Advice On A Girl (Please Girls Answer)

I want to hear what girls think because I am a guy and all my guy friends keep leading me in different directions. Long story short I meet this girl on a set, I am a cinematographer in SC we were shooting a feature film kind of like Cant Hardly Wait. After the film ended I started working with her in photography and shot a few picture sets. Its always short talk when I try to talk to her, but she smiles alot.

Main concern is this: I recently went to one of her fashion shows, I seen her posting about it on social media, I text her and asked her if I can come is it open to the public, I did not just want to show up. She wrote back and said yes open to the public I would love you to come. I went and she walked out from the back stage multiple times I waved at her and she would not stop by to say hey. I started talking to her friend (Im good friends with her friend I work with her too on video shoots) she kept getting her friend to come back stage with her, would walk over and still not acknowledge me talk to her friend and they would leave back stage. Once the show was done I just left. She text me and said thanks for coming out.

I was pretty sure that night shes not interested in me at all. But a few days later I had her booked on a video shoot. I was really worried that she would not come. She was late as usual every photoshoot shes late. My friend who gaffs for me said she has no respect for you if a girl shows up late she doesnt care about your time, and doesnt care about you. I just ignored him she finally showed up. I left her with the client and the director, and just started walking by my self to the location to set up camera and thought give her space.

Where im super confused is this: Shes knows the gaffer, she knows the grips, but when I walked ahead of the group she speed up just to walk beside me. I set up for the first shot, we shot it, and again I thought just move to location 2, walked ahead and shes speed walking beside me again, we basically got to location 2 6 minutes before the others arrived, so I started talking to her about usual stuff any modeling coming up, any new films, just small talk.

Does this girl have any interest in me? If a girl is always late does that mean she disrespects you. Any advice to tell me to see if this girl likes me. I really like her, but willing to give it all up too, last thing I want is to do something stupid and not see her again. I would rather do photo sessions with her, than ask her out and freak her out to never meet again.
 

xfire

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I want to hear what girls think because I am a guy and all my guy friends keep leading me in different directions.

I'm not offering any advice because you asked for female perspectives. But I have a question and a comment; What have your guy friends said? And, it really doesn't matter what other girls think because they're not the one you're interested in.
 

Harpsman

Light one for Me
Good advice from my ******'s so far:1orglaugh
 
Fashion show encounter does sound pretty *meh*
Doesn't sound like she only runs late for you so I wouldn't take that personally.
You may be in the friend zone here but some of her signals are a bit mixed.
So bottom line I'm with rasq. Just ask her out, already.
If she has a "freak out" over a casual date request she's no great loss anyway. Asking her to dinner or a movie wouldn't qualify as "something stupid" from what I'm reading, even if you get rejected. And I really doubt she'd quit working with you unless you come on super heavy.
 
You will never know if she likes you unless you try. Just get it over with and find out if she's into you. If not, then at least you know and you can finally move on instead of wasting your time with her.
 

Torre82

Moderator \ Jannie
Staff member
Human goes to FreeOnes.
Human asks for advice from girls.
Human does not know what a sausagefest the board actually is, was, and will be.
Human should mebbe ask Petra.
Human should definitely just ask her out for coffee or just a meet-and-regreet. (Dont mind that it is one E away from being regret. Yeah.)
 

Rey C.

Racing is life... anything else is just waiting.
...last thing I want is to do something stupid and not see her again.

Or get #MeToo'ed and ***********. If she takes greater interest in you after she sees your car or your watch, RUN!!! Seriously.

Ask her out. If she goes, she goes. If she doesn't, she doesn't. You Might get to know her and think, what the hell was I thinking? You're 27. You're still at the age where what she looks like is all that matters to you (or at least 95%). If she's pretty and a decent human being, that one might be a keeper. But if she's just pretty (and can't be where she's supposed to be when she's supposed to be there), why waste time and have nothing but drama to look forward to? Either way, I wouldn't stress about it. Just ask her out and see what's what.
 

bobjustbob

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I am a woman and have an answer. You ain't gettin' in her pants. She ain't into you. One thing we don't like are desperate men.

You say that you are 27. Do you think that you are never going to be with a woman before 28? When was the last time that you were with a woman? Let me tell you something, I can have a man any time I want for sex. Mind you, I'm just doing porn and many regular looking women do this also. Paint our faces and we are harlots. I'm independent in my modeling career and don't need a man with needs. Emotional stuff like "I'm the one." If you're working on me like that today. I don't have time for that. Get the hint. Your wishes are not on my mind. Down the road we may be something or nothing. If I like working with you you'll get pay checks. Don't risk checks for something stupid that will stop them. Put her into your emotional back pocket and continue with your life and career.
 
If you come across as too keen that will put her off, even the fact you are posting the story here makes it seem as if you won't be able to act cool enough around her to seem attractive to her.

Being late is something some people have trouble with, it is a weakness, it is not a sign she doesn't respect you
 
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