... uhm, dated? hell, I MARRIED someone... it took 20 years to realize how much I was managing not to look at.
I have to admit there were 'red flags.' At the ripe age of 40 her aunt sent my wife's ****** & the other ******** a LONG letter detailing the many ways they had hurt her throughout her *****hood, ruining her life. Gotta love people who are so gone they can blame others even for how they have felt for decades.
When she left me (yes, I was still firmly in DeNiAl), her reasons included I was controlling... So she chose to leave the house she'd selected... and decorated... and furnished, taking every household item she wanted, the cars she had chosen, working as a fitness instructor instead of a hygienist since she chose the new 'more fun' profession in the last year (despite a huge drop in pay). Needless to say, she had been the determining voice in where we went on vacation, who we hung out with, what we ate, & yes, when (if) we had sex... & when we were 'done' having sex (read when SHE was done). I was left with acquaintences but no real friends since hanging out with the guys had been forbidden out of misplaced jealousy. But I was the controlling one?
Still don't believe me? Try this on... our oldest 'discovered the joys of the bud' this year, and is failing 2 classes. At 16, we had found him a sporty front wheel drive car (Eclipse, 99... 2 years newer then my truck) as his 1st car... HIS choice. But since 'friends' have faster car he 'HAS' to have a corvette... Uhm, No. In fact, Hell No. While agreeing in person, on the phone, and on text that even discussing such until he could demonstrate better motivation and attitude, she is out shopping for a corvette 'to share with him.' When confronted with the obvious and poor lies, her 'explanation'? I had agreed to let the **** go through a motorcycle safety course, and a corvette is safer then a motorcycle... And this is called parenting?
WTF?!? No wonder FreeOnes is my escape... beutiful women who are obviously interested in sex. Someday the boys will move on and I can pursue actually FINDING such a woman... In the meantime, it's AMAZING how much I find I enjoy having a choice in almost everything I do; I guess maybe I was crazy, too, putting up with the crap I did for so long...