I dated a woman from 2003 through 2009. We've hooked up off-and-on over the years, as FWBs - last time I think was in 2015. She's in San Diego, and is now in a multi-BR house. While chatting during the holidays she invited me out to see her. While catching up, she also told me that she's hooking up with this dude 2 hours away, sporadically. Before finishing the conversation, I ask her if she has mentioned to him about me staying with her if I visit. She goes, "Oh .. I hadn't considered that. Yeah .. you should probably get a hotel.."
History: once while we were broken up, I took a trip to Puerto Rico. She flew down on day 2, and stayed the rest of the week with me. I paid ~ $600 for the hotel, and she stated outright that she felt she didn't need to contribute ANYTHING.. To this day - she lambastes me because I asked her to pick up dinner dates every 5th time or so - when she made roughly the same $ I did (20% less).
I'm considering booking a vacation in the near future. If I visit her, $450 of it will be to stay in a hotel, vs. in one of her spare bedrooms. Just a platonic visit; I'm assuming the guy is still railing her on the weekends when he gets a chance.
So - go to San Diego (then LA and LV), or eff it, and just hit Vegas?
History: once while we were broken up, I took a trip to Puerto Rico. She flew down on day 2, and stayed the rest of the week with me. I paid ~ $600 for the hotel, and she stated outright that she felt she didn't need to contribute ANYTHING.. To this day - she lambastes me because I asked her to pick up dinner dates every 5th time or so - when she made roughly the same $ I did (20% less).
I'm considering booking a vacation in the near future. If I visit her, $450 of it will be to stay in a hotel, vs. in one of her spare bedrooms. Just a platonic visit; I'm assuming the guy is still railing her on the weekends when he gets a chance.
So - go to San Diego (then LA and LV), or eff it, and just hit Vegas?
