Actually chatroulette has really cracked down on the millions of different guys jacking it. You go on now and it's just people staring at their computer screen not communicating
I'm surprised you're only just now finding out about this considering how common it is. I mean, there are entire websites dedicated to showcasing the ***** directed at women within the gaming community:
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Female gamers get a couple of different reactions in my experience. They either get hit on relentlessly and followed, some of them seem to like the attention, some of them tell the dude to fuck off... or they get made fun of relentlessly, because to be a chick who plays games, they have to be fat/ugly/lonely/horrible at gaming. I don't see the point in trying any of these routines. No one's going to pickup a girlfriend on XBL, and there's no reason to be a total prick for no reason (this applies to a lot of LIVE members). I've had several different chicks on my friends list over the last few years (lost touch with most of them by now), and they are/were just as capable/fun to play with as any of my male friends, especially on COD when some asshole gives them **** and they bite his head off.