of shit boyfriend.

You don't really want to get entangled in a domestic situation or have this boyfriend decide that fucking with you and your apartment becomes a pastime for him....

Yes, he does live with her because he can't support himself. As I said before, he does not work at all. I think it's a strain for him to even get out of bed, let alone find a job.

I'm not worried at all about him fucking with me or my apartment. He's paranoid as all hell about me calling the cops about him doing some coke or some 'shrooms(while he's on probation for drugs) that I don't think he's stupid enough to do anything. If he wants to go a few rounds with me, fine and dandy. I won't get in as much trouble as he will. Another thing he doesn't know is all I have to do is make one phone call to a certain someone and his ass is going to jail for drugs. He has NOTHING to get me with. I don't have any illegal things here, plus I haven't thrown any punches or fucked with his shit. I totally have him by the balls and he can't do anything about it, except kill me, which I'm not worried about.

How do you know he's wrong for her? Maybe he actually makes her happy and it just seems as though he is a dick. It's hard to tell what people want until they act on it.

If he was such a bad boyfriend, why should be going out with him for so long? Possible answer: Maybe she likes the way he treats her, even if you don't.



That's a good point. You have to remember that chivalry is dead, so when a girl sees it, it will spook her. I held the door open for one of my female friends once and she honestly said the following, "I can open my own fucking door, THANKS".

It just goes to show that chivalry can backfire because, for some reason, some women actually like being treated like shit.

Chef, trust me when I say he's a dick, to the highest sense of the word. Earlier today he had a friend stop by and he was arguing with him over nothing. Even Dana stormed out, called him an asshole and left. If that doesn't say he's a dick, I don't know what does. I'm telling you, he's the wrong guy for her. I'd say they get along.....30% of the time, maybe less, and that's when he's sober! I'm not even going to start to describe him when he's drunk or wasted. Oh, he doesn't get mildly drunk, he gets totally shitfaced drunk and it's not pretty.