There's a girl that a friend of mine (supposedly our friendhip is close like "brothers") met at the bowling alley one day he started talkin 2 her but from wut he told me he only liked her as a friend n got her number. He then says he got her number for his actual brother cuz he sed he liked her. Now his actual brother we were friends at 1 point but over the years we havent been close like we used to but the 1st friend i'm mentioning we are cool like i sed "brothers". Came 2 find out the girl didnt like the friend i used 2 be cool with so i came in n started talkin 2 her but i knew my friend (supposedly brother) was talkin 2 her 1st n wen i came in n talked 2 her i told him if its ok if i can talk 2 her cuz i liked her too. He said it was fine n that he only liked her as a friend. As me n her started talkin she tells me she likes my friend (so called brother) so i kinda try n hook them up but then me n her got kinda close n she started building up feelings for me (from always talkin late at night to like 5am) after i tried hookin those 2 up i guess my friend felt like he didnt want 2 get into a relationship wit her for his own personal reasons so after that was all said n dun, me n her got close even more n for the record we didnt have sex but we did mess around. Anyway the more i think that me n her got sumthin goin on, i notice her still talkin 2 my friend "brother" n 1 day wen we were at a walgreens she went inside n i waited in the truck n she leaves her cell phone. I go thru the phone n i see her textin my friend "brother" n i see dirty text messages in there n them callin each other baby n all that bs. Now 1 thing i do kno is that she duz still have feelings for him but she says she has feelings for me too but everytime wen i confront my friend about how he feels about her its always the same n he says i jus like her as a friend until like maybe a couple weeks ago. Now he says he has strong feelings for her n that he loves her now im lookin at it like so basically u lied to me about it for the past 7 months on this situation. Me n the girl has had arguments about it cuz i feel like maybe she has a hard time moving on n then shes gunna throw at me well ur not my man so stop makin demands but the only reason y im makin demands is cuz maybe i let my feelings get the best of me n also at the end of the day my focus is always on her. I have nobody else. But her focus is on me n my friend "brother" (for the record we also had arguments about her ex still being in her life too she says she has no feelings for him at all but i know he still has feelings for her. I think becuz they still comunicate every once in a while but shes not getting anything good from him) anyway to make a long story longer idk wut to do i still care for her n i still want 2 have sumthing with her but since we already got into a few arguments idk what she really wants from me but she still says she has feelings for me. And idk wut 2 do about my friend "brother" cuz he basically lied to me....anyway idk wut 2 do. does it make me look like more of the bad guy because i should've respected my friends wishes even though he was talkin to her 1st? Should I still remain friends with my friend and the girl or should i just back away from both for a lil while? Because of this situation things between me n my friend have gotten awkward. And have anybody on here ever been in a similar situation? btw i'm 29 my friend is 20 n the girl is 19. She can also be some what of an attention seeker. and also i have asked other close friends for advice about this situation and they all told me to walk away but I want to see other people's advice to see if sumthin different comes up before i make a final decision. Any advice will help. Thanx.