How do u flirt?

[shayd]

I always hated flirting. I stunk at it. Eventually, I found I was at my best when I accepted exactly who and what I was - for the better and for the worse.
Since then, I NEVER try to pretend to be the slightest bit better then I am. I would rather they were pleasantly surprised with me later on then moderately disappointed.

I am completely honest about myself and my thoughts and feelings. And I expect them to be relatively similar - or I will not retain a significant emotional interest in them.
They can ask me any question they like - and I will answer it honestly. Or I will tell her that I do not feel comfortable enough to tell her. But I try never to lie or exaggerate in the slightest. But if they ask a personal question; they better be prepared to answer one themselves - to the same extent of openness as I did. Otherwise, an emotional bonding between the two of us will be more difficult. And this is the same if I have just met her or have known her for 5 years, though I realize most people are uncomfortable doing it this way.

Basically, I treat her like an equal. A more feminine equal. And I try to never forget to treat her as I would wish to be treated.

It ain't rocket science. We are all in this thing called life together.

Don't try and use them. And don't be naive in case they are trying to use you because many WILL try and use you (both intentionally and unintentionally).

The bottom line is: everyone wants to be loved - even jerks (IMO).

I think you're on to something there. I was terrible at it too. When I was much younger I tried to always play it off and act cool, which in hindsight was just stupid. All I ever really had going for me (in terms of flirting) was a sense of humor.

 

[zand_stein]

i just stare at her then if she looks at me and smiles.....ill start flirting!!!!!!

 

[shayd]

My style of flirtting is usually picking on the girl slightly. Not being mean, just innocent winding up. You need to know her before for it to work though, like if she's at your college or you work together. Then it never fails for me.

Come to think of it, that's almost spot on what I do. It usually goes from harmless teasing and builds from there.

 

[McRocket]

A chick is typically an ****** lover - lots to talk about there too.

:thumbsup:

Plus - DON'T call them 'chicks'.

They are women or girls (if they are under 18 years of age) or gals or a few other terms.

But they are not chicks.

Unless you have some thing for baby chickens.

 

[member006]

Talk and be yourself. I don't care for flirting myself. I can't advise as to how. :dunno:Why do you think everyone isn't an actor? Most don't do it well at all. lol As soon as you try to be anything else, it will shine through and most woman don't want phonies.

A good connection and foundation for any relationship with a person is a natural thing. Besides even if the "phony" stuff works. Soon the real you will come out and that usually ends the relationship fast as hell.

Lyrics: If it don't come easy, you better let it go.
'Cos when it don't come easy, there's no natural flow.

Just my :2 cents:

LL

 

[O85]

With great awkwardness.

lol yeah

 

[free4440273]

i suspect with more and more internet dating, there is less and less need for initial flirting. sure, it's got to happen when you actually meet each other but...just my two cents

 

[ElStupido]

Just say...HOW YOU DOIN!

 

[dustin102987]

just look at them, "hey, how's it going?" and roll from there. not too fast, not too slow.

 

[sterobbo01]

Carefully so the wife doesn't notice. Ha!

 

[anomaly]

Whats your style? Do u go straight up to the person.. or what? What do u talk? i need some advices!
:helpme:

Hey! You get anywhere with the ladies yet.

 

[The perfect 1]

Well.. i have talk to girls more.. and am talking to this girl who i like very much.. but we haven't seen we just are talking on the phone ( 4 days ) and i like her a lot.. Am planning to see her this Saturday... The problem is that she live like 1 or 1 and half hour from where i live... and she is very beautiful.. she as a lot of guys hitting on her.. but she wants to meet me and see what happens.. I sometimes get jealous because she say that many guys like her. ( but i don't tell her that am jealous ) but i will do anything to work a relationship.. what u guys think? :helpme:

 

[ChefChiTown]

The best way to flirt with a girl is to not flirt with her at all. Go ahead...give it a minute and let it soak in.

:dunno:

 

[CapnSexy322]

Well.. i have talk to girls more.. and am talking to this girl who i like very much.. but we haven't seen we just are talking on the phone ( 4 days ) and i like her a lot.. Am planning to see her this Saturday... The problem is that she live like 1 or 1 and half hour from where i live... and she is very beautiful.. she as a lot of guys hitting on her.. but she wants to meet me and see what happens.. I sometimes get jealous because she say that many guys like her. ( but i don't tell her that am jealous ) but i will do anything to work a relationship.. what u guys think? :helpme:

dude you definitely have to meet up with her. If you meet with her face to face, you have a better chance of hopefully work up a relationship with her. You also have to gain up the courage to talk to her. You see, you're confident right now since you're not talkin to her face to face and if you go see her unprepared, you might look strange/weird. Try practicing with a friend who is a girl or in the mirror. You just have to make sure you can carry a conversation and act like you do when you're talking to her on the phone. Basically, just be yourself man and you'll do fine. Good Luck Dude

 

[Joaqo]

i usually aproach the girl get nervous say some stupid **** then the girl either laughs or totally ignores me, if she laughs then i'm practically saved then you just have to chat a bit and see where that takes you.

 

[devlinvelez]

Flirt....? Hell I can't even get a girl to notice me...maybe I should get on that show on VH1 with that Mystery guy!