I would.
Would you date a women who has a kid?
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Well said, LL :hatsoff:
Why not?
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depends
for me i think
if that women is hot and sexy with 2big breast like stormy water or Jill Kelly i dont mind to date her i will show her child how i fucked your mom
if that women is hot and sexy with 2big breast like stormy water or Jill Kelly i dont mind to date her i will show her child how i fucked your mom
Such as?
How would you feel if some other man raised your kids and taught him his values and not yours and molded them to be how he wanted and not how you wanted?
To me, if I was ever gong to have a serious relationship with a woman with children, which I probably never would anyhow, the children would have to be extremely young where they are still infants, and something tragic would have to have happened to their biological father that killed him.
If the children were teenagers or older? Probably. If they were infants? I definitely hope not.
I lived with a woman who had children (2 great girls). My fiancé tried to make me feel a part of her family. But I was never more unhappy then I was then (though I did not know it at the time).
I never felt like their stepfather. I never felt comfortable laying down any rules. And disciplining them? Forget it. No matter what I did, I always had to take second place to their fathers (they each had a different dad - one was great, one was a jerk). Not because I was told to, but because I just did not feel it was right. The kids had a screwed up enough life as it was, I did not want to complicate things further by giving them a different set of ideas or beliefs. So, I basically had to keep my mouth shut. Again, not because anyone asked or told me to - quite the opposite. But because I did not feel it was my place - and it really wasen't - IMO.
I ended up feeling like a tenant in the house. I paid the bills but had virtually no real say in how the children were raised. If I didn't like the way they were being raised, I could voice an opinion; but I knew in the end it meant little.
But despite all that, I grew to love those two little girls. So much so that when their mother and I broke up I started balling my eyes out. Not because of the breakup, but because I felt I would never see the daughters again - they meant that much to me. And because I was worried for them (so much so that I set up a college fund for each of them. I later ended up visiting with them often. And we still chat from time to time on the phone as they live thousands of miles from me). No human being that I can think of means more to me then those two women (they are now adults).
And despite all that, there is no way I am going to put myself through that again. I am EXTREMELY glad I got to know those girls. But I wish to NEVER do something similar again.
If you don't mind having no real say in what goes on with people that live in your home - then you will probably not mind it. You may even love it.
But if you do like having a say. Or have some definite ideas about how a child should be raised; and the child's father is still around; then I strongly suggest you think twice before entering into such a partnership.
BTW, a great idea for a thread IMO.
I lived with a woman who had children (2 great girls). My fiancé tried to make me feel a part of her family. But I was never more unhappy then I was then (though I did not know it at the time).
I never felt like their stepfather. I never felt comfortable laying down any rules. And disciplining them? Forget it. No matter what I did, I always had to take second place to their fathers (they each had a different dad - one was great, one was a jerk). Not because I was told to, but because I just did not feel it was right. The kids had a screwed up enough life as it was, I did not want to complicate things further by giving them a different set of ideas or beliefs. So, I basically had to keep my mouth shut. Again, not because anyone asked or told me to - quite the opposite. But because I did not feel it was my place - and it really wasen't - IMO.
I ended up feeling like a tenant in the house. I paid the bills but had virtually no real say in how the children were raised. If I didn't like the way they were being raised, I could voice an opinion; but I knew in the end it meant little.
But despite all that, I grew to love those two little girls. So much so that when their mother and I broke up I started balling my eyes out. Not because of the breakup, but because I felt I would never see the daughters again - they meant that much to me. And because I was worried for them (so much so that I set up a college fund for each of them. I later ended up visiting with them often. And we still chat from time to time on the phone as they live thousands of miles from me). No human being that I can think of means more to me then those two women (they are now adults).
And despite all that, there is no way I am going to put myself through that again. I am EXTREMELY glad I got to know those girls. But I wish to NEVER do something similar again.
If you don't mind having no real say in what goes on with people that live in your home - then you will probably not mind it. You may even love it.
But if you do like having a say. Or have some definite ideas about how a child should be raised; and the child's father is still around; then I strongly suggest you think twice before entering into such a partnership.
BTW, a great idea for a thread IMO.
I think that's a great post.
It sounds a bit morbid maybe, but I think it is very wise advice.
A friend of mine who is about the best father I have ever seen once dated a woman with two children whose father was dead.
And he said that he would never date another woman with young children unless the father was dead. For many of the reasons you mention.
i feel that there's no reason to rule out somebody that could make you the happiest you've ever been just because she has a child. we're human beings, kids happen.
and just because she has a kid and is single doesn't mean that she's a psycho or that so-and-so left her for a reason. chicks break up with guys, too. we're human beings, sometimes things just don't work out.
finally, there're plenty of people, everybody, in fact, that have tons of "baggage" with or without children, you have to get to know them before deciding whether it's too much for you or not.
this is the 21st century people, we don't chastise people for being divorced anymore, either. who knew?
and just because she has a kid and is single doesn't mean that she's a psycho or that so-and-so left her for a reason. chicks break up with guys, too. we're human beings, sometimes things just don't work out.
finally, there're plenty of people, everybody, in fact, that have tons of "baggage" with or without children, you have to get to know them before deciding whether it's too much for you or not.
this is the 21st century people, we don't chastise people for being divorced anymore, either. who knew?
Kinda turns me on actually...
Buying the kid a playstation and boning mommy in the kitchen...Ooh...
Buying the kid a playstation and boning mommy in the kitchen...Ooh...
It Depends On The Age Of Thekid How They Behave Around People.
When you get older you find the number of available women without children or who haven't been divorced far outweighs the number of single "virgins" left. You really don't have a choice so you need to realize other's have had their own lives before you and you need to adjust your thinking to the current reality. :thumbsup:
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