Ask Jemma Valentine anything ;)

I get where you're coming from but anal doesn't usually feel like a very submissive act for me- probably because I experience it as pleasure rather than pain. I feel like A2M is more of a submissive act for me than anal penetration itself, although the two often go hand in hand. For me the most private would be parts of my mind rather than my physical being.

Which is why the A2M is so popular. :)

I learned how to gape from doing webcam modeling, so it's probably also that a lot of my anal action for camera has been in my control as well. It must feel very good for a man to fuck a woman's holes so much that you can see them staying open in lieu of the penetration, so I can see how to a man the gape is very sub.

I believe that the keyword here is control. A man who gapes an anus has to some extent control over it, or that it at least what he feels as he looks into it. Same thing with the A2M: the man who puts his cock into a woman's mouth and has her clean it even though she does not like to to so is certainly in control over the woman. Same thing with the webcam: he requests it and you perform. He is in control and you anus opens on command. If you performed for me I would instruct you in detail what to do. First, how to stand, how to spread your ass, and how and when to contract your anus in close-up. Then, when to lower your anus over the dildo, when to stop, when to go back up. And finally when and how to move things and fingers between your holes.

So you see, when we want to fuck you in the ass, what we really that mind of yours we want to fuck.

As a man, you want women to submit to you because that demonstrates that you have value to them. They will do unpleasant things just to demonstrate their submission and the value they place in the man. It's very much to put the money where the mouth is, so to speak. And this is the fantasy, or in some cases reality, that porn plays into. Unfortunately simply paying for the pleasure does not work. I am sure that I could get some poor camgirl in Thailand do almost everything to please my credit card, but whatever she did it would simply be a coincidence of development and trade economics. It would have very little to do with me as a person, and that is why Thai camgirls are of very little interest to me.

Conversely, the reason women tend to find the same sexual scenarios interesting---just look at any site dedicated to erotica---is that women simply desire the other side of the coin: the man of such quality for whom they would actually endure all that pain and humiliation. Or just extra work. E.g. when I instruct a woman to keep her anus ready for anal sex and then, when I bend her over a bench, find a butt plug in her and that an enema has been administered. That adds value the the following for both of us.

I have some bdsm stuff in a list that I will post soon and more coming up :)

Just remember that for it to really work it has to be a bit humiliating. But still, as a part of the paying audience, you only get half the fun if even that.

A real cane will always leave more of an impression than a velvet whip or whatever. ;)
 

Jemma Valentine

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Hey Jemma!
First I want to say that I find you gorgeous. I recently saw an anal scene with you and Tiffany Doll and thought you were amazing in it. The way you look at and talk dirty at the camera is really hot.
I want to follow on the A2M question. It's interesting that the act is so popular in hardcore porn these days, as I think a big part of its appeal is that it is a humiliating and "dominating" act (at least for me as a bdsm fan). So my question is do you and the women you do it with find it particularly humiliating, more than just anal and other stuff?

Hi Snowfight :)
Interesting question... I don't really find it humiliating as long as everyone is clean... Like it's not emotionally painful to suck a cock out of another girls' ass. I don't have any shame about it. I don't mind if a viewer sees it as humiliating and wants to think of me as a dirty slut or whatever for doing it.
I'm not into lifestyle submission- I'm a very independent girl- but I can be submissive for short periods of time.

I guess this might be a question of personal development though... I didn't start liking rimming until 3 years after I'd been having sex. Knowing the science behind it made it seem so dirty... But it feels so good, and everything we do in life has risks, it's just about managing them. The first time I let someone rim me, I think it was a bit of a submissive situation- I had hooked up with a friend of a friend at her place, and we met up a few days later to hang out. I thought it would be the two of us, but then we met up with his kinda girlfriend- a friend with benefits he was obviously really close with. We went back to her place together. She was really attractive- I was definitely into them both but also felt kinda guilty for having sex with this girl's 'man'. When she started to lick my ass as I rode him, although I usually would have said no before that- I shut my mouth and enjoyed it. I don't think I had an issue with rimming from then on- I even gave her nice little pink butthole a good licking too.
 

Jemma Valentine

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Which is why the A2M is so popular. :)



I believe that the keyword here is control. A man who gapes an anus has to some extent control over it, or that it at least what he feels as he looks into it. Same thing with the A2M: the man who puts his cock into a woman's mouth and has her clean it even though she does not like to to so is certainly in control over the woman. Same thing with the webcam: he requests it and you perform. He is in control and you anus opens on command. If you performed for me I would instruct you in detail what to do. First, how to stand, how to spread your ass, and how and when to contract your anus in close-up. Then, when to lower your anus over the dildo, when to stop, when to go back up. And finally when and how to move things and fingers between your holes.

So you see, when we want to fuck you in the ass, what we really that mind of yours we want to fuck.

As a man, you want women to submit to you because that demonstrates that you have value to them. They will do unpleasant things just to demonstrate their submission and the value they place in the man. It's very much to put the money where the mouth is, so to speak. And this is the fantasy, or in some cases reality, that porn plays into. Unfortunately simply paying for the pleasure does not work. I am sure that I could get some poor camgirl in Thailand do almost everything to please my credit card, but whatever she did it would simply be a coincidence of development and trade economics. It would have very little to do with me as a person, and that is why Thai camgirls are of very little interest to me.

Conversely, the reason women tend to find the same sexual scenarios interesting---just look at any site dedicated to erotica---is that women simply desire the other side of the coin: the man of such quality for whom they would actually endure all that pain and humiliation. Or just extra work. E.g. when I instruct a woman to keep her anus ready for anal sex and then, when I bend her over a bench, find a butt plug in her and that an enema has been administered. That adds value the the following for both of us.



Just remember that for it to really work it has to be a bit humiliating. But still, as a part of the paying audience, you only get half the fun if even that.

A real cane will always leave more of an impression than a velvet whip or whatever. ;)

I get that the idea behind this all is control... I agree with you that this is what people are looking for, someone worthy enough of lowering their own value- someone they hold in higher esteem or status than themselves. If you asked me 4 years ago I would have loved to have someone else to trust, lean on, have make my decisions, and do anything for. At this point, I can bend over and get whipped, take a cock in my ass l, etc, other acts that other people may find humiliating- but I enjoy them and knowing that I'm turning people on over them, and getting paid well. I channel that sense and admiration when doing submissive scenes and I do enjoy submissive play- letting someone else take control for short periods of time, like for a scene.

What I said about the webcam situation and being in control was more about me doing the action myself- even if instructed to do something, a person thousands of kilometres away on their computer isn't actually pushing anything into my body- I got to know my own body and push its limits, including stretching my ass, in a way with a bit of a buffer. When you know what you like for yourself and how to make things work for you it's a lot easier to share them with others, rather than having your body pushed by someone else and getting alienated early on.

Anyway- I know that's probably not exactly what you wanted to hear but I figure it's best to be real.


I haven't done a lot of pain play on camera - I think I need to have the right people to do this with as when I'm turned on and trust my partner it can be great, but I can't necessarily give the green light to doing it with random partners as is usually the case for scenes. I'll keep that in mind though- more scenes with visible marks from my body being beaten/hit would be hot for a few of you guys.
 
Anyway- I know that's probably not exactly what you wanted to hear but I figure it's best to be real.

No, not at all. Not what I expected, that much is true. But the real is always better.

And, as I wrote (in some sort of way above), I expect you to derive as much, or more, pleasure from acting out a fantasy as I do from watching it unfold.

I haven't done a lot of pain play on camera - I think I need to have the right people to do this with as when I'm turned on and trust my partner it can be great, but I can't necessarily give the green light to doing it with random partners as is usually the case for scenes. I'll keep that in mind though- more scenes with visible marks from my body being beaten/hit would be hot for a few of you guys.

Some things are hard to fake, and the fake is just not worth it for anyone. It would be like that old cheesy so called hard-core porn without penetration. Pointless.
 

Jemma Valentine

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other top turn-ons: Ambition, power, drive, money, feeling comfortable, secure and desired (without being stifled or controlled). Novelty and hot bodies.

I want to mention when I said secure and desired without being stifled or controlled, I mean in terms of my life choices and actions. I travel most of the time, and I like to be able to do what and who I want when I want- controlled in bed can definitely be hot. But I don't want to be controlled outside a sexual scenario or scene.
 

Jemma Valentine

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Do you actually like having a guy cum on your face?

Facials look really good. I prefer swallowing, I don't know why but cum tastes like victory to me. If a man isn't cumming in my ass (I love anal creampies, feeling the strong pulses in that tight area) or mouth I prefer to see it, like if he pulls out and sprays over my body. Vaginal creampies I definitely don't do as often but I was obsessed with them when I was in a committed relationship and on birth control for the first time.

I know facials are pretty submissive too, there's something loving about being all dolled up and then having the hair and makeup on shambles- letting a man desecrate your 'look' and see your pure appearance after a moment of intimate release.

I didn't mean to talk around your question lol. I love cum so I like facials in that sense but in my personal life they're not my first choice.
 

FreeOnes_Adam

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Facials look really good. I prefer swallowing, I don't know why but cum tastes like victory to me. If a man isn't cumming in my ass (I love anal creampies, feeling the strong pulses in that tight area) or mouth I prefer to see it, like if he pulls out and sprays over my body. Vaginal creampies I definitely don't do as often but I was obsessed with them when I was in a committed relationship and on birth control for the first time.

I know facials are pretty submissive too, there's something loving about being all dolled up and then having the hair and makeup on shambles- letting a man desecrate your 'look' and see your pure appearance after a moment of intimate release.

I didn't mean to talk around your question lol. I love cum so I like facials in that sense but in my personal life they're not my first choice.

Jemma, I think I love you.
 
Hi Gemma.
I Wanted To Say Thank You For Being a naughty cookie monster and sharing your perv-ect ass with me on cam ,my question is ,have you ever fucked a fan ??
and if your ever filming in porn valley LA can i be your fluffer ??
 

Jemma Valentine

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I did not find your official thread. So I will drop this here http://www.daporn.com/video/damn-hot-blonde-canadian-babe-gets-a-free-hot-sex-in-the-cab-76176.html
How was it having the scene on the taxi? Has it happened to you in real life?

Hi :)

The scene in the taxi was great... they actually park the cab in a public place, it's pretty exhilarating. I liked that the scene was shot in a gonzo style too, meaning the action is more natural than when directed with certain positions step by step for a certain number of minutes.

I haven't fucked a taxi driver for a ride, but I did flash my pussy to one once when taking a cab with a friend... I was wearing a short dress with no panties, and when we stopped to get out, instead of asking how much we owed, my friend turned to me and said 'hey, I think he wants to see your pussy.' I spread my pink and showed the driver, who was very happy. Then we got out of the cab.
 

Jemma Valentine

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Hi Gemma.
I Wanted To Say Thank You For Being a naughty cookie monster and sharing your perv-ect ass with me on cam ,my question is ,have you ever fucked a fan ??
and if your ever filming in porn valley LA can i be your fluffer ??

Hi Mike! My VNA friend :)

Yes, I have fucked fans... and got a couple to perform for me (lol).

I've never actually seen a fluffer on set but it's a fun fantasy ;)
 
I've never actually seen a fluffer on set but it's a fun fantasy ;)

I can imagine that. I understand that you would like your ass warmed up and relaxed, but what should a fluffer do in order to really make you willing and ready for anything? Nibble your earlobes and whisper poetry in your ears would probably go long way. But what more?
 

Jemma Valentine

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I can imagine that. I understand that you would like your ass warmed up and relaxed, but what should a fluffer do in order to really make you willing and ready for anything? Nibble your earlobes and whisper poetry in your ears would probably go long way. But what more?


Pardon the delay in response! I think fluffers were mostly for guys to keep them hard anyway. I guess I'd want them to make me feel really sexy and taken care of... Have my baby wipes, lube, their tongue, whatever I need ready?
 
I have read couple pornstar interviews in the past and sometimes they seem to be saying to do only "things" they like, some of them have said to not like certain "things" very much, but they seem to be in such a scenes pretty often. There are also bunch of girls who seems to like opposite to what they are actually doing in their scenes. Such as a girl who often plays submissive and gets fucked like a slut in front of camera, might have very stuck-up personality in real-life. While another girl who often plays very dominant roles in her scenes, might actually prefer to be taken care like a little girl in her personal life. Do you prefer to keep some "sex things" more "personal" for private matters, perhaps avoid certain things in scenes. Or do you prefer to stick with things you actually know you like to make better scenes, perhaps explore your known fantasies in porn world? And what part of scenes goes to "my pussy is all numb, but since I was just paid to do so, I'll try my best" -category...
 
Pardon the delay in response! I think fluffers were mostly for guys to keep them hard anyway. I guess I'd want them to make me feel really sexy and taken care of... Have my baby wipes, lube, their tongue, whatever I need ready?

Do you find the idea/fantasy of being a fluffer interesting? I can imagine that being the woman who got the men hard would be an appealing fantasy. I can almost hear the fluffer think "There's not a hole in that bitch's body that can make you hard, but my mouth can. Right away."
 

Jemma Valentine

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I have read couple pornstar interviews in the past and sometimes they seem to be saying to do only "things" they like, some of them have said to not like certain "things" very much, but they seem to be in such a scenes pretty often. There are also bunch of girls who seems to like opposite to what they are actually doing in their scenes. Such as a girl who often plays submissive and gets fucked like a slut in front of camera, might have very stuck-up personality in real-life. While another girl who often plays very dominant roles in her scenes, might actually prefer to be taken care like a little girl in her personal life. Do you prefer to keep some "sex things" more "personal" for private matters, perhaps avoid certain things in scenes. Or do you prefer to stick with things you actually know you like to make better scenes, perhaps explore your known fantasies in porn world? And what part of scenes goes to "my pussy is all numb, but since I was just paid to do so, I'll try my best" -category...

I'm pretty adventurous in my personal life. I like doing a variety of things at different times. For those shots where you see my face right beside penetration and me sucking the cock out of the other girls' hole every 2 minutes or so, no that's not as common, I'd be more likely to be licking clit and balls. I do like gang bangs, I like being submissive with people I trust, I like being submissive sometimes... Obviously I do things with more image in mind of turning out to the camera. I do a lot more closed leg positions and kissing in my personal life than you see on film.
There are a couple things I've done in camshows that I wouldn't think of doing otherwise or realky have the urge to do I think, like fucking my ass with a carrot and then eating it- but I find a way to enjoy it. I'm pretty good at focussing on the most attractive aspects of my partner to enjoy the situation. One thing I don't like personally that I will do on camera is having my face/body spit on. I understand spit as lube but I'm not so into it when the people I'm performing with gob their spit...
 
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