Would you date a women who has a kid?
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I'm sure its been covered, but I wasnt on here then.
The only issue would be the potential complications and problems if things got serious between you and the lady. Esp if the child is a boy, cos after a certain age simple male ego kicks in,and not being the father would surely cause resentment.
Maybe less hassle down the line if the child is a daughter-she could probably see things more from the mother's POV of wanting a stable relationship irrespective of picking poorly the first time.
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Huh? You must be maybe underage? :dunno:
works for me as well ... where can you find a woman of our age without a kid ??
I tried this a couple of years ago......she had two kids, and had been separated from Hubby for about a year. It was a disaster. He had treated her so badly that she was just thrilled to have someone paying attention to her, taking her out to dinners, movies, etc. My friends thought I was crazy, but she was really cute, and I figured what the hell, I will give it a shot and see what happens.
However, it was a nightmare. We couldn't go anywhere sometimes because she couldn't find a sitter, and forget about hanging out past ten o'clock.......had to get up early with the kids and everything. Eventually realized that I was just being used by her to raise her own self esteem, and found out later that she was back with her husband. Fuck it.
I would NOT recommend it to anyone, but then, your experience may be different than mine.
However, it was a nightmare. We couldn't go anywhere sometimes because she couldn't find a sitter, and forget about hanging out past ten o'clock.......had to get up early with the kids and everything. Eventually realized that I was just being used by her to raise her own self esteem, and found out later that she was back with her husband. Fuck it.
I would NOT recommend it to anyone, but then, your experience may be different than mine.
Indeed.
It wouldn't be a problem to me.
This should've been a POLL.
Anyway, I'd say, yes, I probably would.
Anyway, I'd say, yes, I probably would.
rather had her mood swings then what i have now, her nagging and my kids ... sometimes i wondered why i wasn't sterilized ... but then again i consider myself lucky to have it all, but then again my kids still aren't in their "teen years" ... oh fuck ...
A few years ago, I had a strict rule about dating a girl with a kid. I would not date a girl with a kid, absolutely NOT.
Now, on November 21, 2009, I will have my one year anniversary with my girlfriend, who has a 5 year old daughter. She is one of the most incredible women I have ever met. I have a great time with her, our chemistry is amazing. She is absolutely gorgeous with an incredible body. I was even debating marriage with her, she has hinted at the thought numerous times BUT
I can't deal with the daughter. She is five going on six and she is absolutely the THE WORST behaving kid I have ever dealt with. And my girl is not helping out with the situation, she lets her get away with murder because she feels guilty that the girls father is out of the picture. I keep telling her that this is not healthy for the girl; no discipline, no rules. The father is an alcoholic, drug user and a career criminal; constantly in jail. He only calls once a month if ever, when he's not in jail, and he only calls to try and talk to her. Luckily, she can't stand him and she finds him repulsive. Sometimes, he calls and doesn't even ask about the child. I feel sympathy for the daughter but she hasn't had the father in her life since she was 1 1/2 so it hasn't really affected her and she doesn't even ask about him. The problem is that she realizes that the mother "feel's sorry" for her and takes advantage of the situation to the fullest. She has realized this but hasn't been able to resolve the problem. It is really affecting our relationship and putting a constant strain everyday.
The problem with all of this is that I love this girl and could really see myself with her for a long time, even marriage and children. But that issue is holding me back, in the end, I think I will just eventually break it off.
I'm 27 and she is 28, I hate to say this but if I would have meet her a few years ago without a child, I wouldn't leave her for anything.
My advice, If you're in your 20's or 30's, date them and have fun but don't get too serious. If you're in your 40's or above, the children should be older in age where it isn't that much of a problem.
My :2 cents:
Now, on November 21, 2009, I will have my one year anniversary with my girlfriend, who has a 5 year old daughter. She is one of the most incredible women I have ever met. I have a great time with her, our chemistry is amazing. She is absolutely gorgeous with an incredible body. I was even debating marriage with her, she has hinted at the thought numerous times BUT
I can't deal with the daughter. She is five going on six and she is absolutely the THE WORST behaving kid I have ever dealt with. And my girl is not helping out with the situation, she lets her get away with murder because she feels guilty that the girls father is out of the picture. I keep telling her that this is not healthy for the girl; no discipline, no rules. The father is an alcoholic, drug user and a career criminal; constantly in jail. He only calls once a month if ever, when he's not in jail, and he only calls to try and talk to her. Luckily, she can't stand him and she finds him repulsive. Sometimes, he calls and doesn't even ask about the child. I feel sympathy for the daughter but she hasn't had the father in her life since she was 1 1/2 so it hasn't really affected her and she doesn't even ask about him. The problem is that she realizes that the mother "feel's sorry" for her and takes advantage of the situation to the fullest. She has realized this but hasn't been able to resolve the problem. It is really affecting our relationship and putting a constant strain everyday.
The problem with all of this is that I love this girl and could really see myself with her for a long time, even marriage and children. But that issue is holding me back, in the end, I think I will just eventually break it off.
I'm 27 and she is 28, I hate to say this but if I would have meet her a few years ago without a child, I wouldn't leave her for anything.
My advice, If you're in your 20's or 30's, date them and have fun but don't get too serious. If you're in your 40's or above, the children should be older in age where it isn't that much of a problem.
My :2 cents:
I gotta say no....i never have and i dont think i ever would....i dont wanna come off as sounding shallowing or anything but i think a woman will always have a connection with the childs father and if there is shared custody involved the woman will see the fathers child ofter and who knows she might say....lets try being a family and live together....and IMO it feels like you are being measured against another guy all the time...
Will E Worm
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10-10-2007, 12:21 PM, Old thread bump. Who's responsibly? :tongue:
No, I wouldn't. People need to use their brain. Unfortunately the majority of people do not like to use their's.
Being young is not an excuse.
10-10-2007, 12:21 PM
So, just females with children or any female in their 20's and 30's?
Why would you care if the child is out of the house? She still had a child.
I wouldn't marry any female that had, had a child.
If you're just having "fun" with them, then you could have a child of your own.
Then what? You need to sit down and think about what you said. :tongue:
:hammer:
No, I wouldn't. People need to use their brain. Unfortunately the majority of people do not like to use their's.
Being young is not an excuse.
10-10-2007, 12:21 PM
So, just females with children or any female in their 20's and 30's?
Why would you care if the child is out of the house? She still had a child.
I wouldn't marry any female that had, had a child.
If you're just having "fun" with them, then you could have a child of your own.
Then what? You need to sit down and think about what you said. :tongue:
:hammer:
No, not all women in their 20's or 30's, just don't get serious with a women in her 20's and 30's with a kid. I am not talking marriage, just dating and going out. With a kid in the picture, you will find out soon enough that their is less and less time being dedicated to you as the relationship progresses. If you find yourself attracted to this person, then by all means date them, go out, have fun but try to not get serious or you will soon find yourself as the third or even fourth wheel in the relationship.
If you are now in your 40's, 50's or above, it doesn't really have an affect. The kids are most likely all grown up and moved out of the house and even further than that sometimes.
I'm not talking marriage, the original question was date a woman with a kid.
Either way, do as your heart tells you and you should be alright.
Will E Worm
Conspiracy...
Okay, then. But, there's no reason to date them and lead them on.
I have a tip for you, mail order bride. :hatsoff:
Personally, I have kids that are in their 20's and I wouldn't date a mom with young kids. It's just my personal choice. It adds a completely different dynamic to the relationship. Potential problems that are pretty common, such as disciplining a bratty kid. I sure as hell don't have the patience to put up with that crap and not be allowed to say anything because it's "not my kid." The mother will always put the kids ahead of you. The father will usually be in the picture (not always if the father skipped out). The kids may get attached if a breakup happens, they are fucked... again. Funny thing is, my girlfriend's youngest kid is 13 but he lives in another state with the father. Lol!
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