Re: The Sexodus hy men are giving up on women.
When I was in my mid teens in high school, I was the victim of a classmate who was very well known for harassing a lot of the girls that attended my school. He didn't actually rape any of us, at least not to my knowledge, but the gestures and acts that he did were completely unacceptable. He would do the standard obscene sexual gestures at random girls, such as getting their attention and sticking two of his fingers around his mouth, sticking his tongue between them, doing air pelvic thrusts, things of that nature. Occasionally, it got physical. I had the misfortune of sitting next to him in one of my classes, where it got worse and worse each day. One day he would be grazing my thigh with his hand, the next day he would be blatantly reaching out and grabbing my boobs. I never gave him permission to do any of this, never asked for it, never wanted it.
So one day a friend and I decided to go to the counselor's office to report it. After school, I went home to find that they had called my mom to inform her of our report, and instead of consoling me, she accused me of bringing it upon myself because of the way I dressed, for that day I had been wearing a pink mini skirt and tight t-shirt.
After a few days of talking to the counselor one on one, together with my friend (who was also a victim of his harassment), and the boy bringing in his parents to fight his case of not-guilty, the counselor brought me in by myself one last day. To my and every other school girl's misfortune, the boy's father was the local judge of our county. He had the law on his side. Anyway, the counselor sat me down, and proceeded to tell me that accusations of sexual harassment are not to be taken lightly and that the school takes them very seriously, that they have a very strict policy on it, and that she never wants to hear another word from me again about it. She accused me of lying. The boy got away with. I sat there crying, tears streaming down my face, utterly dumbfounded and speechless.
When I was 16, a guy I was seeing raped me repeatedly. He was obsessed with anal sex, I didn't like it, and he would hold down my hands and tell me to just relax, let him do it, to just take it. I was young and naive. Did I shout, scream, and tell him to stop? Did I hurt him? Did I push him away? No. I would quietly say, "No" over and over again, but I still took it. Does that make what he did right?
When I was 17, on Halloween after a party, my ex-boyfriend offered me a ride back to the party I was just at after I dropped my drunk boyfriend off at his apartment. Instead of taking me back to the party, he took me to his frat house, where he proceeded to rape me on his bed while I called my friend from my cell, crying while he was having his way with me.
After that incident in high school with the boy who got away with it, I was forever afraid to ever tell authorities of any form of sexual assault that happened to me. I always thought that no matter what, no one would believe me. No one would take me seriously.
These days, more and more women are being encouraged to come forth and report rape, whether in high school, college, at work, domestically, or elsewhere. And more and more women are in fact being sexually assaulted. Or maybe it's not actually more women that are being assaulted, maybe it's just that more are reporting it. Because back in the day, husbands actually could legally get away with raping their wives. It was the wife's duty to sexually please her husband, and if she tried to file charges, she would be ignored. This actually happened to my own grandmother.
However. I really, really can't wrap my head around this whole sexodus thing. What in the actual fuck is the point? Is this just another excuse men are coming up with to avoid putting forth any effort in relationships? I don't understand it. Just because it's becoming more common for women to speak up when they've been abused, doesn't mean women are more prone to falsely accuse. Where are the statistics? And if there are statistics, are there any backup statistics, or if I typed in something like, "women not falsely accusing rape", to counter those statistics, would that generate a whole slew of articles countering the point of this stupid sexodus crap?
And let's not forgot that Game of Thrones, white knight, bad boy, assholes versus nice guys nonsense. I am really sick of hearing guys complain about that. In relation to GoT, where the video states that while women claim to want nice, sensitive, romantic guys, meanwhile they go home and drool over testosterone fueled, big chested men on GoT, let me clarify: It's not assholes versus nice guys. And when we're staring at guys like Drogo, we're not gawking at them because they're dickheads. We're gawking at them because they're fucking hot. But who else on that show besides Drogo is really that massive of a guy? Um, The Mountain? No one wants to fuck The Mountain. Then there's Tyrion, who is a tiny little guy with a big heart and good sense of humor. Not big chested. And Snow, who isn't big either, but he is really cute, and seemingly sensitive to boot. And you know the real asshole in the show? Joffrey. And I can assure you, no one is lusting over that little twat.
What women want is a hot guy with a nice amount of testosterone, who will shove us up against a wall, toss us onto the bed, rip our clothes off, and fuck this shit out of us, while at the same time is a caring, gentle man who can protect us, respect our needs and wishes, and love us. Being a manly, hunky man is in a nowhere synonymous with being an asshole. And if we can't find that manly, hunky man, we will just as soon settle for a guy who is a little bit less in the appearance department and a little bit more in the department. Or maybe not just as soon, as many of us will often spend a decent portion of our dating lives going from asshole to asshole, because those assholes deceived us into thinking they were good looking guys with good hearts who wouldn't lie to us, cheat on us, rip out our hearts and stomp on them.
One more point. What about men? Do you not drool over hot babes in porn spewing trash about how much they want big dicks, taking cum in the face, being slapped with penises, and doing every other imaginable sexual fantasy catered to men? Yet on the opposite end of the spectrum, you all claim that you know it's fake, that you prefer women without makeup, you hate fake girls with fake hair and fake nails and fake tans. Yet you'll just as soon whip out your dick at the next skinny little blonde with big tits and a curvy ass, nice long hair extensions, who just came from the nail salon, and day dream about bending her over the table and fucking her in the ass? Meanwhile there's a girls with no makeup, plain hair, glasses, a simple t-shirt, eating a donut at the coffee shop while reading the newspaper, is getting no attention at all, wondering why men don't like her.
It's a two way street. It's complete bullshit to sit there and whine about women being inconsistent with who they say they want versus who they really go for, when men are the exact same way.
And just to be clear, OP, I'm not accusing you of anything or meaning anything negative toward you personally in my post, I'm just talking about men and women in general, with the word "you" being the royal you.
Just my two cents.
