Do you let your girl sunbathe topless?

[Smallville417]

No problem with it at all, it's her body. I love a woman with confidence.

 

[LaLiLuLeLohan]

Actually, in the US..he doesn't have a say (per se) in it. She is free to do what she wants to which her man either approves of it or he doesn't. If he doesn't he can grin an bear it or leave.:dunno:

What? Having a say in a matter doesn't mean you actual control somebody's actions. Obviously a woman can ultimately do what she wants, that's exactly what I said.

 

[JulianNorth]

That's one of the dumbest things I've read on this board. He obviously meant "let" to mean "are you OK with."

A boyfriend/husband absolutely has say in the matter of whether or not his girlfriend/wife decides to be topless/naked in front of people. Of course it's her decision...just like it'd be her decision to fuck other men, get fat or stop bathing, but it wouldn't make him a "cavemen" if he objected to it or hated it. Relationships are give and take.

Anyway, back to the question. I've been to nude beaches in Florida with my girl and loved it. I had no problem with people looking. In the summer, it's not uncommon to have friends over in the backyard for some BBQ or just a lazy afternoon by the pool and its not uncommon for my girl to be wearing only a bikini bottom and flip-flops.

Seeing boobs jiggle as my girl flips some turkey burgers on the grill is one of those things I'll never get bored of seeing.

Well said.

Don't understand how so many people got the wrong end of the stick about this. Of course I didn't mean 'let her' as in if she wanted to sunbathe topless I would tell her she's not allowed and be horrible to her. I love her and repect her choices as any sane partner does.

What I meant is how would you feel about it? I Just find it interesting because some guys are totally cool with it while others are not at all.

J

 

[Sparky Shortz]

Only you could come up with this :rofl2: :rofl2:

My girlfriend right now is my left hand and she gets plenty of sun when we drive.

 

[Sparky Shortz]

Any guy I've ever been with had no problem with me sunbathing topless or naked for that all over tan...it really doesn't matter...a lot of AMERICANS have a problem with sex...really dumb!! The only thing I have to counter is the dumb ass kids on the trampoline living behind me :thefinger

 

[Shifty]

The only thing I have to counter is the dumb ass kids on the trampoline living behind me :thefinger

How many trampolines have they worn out so far? :tongue:

 

[roronoa3000]

Any guy I've ever been with had no problem with me sunbathing topless or naked for that all over tan...it really doesn't matter...a lot of AMERICANS have a problem with sex...really dumb!! The only thing I have to counter is the dumb ass kids on the trampoline living behind me :thefinger

Amateurs, you are supposed to drill a peep hole in the fence.

 

[chester90210]

How many trampolines have they worn out so far? :tongue:

Really, trampoline, binoculars, periscopes!

 

[Hot Mega]

What? Having a say in a matter doesn't mean you actual control somebody's actions. Obviously a woman can ultimately do what she wants, that's exactly what I said.

I understand what you think your premise is but I'm not going to presume that someone didn't state their position accurately to begin with.

"let", "have-a-say", whatever...obviously there are some people who actually believe it amounts to them letting someone do something.

If it merely amounts to would you like if the women you're with sunbathes topless or not....then how does "have-a-say" play a role? Those are still 2, different things.:2 cents:

 

[prof_porn]

Me and my buddy were discussing this tonight. I don't think it's as much of a big deal here in Europe as it is in the States, but do you/would you let your other half sunbathe topless when other people are around?

It's not a big deal for me because my girl does porn, so a lot of guys have seen way more than just her tits. But I kind of enjoy showing her off and seeing other guys stare at her safe in the knowledge that she's mine.

My friend was on the opposite end of the scale and says he would never let his girlfriend do it. He thinks I'm crazy, but he wasn't complaining when he came on holiday with us.

Interested to know your thoughts, J

Whose your girl?

I have no issue with nudity. Single atm, but as a rule.

 

[busty_kiki]

not for me..

 

[grower_boy]

Give me a hell, give me a yeah. Stand up right now! And look my girl's tits! They're great aren't they? Give me a hell, give me a yeah. Stand up right now! And look my girl's tits! They're great aren't they? Give me a hell, give me a yeah. Stand up right now! And look my girl's tits! They're great aren't they? Give me a hell, give me a yeah. Stand up right now! And look my girl's tits! They're great aren't they?

 

[Peter Gazinya]

It's not a big deal for me because my girl does porn, so a lot of guys have seen way more than just her tits. But I kind of enjoy showing her off and seeing other guys stare at her safe in the knowledge that she's mine.

Shouldn't that be rephrased to say "It's no big deal for me because my girl does porn, so alot of guys fuck her up the ass and cum in her face on a daily basis. But I feel safe in the knowledge that she's mine" :dunno:

And, oh yeah, I'm with the crowd that believes if you have a girl, you don't "let" or "not let" her do anything. She does what she does and you're with her or you're not.

 

[LaLiLuLeLohan]

I understand what you think your premise is but I'm not going to presume that someone didn't state their position accurately to begin with.

"let", "have-a-say", whatever...obviously there are some people who actually believe it amounts to them letting someone do something.

If it merely amounts to would you like if the women you're with sunbathes topless or not....then how does "have-a-say" play a role? Those are still 2, different things.:2 cents:

Booth Babe introduced "say" into the conversation. "You have no say whatsoever in the matter." which is an absoluytely ridiculous thing to, well, say.

Last month I was thinking about doing something silly and dropping $2,500 on a Kel Tec RFB, ACOG and a couple of cases of 7.62 Nato, but even though I make my own income, we live together and share expenses and she's my partner so she inevitably had a say in the matter. She also had a say when I started my bodysuit. After all, she'll have to look at it more than I will. That's how rational adults act when they are in a committed relationship. We all know that.

It's unfortunate that there are still people who view their significant others as controlled property, but Julian North's initial post was pretty clear and it was obvious that he wasn't suggesting the husbands and boyfriends impede on free will. But relationships are about compromise, tolerances and respect of each others' views and feelings, so feigning outrage and dragging out the cliché caveman rhetoric over as simple question seems to be a bit much. :2 cents:

 

[Facetious]

My great granddaughter lets her daughter sunbathe topless, wtf ! :spin:

 

[Hot Mega]

Booth Babe introduced "say" into the conversation. "You have no say whatsoever in the matter." which is an absoluytely ridiculous thing to, well, say.

Last month I was thinking about doing something silly and dropping $2,500 on a Kel Tec RFB, ACOG and a couple of cases of 7.62 Nato, but even though I make my own income, we live together and share expenses and she's my partner so she inevitably had a say in the matter. She also had a say when I started my bodysuit. After all, she'll have to look at it more than I will. That's how rational adults act when they are in a committed relationship. We all know that.

It's unfortunate that there are still people who view their significant others as controlled property, but Julian North's initial post was pretty clear and it was obvious that he wasn't suggesting the husbands and boyfriends impede on free will. But relationships are about compromise, tolerances and respect of each others' views and feelings, so feigning outrage and dragging out the cliché caveman rhetoric over as simple question seems to be a bit much. :2 cents:

Well there are people who think exactly like the OP expressed his question. Again, I'm not going to presume what he really meant. People addressed his question as it was posed.

If you have a problem with the responses to the question as posed...it's not with the people who are responding on point but with the one who asked the question.:2 cents:

To your post here, shared financial interest means shared consent most of the time. Not the same issue. Case closed.

If you want to make all of your own decisions about your time, money, etc. - be single.

While being in a relationship generally means you owe someone else consideration on some issues, it doesn't preclude you from having reasonable autonomy over your person.

Having a "say" respecting your sig other's personal decisions merely amounts to expressing your opinion on it. Ideally you'd want to be with someone who respects your judgement, opinions, morals, etc. enough that they value your inputs and seriously considers them. If not, maybe you're with the wrong person.

At the end of it, each person is free to do what they want irrespective of the issue. The other person just has to decide if they want to live with it or not.

That's my final volley in this tennis match.

 

[LaLiLuLeLohan]

Well there are people who think exactly like the OP expressed his question. Again, I'm not going to presume what he really meant. People addressed his question as it was posed.

If you have a problem with the responses to the question as posed...it's not with the people who are responding on point but with the one who asked the question.:2 cents:

I read the question as posed. It was accompanied with a clear account of Julian's philosophy and openness towards his girlfriend and the decisions she makes. I'm not going to pretend that reaching and playing semantics in order to demonstrate some faux knee-jerk anger is a reasonable response.

To your post here, shared financial interest means shared consent most of the time. Not the same issue. Case closed.

If you want to make all of your own decisions about your time, money, etc. - be single.

Declaring a case closed after qualifying it with, "most of the time." That's almost definitely brilliant.

I share no contractual obligations with my gf. But we share certain expenses thanks to a healthy dialog and mutual responsibility sharing. You can say that we each have a say in how we choose to spend. Though I'm fairly certain that me buying a rifle with my extra income doesn't require shared consent.

While being in a relationship generally means you owe someone else consideration on some issues, it doesn't preclude you from having reasonable autonomy over your person.

Having a "say" respecting your sig other's personal decisions merely amounts to expressing your opinion on it. Ideally you'd want to be with someone who respects your judgement, opinions, morals, etc. enough that they value your inputs and seriously considers them. If not, maybe you're with the wrong person.

At the end of it, each person is free to do what they want irrespective of the issue. The other person just has to decide if they want to live with it or not.

That's my final volley in this tennis match.

I've said absolutely nothing contrary to that.

 

[hk727]

Sure. Not a problem at all.

 

[HELLRAISER]

Hey fellas, enough with all the silly talk about this. How about posting pics and videos here that show your GFs topless sunbathing

 

[JulianNorth]

bump?