to much jerking off?

[Skyraider22]

Damn I'm sorry is that her only gripe

 

[belgianass]

you are in the army ? Go tell your drill sergeant , you deserve medal for this ...

wet cross ...

 

[Ainttalkinlove]

I think its fine considering that I am not going out and looking for other girls to fuck

your a better man then I. I start looking for new pussy after 3 days.

 

[jasonk282]

I WAS in the Army. I was discharged in 2006 as I was going to be getting married that summer. When we got back to Schewinfurt, Germany my FSG wanted to to re-up but I decided that I had enough over the past 10 years and was ready to settle down. I guess being an 11B and seeing the combat that I have witness and lossing friends made me realize what is important.

I know it will take her time so I am not pushing the issue, pluse like I said I have gone longer without any pussy or release of any kind. Oh the places that I have been

 

[24788]

She's a woman! Like the fuck she understands that our penis controls our lives.

We don't go to the club to just talk!
We don't say horrible pick up lines for the fun of it!
We don't pay $200 for one dinner because it's fun!

Our penis takes control and starts thinking for us.

 

[Rey C.]

lol yes but unfortunately for you, all 7 of them are underage. I'm the oldest of 10 (including me) lol

Don't be offended if we ask you for a DNA sample, cause we're taking up a collection to clone you. :thumbsup:

 

[Ashleigh]

I'd have a serious heart to heart with her. Instead of wording it as eloquently as you did hear (no pussy since November), tell her that you love her alot, appreciate the child she gave you but that You Miss her and miss her sexy body. Chances are, is that she a)feels unsexy because, lets face it, pregnancy and childbirth does NOTHING to make a womans body hotter and b) is literally so utterly exhausted from having a newborn. Breastfeeding can be exhausting and painful, so even though her vag should be healed up, her breasts are likely super sore...making it hard for her to really get aroused or feel like bouncing on yer cock.

I'd just do everything you can to show you appreciate her instead of resent her for not putting out. It may not be where your heart is, but its where SHE'LL appreciate it and ultimately likely get you laid faster. Don't flaunt the porn in her face too, thats just a kick in the stomach to most women who have just birthed your child. She wants to feel respected and appreciated and wants to feel that you understand why she may not be in the mood right now. Keep your porn usage to times when she's sleeping/out of the house and don't just tug one out when she's around. Its a serious mood killer for us.

All the best!


Oh and flowers are nice. Buy her flowers

 

[Gameboy]

Too Much

Fix'd

I don't he needs help with his spelling dogbone.....

No sex since November? Rey C. right! You defiantly deserve a medal!

Best thing to do is try to go out and have a romantic night just the two of you. Find some one who can watch your kid for a night and just have fun.

 

[Lethal]

lol yes but unfortunately for you, all 7 of them are underage. I'm the oldest of 10 (including me) lol

if dey are old enough to pee dey are old enough for me

 

[jasonk282]

I'd have a serious heart to heart with her. Instead of wording it as eloquently as you did hear (no pussy since November), tell her that you love her alot, appreciate the child she gave you but that You Miss her and miss her sexy body. Chances are, is that she a)feels unsexy because, lets face it, pregnancy and childbirth does NOTHING to make a womans body hotter and b) is literally so utterly exhausted from having a newborn. Breastfeeding can be exhausting and painful, so even though her vag should be healed up, her breasts are likely super sore...making it hard for her to really get aroused or feel like bouncing on yer cock.

I'd just do everything you can to show you appreciate her instead of resent her for not putting out. It may not be where your heart is, but its where SHE'LL appreciate it and ultimately likely get you laid faster. Don't flaunt the porn in her face too, thats just a kick in the stomach to most women who have just birthed your child. She wants to feel respected and appreciated and wants to feel that you understand why she may not be in the mood right now. Keep your porn usage to times when she's sleeping/out of the house and don't just tug one out when she's around. Its a serious mood killer for us.

All the best!


Oh and flowers are nice. Buy her flowers

Been there and done that. All my jerking takes place after she is asleep. Every day she calls me and gives me like 5 or 6 things to do which I get done. Last night was a prime example, I texted her earlier in the day telling her how much I love her and want her. I made Lasanga for dinner and it was ready when she got home, after we ate we wnt to look at a few houses since we want to move. Got home at 9, she fed our 5 month old son and put him to sleep. She them comes down stairs and says "you know what I want to do" In an excited fashion I answer "hopefully me". She says" HAHA no, clean the basement" So we go down and clean the basement for 30 minutes, come bac upstair and has to pump at 11, since he no longer has night feeding, cuddles up next to me on the counch and falls asleep.

Oh I bought her flowers for a 3 year anniversity 2 weeks ago and I still did not get any sex. I have bought many flowers over the years and to be honest can only count a handfull of times when I got something out of it. Not that I buy them with the intend of getting some, but when you are told the more flowers you buy the more you get, and then nothing happens you just stop buying flowers.

 

[wrayven]

Man, that is a bummer, but she should not get down on you for looking at porn & masturbating. Sorry to hear of your dilemma-at least she laughs at your sexual banter.

BTW masturbating once a day does not seem such a big deal-now if you were doing it multiple times in a day that would be a concern both mentally and physically. Hopefully your situation has a positive resolution.

 

[Rey C.]

I know this is what everybody says these days, but have you thought about therapy... more for her than you, but you'd do it together?

I know pregnancy and babies affect all women differently. But from the friends I have who have had kids, her behavior isn't normal. When you talk about this, I don't understand how/why she'd say you jerk off too much, when she's not had an intimate relationship with you (since November?!). I think sometimes guys are selfish after their wives have had babies. But in this case, I think she's the one who's being selfish... esp. since she's on you for how much you jerk off. A lot of guys would already be looking for a girl on the side by now.

IMO, you have the patience of Job. But hopefully you get her to go with you to some kind of couples therapy before your patience runs out.

 

[tittenman]

Dude on a serious note, this is a serious report.

Frequent masturbation and ejaculation (more than 3 times a week) stimulate acetylcholine/parasympathetic nervous functions excessively, resulting in the over production of sex hormones and neurotransmitters such as acetylcholine, dopamine and serotonin. Abundant and unusually amount of these hormones and neurotransmitters can cause the brain and adrenal glands to perform excessive dopamine-norepinephrine-epinephrine conversion and turn the brain and body functions to be extremely sympathetic. In other words, there is a big change of body chemistry when one excessively pratices masturbation.

Note: Masturbation is a healthy sexual behavior. Like other behaviors, when over practiced or addicted it can lead to both psychological and physiological imbalances.

The side effects of such changes to the body include:
Fatigue. Feeling tired all the time
Lower back pain
Stress / Anxiety
Thinning hair / Hair Loss
Soft / Weak Erection
Premature Ejaculation
Eye floaters or fuzzy vision
Groin / Testicular Pain
Pain or cramp in the pelvic cavity or/and tail bone

If above symptoms are experienced, you need to restore the balance of brain's acetylcholine / parasympathetic ratio, reduces the level of sex hormones in the body, and sedates sympathetic nervous function, or the symptoms would become worse.

 

[thebear247]

Dude on a serious note, this is a serious report.

Frequent masturbation and ejaculation (more than 3 times a week) stimulate acetylcholine/parasympathetic nervous functions excessively, resulting in the over production of sex hormones and neurotransmitters such as acetylcholine, dopamine and serotonin. Abundant and unusually amount of these hormones and neurotransmitters can cause the brain and adrenal glands to perform excessive dopamine-norepinephrine-epinephrine conversion and turn the brain and body functions to be extremely sympathetic. In other words, there is a big change of body chemistry when one excessively pratices masturbation.

Note: Masturbation is a healthy sexual behavior. Like other behaviors, when over practiced or addicted it can lead to both psychological and physiological imbalances.

The side effects of such changes to the body include:
Fatigue. Feeling tired all the time
Lower back pain
Stress / Anxiety
Thinning hair / Hair Loss
Soft / Weak Erection
Premature Ejaculation
Eye floaters or fuzzy vision
Groin / Testicular Pain
Pain or cramp in the pelvic cavity or/and tail bone

If above symptoms are experienced, you need to restore the balance of brain's acetylcholine / parasympathetic ratio, reduces the level of sex hormones in the body, and sedates sympathetic nervous function, or the symptoms would become worse.

my god i suffer for damn near all of them . ok im sending rosey palm and her 5 sisters on vacation

 

[ilovenella]

If she's not giving it up, more power to you. Don't get too used to your hand though.

 

[Ashleigh]

Been there and done that. All my jerking takes place after she is asleep. Every day she calls me and gives me like 5 or 6 things to do which I get done. Last night was a prime example, I texted her earlier in the day telling her how much I love her and want her. I made Lasanga for dinner and it was ready when she got home, after we ate we wnt to look at a few houses since we want to move. Got home at 9, she fed our 5 month old son and put him to sleep. She them comes down stairs and says "you know what I want to do" In an excited fashion I answer "hopefully me". She says" HAHA no, clean the basement" So we go down and clean the basement for 30 minutes, come bac upstair and has to pump at 11, since he no longer has night feeding, cuddles up next to me on the counch and falls asleep.

Oh I bought her flowers for a 3 year anniversity 2 weeks ago and I still did not get any sex. I have bought many flowers over the years and to be honest can only count a handfull of times when I got something out of it. Not that I buy them with the intend of getting some, but when you are told the more flowers you buy the more you get, and then nothing happens you just stop buying flowers.

Ok, well then the only thing I can suggest is keep loving her and give her some time. Her libido has probably dropped down to nothing (hormones do that) so she doesn't feel the same urge or need for sex that you do. And since she's still breastfeeding, her hormones are still wacky and not what they used to be.

Hearing guys post here saying that "oh I would have found someone else by now" or "most guys would be looking elsewhere" really makes me sad. This woman just went through nine months of carrying his child, labor and childbirth and is now raising this baby...its not easy. She went through all of that, not easy stuff and all on her own...this guy is just dealing with the negative aspects of the pregnancy and childbirth that affects men and thats not gettin any lol. Husbands are supposed to be understanding and loving, especially when this issue is related to his new child. You can't crucify or blame a woman for not having a high libido or energy for sex when she's been through that....not like you had to go through any of that pregnancy BS, so just do your part in supporting your wife.

But anyways...do the right thing. Stand by your wife and child and enjoy these moments as new parents. If you only look back on this time as being the time when you couldn't get laid, then thats really sad. If it takes a daily wank to "ease the pain" for now, then do it, and keep encouraging and loving your wife. She'll appreciate all the help she gets later on down the road once her hormones have stabalized and she's getting regular sleep again. Its just a crazy time for you guys, as it is for all new parents and you just gotta focus on whats REALLY important and thats your baby and loving each other. If you focus too much on the sex and push her or hold resentments, then its going to make her really not want to put out later....so just try to hold out for now. She's the one who's gone through all of the physical and hormonal changes for your family, so she should get the consideration here when it comes to giving her the time she needs to just get back to normal, even if its just sex-wise. Sucks for you...but I'm sure she wasn't exactly giggling her way through pregnancy and labor either. The relationship is always about sacrifice at one point or another and right now is when you gotta take one for the team, you know what I mean?

 

[Hot Mega]

She them comes down stairs and says "you know what I want to do" In an excited fashion I answer "hopefully me". She says" HAHA no, clean the basement" So we go down and clean the basement for 30 minutes, come bac upstair and has to pump at 11, since he no longer has night feeding, cuddles up next to me on the counch and falls asleep.

She's got time and energy to clean the fucking basement but not attempt to satisfy her husband sexually?? That's a fucking problem to me. Sorry 'bout that but, "Lucy, you got some 'splainin' to do".

Does she not get that her marrying you means that she is your answer to the question, "what am I supposed to do with my hard dick?" and you are her answer to the question, "what am I supposed to do with my horny puss?" ???

The questions, "who am I supposed to talk to when I need the advice of a friend?", "Who is the person I want to go out for dinner, drinks, etc. with more than anyone?", "Who is the person I want to vacation with and see the world with more than anyone"?, "...the person I want to bear children with?", "....share the most important times of my life with?" and on and on...???

That's what marriage is about. If she loves you and IF she values your fidelity, desires and happiness....it's up to her to recognized the fact that she has an unfulfilled husband right now...(The same thing goes for men)...and she needs to find out or be honest about why this is the case. If she has some hormonal imbalance, postpartum condition, etc. it's up to her to own it and strive to find ways and treatments for overcoming them....for the sake of her fucking husband's happiness and potentially her marriage....no different from what you should do if she wants to fuck you and your dick won't or don't work.

It's not good enough to excuse whatever her reasoning is by claiming she's too tired, the baby, wore out, no time, etc. ESPECIALLY when she's finding time and energy to clean the fucking basement.:2 cents:

 

[Rey C.]

To be clear, it was not my suggestion that this gentleman should find another girl, or that he should leave his wife. I stated a simple fact that a loss of intimacy in a relationship does sometimes lead to this happening. That's life and it is a fact. There are far too many divorces in the U.S. and the western world, and far too many childen grow up without the benefit of both parents being in their lives. So I really hope that these two do work it out, which is why I suggested couples therapy. It certainly sounds like he wants it to work. And though we only have his side of the story, I am not about to agree that it is only up to him to make this work. It is up to both of them. Making any relationship work is a two way street. Modern PC double standards tend to ignore that realization.

A fellow that I worked with years ago developed diabetes. The disease resulted in him becoming impotent. This was before the days of Viagra and other ED drugs. After about a year, his wife left him and sued him for a divorce on loss of intimacy grounds. If there were not double standards in the courts (which I feel there quite often are), she should have been patient and sympathetic to the fact that he had a life altering and very serious disease. But the judge seemed to agree with her position, that the marriage should not continue if her sexual needs could no longer be met. Not nice. But as I said, that's life.

So, again, I hope that jasonk282 and his wife work this out. But no, I'm not going to agree that he is in any way, shape or form the bad guy here - I don't care if he jerks off 20 times a day. From what he has said, he has not done what many other men have done, or would do. Rather than tell him to suck it up or he doesn't have it so bad, I prefer suggesting a course of action where both people contribute to making this marriage work for both of them. If she's not willing to do that, then I guess what happens happens.

Just :2 cents: from the happy, confirmed bachelor... with no kids.

 

[Hot Mega]

To be clear, it was not my suggestion that this gentleman should find another girl, or that he should leave his wife. I stated a simple fact that a loss of intimacy in a relationship does sometimes lead to this happening. That's life and it is a fact. There are far too many divorces in the U.S. and the western world, and far too many childen grow up without the benefit of both parents being in their lives. So I really hope that these two do work it out, which is why I suggested couples therapy. It certainly sounds like he wants it to work. And though we only have his side of the story, I am not about to agree that it is only up to him to make this work. It is up to both of them. Making any relationship work is a two way street. Modern PC double standards tend to ignore that realization.

A fellow that I worked with years ago developed diabetes. The disease resulted in him becoming impotent. This was before the days of Viagra and other ED drugs. After about a year, his wife left him and sued him for a divorce on loss of intimacy grounds. If there were not double standards in the courts (which I feel there quite often are), she should have been patient and sympathetic to the fact that he had a life altering and very serious disease. But the judge seemed to agree with her position, that the marriage should not continue if her sexual needs could no longer be met. Not nice. But as I said, that's life.

So, again, I hope that jasonk282 and his wife work this out. But no, I'm not going to agree that he is in any way, shape or form the bad guy here - I don't care if he jerks off 20 times a day. From what he has said, he has not done what many other men have done, or would do. Rather than tell him to suck it up or he doesn't have it so bad, I prefer suggesting a course of action where both people contribute to making this marriage work for both of them. If she's not willing to do that, then I guess what happens happens.

Just :2 cents: from the happy, confirmed bachelor... with no kids.

I would add that as fathers, mothers, husbands and wives...there is more than likely the case that a person won't be able to provide every need, want and desire of their wives, husbands and children all the time and probably not most of the time....but that's not what you owe them. You owe them a reasonable effort to do so and for that you deserve reasonable understanding when you can't.

 

[shillfinder]

And conversely if she's not gonna give him any, she better damn well not complain when he has to relieve his tension on his own.