toast_king
Banned
Earlier, a semi-flamewar broke out when I said that I'm 22 and I've never kissed. I explained that I'll never have a girlfriend and that people should just accept that because they don't know anything about it. People demanded to know how I could make such a claim, and made a lot of blind guesses and assumptions based on stereotypes. Since I'm very bored and have time to kill, I may as well explain it, so you can try to convince me how wrong I am etc.
Criteria
I don't care about hair type, hair color, eye color, skin color or breast size. It all depends on what the girl looks like as a whole. When it comes to appearance, a girl is the sum of her parts, so I don't get caught up in details so much. However, she has to be very attractive to me (body, face, clothing etc.). She absolutely must be a non-smoker, and not into alcohol (mild and infrequent usage is acceptable). As for hobbies and so forth... I don't know, it probably doesn't matter. I've never had a girlfriend so I wouldn't even know what to look for, and what would most likely "work." Then there's the usual shit: smart, nice, kind, blah blah blah. I'm not going to "settle" for someone. I think the objective of a relationship is to make it last until one of you dies. Of course it rarely happens that way, but that's what you should aim for. I can't understand the logic of going into a relationship with the attitude of "I'll just see what happens" or "it's nothing serious." It's serious to me, because I really can't see myself changing girlfriends once every six months, like most people seem to do. I'd want to choose someone who I really like. I'm also not interested in one night stands or prostitutes.
Where to get one
Long story short, I'm through with school so that's not an option. I'm unemployed and haven't yet had a real job (don't ask, that's not what this thread is for), but considering the line of work I'm aiming for, it's extremely doubtful that I'll find anyone at a workplace. What about hobbies? I have a few (martial arts), and there's a decent amount of girls in them. However, there's nobody that would really interest me. Hobbies are always a possibility, but an extremely unlikely one, due to the small number of people involved. I don't visit bars, clubs or similiar establishments, ever. They're not for me. Frankly, I can't think of any place where I could meet girls.
This city's population is about 75,000. If you remove the men and females who are not of the right age, you're not left with a lot of people. If you then remove anyone who smokes and likes to go clubbing, you've got a really fucking tiny amount of people (who doesn't go clubbing?). Finally, remove anyone who wouldn't be interested in me, and anyone who I wouldn't be interested in, and the dating pool must be small indeed. I wish I had more statistical information so I could make more accurate calculations, but it's still obvious that there isn't much to choose from. There are a limited amount of girls out there.
One common way is to meet girls through mutual friends, but that's not a possibility either, because I have no friends. The reason why I have no friends is because I don't need any. I like being by myself, and I think people just cause unnecessary drama that I don't want to deal with. I'm sure some militant extrovert will throw a hissy fit tantrum over that, too.
How to get one
I can't. I really can't. My social ability is what I'd call "functional." That is to say, I can do what needs to be done, but nothing else. I even have problems with faking a smile. I can't and don't even want to approach girls or flirt with them. If you're going to spout shit like "just talk to them," I hope you get run over by a train, you asshat. Some of us just weren't gifted with an abundance of social skills, and Internet advice from strangers is not going to change that, as much as you'd like to think otherwise. As far as I can see, the girl would have to approach me, and not the other way around. I'd probably feel a little suspicious and reserved, and I might seem distant and uninterested, so it wouldn't work anyway. I cannot even imagine a realistic scenario where I could establish a relationship with someone. For most people, getting a girlfriend is not as improbable as winning the lottery twice in the same week. It is for me. There is no natural law or mechanism that provides everyone with a partner. Really. The only reliable way to get one is to actively make an effort to get one. If you can't or don't want to make the effort, you're not going to get one.
The last time I had a real crush on someone was seven years ago in high school. Since then, I haven't met, seen or heard of anyone I'd be interested in. Seven years. Think about that.
Finally, I repeat: no amount of Dr. Phil advice on the Internet will cure a crippling social disability. Do not try that shit with me. Do not spout cliches like "you'll find someone" without backing it up with logical reasoning and arguments (and no, don't counter that with inane bullshit like "love is not logical lol").
That is all.
Criteria
I don't care about hair type, hair color, eye color, skin color or breast size. It all depends on what the girl looks like as a whole. When it comes to appearance, a girl is the sum of her parts, so I don't get caught up in details so much. However, she has to be very attractive to me (body, face, clothing etc.). She absolutely must be a non-smoker, and not into alcohol (mild and infrequent usage is acceptable). As for hobbies and so forth... I don't know, it probably doesn't matter. I've never had a girlfriend so I wouldn't even know what to look for, and what would most likely "work." Then there's the usual shit: smart, nice, kind, blah blah blah. I'm not going to "settle" for someone. I think the objective of a relationship is to make it last until one of you dies. Of course it rarely happens that way, but that's what you should aim for. I can't understand the logic of going into a relationship with the attitude of "I'll just see what happens" or "it's nothing serious." It's serious to me, because I really can't see myself changing girlfriends once every six months, like most people seem to do. I'd want to choose someone who I really like. I'm also not interested in one night stands or prostitutes.
Where to get one
Long story short, I'm through with school so that's not an option. I'm unemployed and haven't yet had a real job (don't ask, that's not what this thread is for), but considering the line of work I'm aiming for, it's extremely doubtful that I'll find anyone at a workplace. What about hobbies? I have a few (martial arts), and there's a decent amount of girls in them. However, there's nobody that would really interest me. Hobbies are always a possibility, but an extremely unlikely one, due to the small number of people involved. I don't visit bars, clubs or similiar establishments, ever. They're not for me. Frankly, I can't think of any place where I could meet girls.
This city's population is about 75,000. If you remove the men and females who are not of the right age, you're not left with a lot of people. If you then remove anyone who smokes and likes to go clubbing, you've got a really fucking tiny amount of people (who doesn't go clubbing?). Finally, remove anyone who wouldn't be interested in me, and anyone who I wouldn't be interested in, and the dating pool must be small indeed. I wish I had more statistical information so I could make more accurate calculations, but it's still obvious that there isn't much to choose from. There are a limited amount of girls out there.
One common way is to meet girls through mutual friends, but that's not a possibility either, because I have no friends. The reason why I have no friends is because I don't need any. I like being by myself, and I think people just cause unnecessary drama that I don't want to deal with. I'm sure some militant extrovert will throw a hissy fit tantrum over that, too.
How to get one
I can't. I really can't. My social ability is what I'd call "functional." That is to say, I can do what needs to be done, but nothing else. I even have problems with faking a smile. I can't and don't even want to approach girls or flirt with them. If you're going to spout shit like "just talk to them," I hope you get run over by a train, you asshat. Some of us just weren't gifted with an abundance of social skills, and Internet advice from strangers is not going to change that, as much as you'd like to think otherwise. As far as I can see, the girl would have to approach me, and not the other way around. I'd probably feel a little suspicious and reserved, and I might seem distant and uninterested, so it wouldn't work anyway. I cannot even imagine a realistic scenario where I could establish a relationship with someone. For most people, getting a girlfriend is not as improbable as winning the lottery twice in the same week. It is for me. There is no natural law or mechanism that provides everyone with a partner. Really. The only reliable way to get one is to actively make an effort to get one. If you can't or don't want to make the effort, you're not going to get one.
The last time I had a real crush on someone was seven years ago in high school. Since then, I haven't met, seen or heard of anyone I'd be interested in. Seven years. Think about that.
Finally, I repeat: no amount of Dr. Phil advice on the Internet will cure a crippling social disability. Do not try that shit with me. Do not spout cliches like "you'll find someone" without backing it up with logical reasoning and arguments (and no, don't counter that with inane bullshit like "love is not logical lol").
That is all.
