Okay, I've noticed this for a long time. Some people have some real guilt trips just being associated with anything that could be termed "pornographic." Get over it.
A common retort I here is that the adult entertainment industry does absolutely nothing good for the world. Or that it harbours and even encourages base and crude and sexist ideals and desires. And worst of all, it hurts the cause of female equality.
Some of it? True.
Much of it? Maybe.
All of it? No.
Larry Flynt was and still is a great American. Hell, even Jerry Falwell has come to terms with that. People forget Jimmy Carter's ******, or Ronald Reagan's ********, and many others. Americans aren't so sexually "stuck up" as people think, it's just not well accepted publicly.
So there is fact that Americans repress sexuality to the point it is unhealthy. In fact, that's part of the reason why most of the pornography industry is not positive. It caters too much to the "real outcasts," instead of catering to the basic, erotic desire of adults.
And some of those are the outcasts of men who don't respect women. But is that universal in many aspects outside of the pornographic industry as well. In fact, the attitude of the "outcasts" that the industry caters to only drives a disrespect of women, by even other women as much as men, instead of responsible adults coming to and deciding to respect one another.
I don't know what others have been taught or believe, but no where in the Gospel of Jesus did I see the proclaimed Christ lambast and humiliate even prostitutes. In fact, even criminals could find salvation in the Christ, not for what they did, but because some had souls that did not judge others -- especially not those who judged those so unfairly, based simply on gossip, assumed superiority and some over-reaching "moral character" that allegedly made them "better" than those they despised.
Sexual repression is part of the American problem, heavily, we are too immature. That has lead to issues with STDs, pregnancy and other concerns -- and preaching "pure abstinence" is a big issue. And there's yet other issues to speak of -- not to mention that in the context of other "issues" -- erotica itself is the least of our concerns.
Some have pointed out that I, among many others, hide behind my anonymity here. That's really for two reasons:
1) For the immediate protection of my professional life and, even more so, my wife's. If people were mature and would accept people for themselves and not judge, then it wouldn't be a problem. But until then, until so many people have either a "guilt trip" or want to give others a "guilt trip," it's just how it has to be.
2) It also allows me to share things I could not if I was not anonymous, so that's hardly limited to an adult entertainment forum. I mean, I don't tell my friends and neighbors how fucking hot my wife is without her clothes, in various assortments of lingerie, how good she is in the sack or how I have to fight her to keep her from going down on me all the time. I mean, would you want your friends and neighbors knowing that?! They'd be all over her apple-hourglass, 38DD bust, orally-fixated presence!
Hell my wife made the near-fatal mistake -- only once -- of bragging to one of her friends that I can't get enough of placing my face in her full bush and eating her out until she's screaming, and when that friend of hers stayed with us in the middle of her divorce, she was trying to find out if it was true. Sigh, it's just sad.
If you met me in person, you'd find my American Libertarian ideals would be quickly noticeable. I'm honest -- on here and outside of here. Again, no, I don't go around telling people how good my wife is in bed outside of here like I do inside of here, but that's about the only limitation. I don't get "too personal" with information at work, but if someone directly asked me, I would answer truthfully about it.
Everyone knows that I have a very deep and close relationship with my wife. Most people don't pry further, although sometimes when they ask me questions, they are shocked I'm so open. They ask, they can't believe it. Although when some ask, I know they are judgemental, so I tell them to fuck off -- only nicely. They are too immature to hear the truth, that two consenting, longtime loving adults can want to fuck each other like bunnies. Just the other day, at work, I had a conversation today about how when Danni.COM started in the mid-'90s, the UseNet was flooded, and we had to cut off our UseNet feeds. People at the university called it "censorship," but it was a real bandwidth issue. I've also talked about the few job offers I've had in the porn industry (I do Linux after all, which is huge in major Internet presences -- far more than Windows for the top 500 web sites).
But even then, I'm sure I "push it." I mean, I even said at work back in the late '90s that I thought Monika Lewinski was hot. Talk about saying something ***** at work!
Others say I seriously doubt your wife approves, or if your wife approves, it's hardly the norm.
To start, my wife fully knows I engage in debates on adult sites. She knows I comment on the female form, and heavily desire it. She even thinks Kerry Marie is fucking hot -- although I think my wife is still far hotter, and I have gone into deep detail in both prose and in person that didn't make her jealous, it made her beyond wet. It's amazing how much a woman can be flattered by the simple truth, and the greater appreciation that I am a man who is not merely beyond lucky to have her, but truly knows I have the woman of my dreams.
I don't have to "resist jacking off" because I feel some obligation to my wife. I "resist jacking off" because I don't get the same fulfillment I do with my wife. And when I'm traveling on the road (I'm a consultant who travels 100% for his job, although I spend a lot of my own money to fly back to see my wife every weekend if I'm not working that weekend), it's not the "new cunt of the day" that makes me stroke, but the thought of my wife. I mean, I've commented how I love Devyn Devine -- because she makes me think of my wife!
She "does not mind" not because she likes all pornography, she "does not mind" because she knows I'm one of the men that make it okay. I'm sure if I was into the pornography that many of you speak negatively of, she would very much NOT approve. If and when I'm home between assignments with clients, you don't see me much here. In fact, when I was recently ****** 3 weeks, I was off from work for nearly 2 of those weeks, so it worked out great for me (and one of the reasons I clearly "pushed the limit" and assumed I'd be ****** -- figured it was a good time to "say my peace"). And I've taken other week breaks here and there, many times because I had 4-5 days with my wife.
As far as other women, that's their issue. If you don't want to deal with it, then you should really think about what matters and what is important to you. You want open relationships? Don't pick a woman, marry her and then ask her 10 years later. Find a woman who shares the same values as you in the first place! In fact, I really tire of that recurring issue.
People try to apply moral absolutism to others, or possibly in some desire to believe they are "better." This isn't limited to morality at all, but it's what people too entirely too much in general -- and for the worse of the world. Everything is relative! Whether we are talking about physics or we are talking about sociology, people need to both hold themselves to whatever set of values they want, but find people who have values that are either compatible or you're willing to change -- permanently -- for them.
I have friends who are gay, have open relationships, swing, etc... My wife and I are monogamous. In fact, as much as people have desires for open relationship and "always that new, fresh feeling of a new lover," I so fucking have a major hard-on thinking there is only one woman for the rest of my life I'm going to jump, pounce and spear for the rest of mine! But that's just for me. I don't think I'm "better" for it, it's just what I want, for me. Everyone else, I hope they are in touch with what they want -- and I could never judge someone who is happy, and who has found partner(s) who are happy with the same values.
My wife and I fully agree that it isn't cheating if everyone in a relationship has the same values on something and they agree where they are and what they will not cross. For my wife and I, it's monogamy -- it's what we love about our relationship and we won't ever change. For others, they have their own path, and we think no differently, as long as they are honest and happy.
So what would my wife not "approve" of with me? My wife would not approve if I used pornography because "she isn't enough." She also would not approve if I liked degrading pornography, pornography that ****** women. Pornography, itself, is not something she disapproves of. Not at all. She gets envious of other women, but my words are often a "quick fix" for that -- not because I'm a "sweet talker," but because I'm honest. She feels she can't "live up to the competition" -- and that's when I throw the pillow at her, often right before I jump her bones.
Why? Because I will never cheat, period. It wouldn't be anywhere near as good as it is with my wife, period.
continued in next post ...
A common retort I here is that the adult entertainment industry does absolutely nothing good for the world. Or that it harbours and even encourages base and crude and sexist ideals and desires. And worst of all, it hurts the cause of female equality.
Some of it? True.
Much of it? Maybe.
All of it? No.
Larry Flynt was and still is a great American. Hell, even Jerry Falwell has come to terms with that. People forget Jimmy Carter's ******, or Ronald Reagan's ********, and many others. Americans aren't so sexually "stuck up" as people think, it's just not well accepted publicly.
So there is fact that Americans repress sexuality to the point it is unhealthy. In fact, that's part of the reason why most of the pornography industry is not positive. It caters too much to the "real outcasts," instead of catering to the basic, erotic desire of adults.
And some of those are the outcasts of men who don't respect women. But is that universal in many aspects outside of the pornographic industry as well. In fact, the attitude of the "outcasts" that the industry caters to only drives a disrespect of women, by even other women as much as men, instead of responsible adults coming to and deciding to respect one another.
I don't know what others have been taught or believe, but no where in the Gospel of Jesus did I see the proclaimed Christ lambast and humiliate even prostitutes. In fact, even criminals could find salvation in the Christ, not for what they did, but because some had souls that did not judge others -- especially not those who judged those so unfairly, based simply on gossip, assumed superiority and some over-reaching "moral character" that allegedly made them "better" than those they despised.
Sexual repression is part of the American problem, heavily, we are too immature. That has lead to issues with STDs, pregnancy and other concerns -- and preaching "pure abstinence" is a big issue. And there's yet other issues to speak of -- not to mention that in the context of other "issues" -- erotica itself is the least of our concerns.
Some have pointed out that I, among many others, hide behind my anonymity here. That's really for two reasons:
1) For the immediate protection of my professional life and, even more so, my wife's. If people were mature and would accept people for themselves and not judge, then it wouldn't be a problem. But until then, until so many people have either a "guilt trip" or want to give others a "guilt trip," it's just how it has to be.
2) It also allows me to share things I could not if I was not anonymous, so that's hardly limited to an adult entertainment forum. I mean, I don't tell my friends and neighbors how fucking hot my wife is without her clothes, in various assortments of lingerie, how good she is in the sack or how I have to fight her to keep her from going down on me all the time. I mean, would you want your friends and neighbors knowing that?! They'd be all over her apple-hourglass, 38DD bust, orally-fixated presence!
Hell my wife made the near-fatal mistake -- only once -- of bragging to one of her friends that I can't get enough of placing my face in her full bush and eating her out until she's screaming, and when that friend of hers stayed with us in the middle of her divorce, she was trying to find out if it was true. Sigh, it's just sad.
If you met me in person, you'd find my American Libertarian ideals would be quickly noticeable. I'm honest -- on here and outside of here. Again, no, I don't go around telling people how good my wife is in bed outside of here like I do inside of here, but that's about the only limitation. I don't get "too personal" with information at work, but if someone directly asked me, I would answer truthfully about it.
Everyone knows that I have a very deep and close relationship with my wife. Most people don't pry further, although sometimes when they ask me questions, they are shocked I'm so open. They ask, they can't believe it. Although when some ask, I know they are judgemental, so I tell them to fuck off -- only nicely. They are too immature to hear the truth, that two consenting, longtime loving adults can want to fuck each other like bunnies. Just the other day, at work, I had a conversation today about how when Danni.COM started in the mid-'90s, the UseNet was flooded, and we had to cut off our UseNet feeds. People at the university called it "censorship," but it was a real bandwidth issue. I've also talked about the few job offers I've had in the porn industry (I do Linux after all, which is huge in major Internet presences -- far more than Windows for the top 500 web sites).
But even then, I'm sure I "push it." I mean, I even said at work back in the late '90s that I thought Monika Lewinski was hot. Talk about saying something ***** at work!
Others say I seriously doubt your wife approves, or if your wife approves, it's hardly the norm.
To start, my wife fully knows I engage in debates on adult sites. She knows I comment on the female form, and heavily desire it. She even thinks Kerry Marie is fucking hot -- although I think my wife is still far hotter, and I have gone into deep detail in both prose and in person that didn't make her jealous, it made her beyond wet. It's amazing how much a woman can be flattered by the simple truth, and the greater appreciation that I am a man who is not merely beyond lucky to have her, but truly knows I have the woman of my dreams.
I don't have to "resist jacking off" because I feel some obligation to my wife. I "resist jacking off" because I don't get the same fulfillment I do with my wife. And when I'm traveling on the road (I'm a consultant who travels 100% for his job, although I spend a lot of my own money to fly back to see my wife every weekend if I'm not working that weekend), it's not the "new cunt of the day" that makes me stroke, but the thought of my wife. I mean, I've commented how I love Devyn Devine -- because she makes me think of my wife!
She "does not mind" not because she likes all pornography, she "does not mind" because she knows I'm one of the men that make it okay. I'm sure if I was into the pornography that many of you speak negatively of, she would very much NOT approve. If and when I'm home between assignments with clients, you don't see me much here. In fact, when I was recently ****** 3 weeks, I was off from work for nearly 2 of those weeks, so it worked out great for me (and one of the reasons I clearly "pushed the limit" and assumed I'd be ****** -- figured it was a good time to "say my peace"). And I've taken other week breaks here and there, many times because I had 4-5 days with my wife.
As far as other women, that's their issue. If you don't want to deal with it, then you should really think about what matters and what is important to you. You want open relationships? Don't pick a woman, marry her and then ask her 10 years later. Find a woman who shares the same values as you in the first place! In fact, I really tire of that recurring issue.
People try to apply moral absolutism to others, or possibly in some desire to believe they are "better." This isn't limited to morality at all, but it's what people too entirely too much in general -- and for the worse of the world. Everything is relative! Whether we are talking about physics or we are talking about sociology, people need to both hold themselves to whatever set of values they want, but find people who have values that are either compatible or you're willing to change -- permanently -- for them.
I have friends who are gay, have open relationships, swing, etc... My wife and I are monogamous. In fact, as much as people have desires for open relationship and "always that new, fresh feeling of a new lover," I so fucking have a major hard-on thinking there is only one woman for the rest of my life I'm going to jump, pounce and spear for the rest of mine! But that's just for me. I don't think I'm "better" for it, it's just what I want, for me. Everyone else, I hope they are in touch with what they want -- and I could never judge someone who is happy, and who has found partner(s) who are happy with the same values.
My wife and I fully agree that it isn't cheating if everyone in a relationship has the same values on something and they agree where they are and what they will not cross. For my wife and I, it's monogamy -- it's what we love about our relationship and we won't ever change. For others, they have their own path, and we think no differently, as long as they are honest and happy.
So what would my wife not "approve" of with me? My wife would not approve if I used pornography because "she isn't enough." She also would not approve if I liked degrading pornography, pornography that ****** women. Pornography, itself, is not something she disapproves of. Not at all. She gets envious of other women, but my words are often a "quick fix" for that -- not because I'm a "sweet talker," but because I'm honest. She feels she can't "live up to the competition" -- and that's when I throw the pillow at her, often right before I jump her bones.
Why? Because I will never cheat, period. It wouldn't be anywhere near as good as it is with my wife, period.continued in next post ...
