Need advice; marriage or love

[SpexyAshleigh]

You're a tough one, Spex.

Perhaps, but he wanted my opinion so I gave it. IMO, no one has the right to have an affair. I don't care who you are or what your marital situation is like, if its that bad that you are going to stray, then just be a man (or woman) and end it. Disrespecting the person you vowed to love forever, not to mention exposing them to STD's that they never asked for is just not necessary. And furthermore, if you have children, then its important to show the mother (or father) of your children basic respect for the kids sake. Otherwise you put the children in a position where they have to take sides, and thats never a good idea. Its your job as a parent to set the example of how to treat your loved ones, and human beings as a whole...if you can't set that kind of example then why have kids? All you're doing is showing them how shitty people and spouses can be, and sets them up to lower their own standards when they choose future life mates.

I'm just speaking from experience here. Like I said, I'm the product of a marriage where my father engaged in extra marital affairs and seeing first hand how my father crushed my mothers soul...thats something I'll never forget. My siblings feel the same way. There's never EVER an excuse good enough to pardon infidelity. If the marriage is that bad...then get out of it.

 

[SpexyAshleigh]

And furthermore, what can possibly be attractive about a woman who's fucking around on HER children too? You said her children are very young...shouldn't she be focused on being a mother to babies instead of fucking around with you? Trash.

 

[Death-Proof-69]

staying with someone for the children is bullshit. they'll be better off living with honest parents who split up than growing up in a lie...true story.

 

[squallumz]

staying with someone for the children is bullshit. they'll be better off living with honest parents who split up than growing up in a lie...true story.

its one of those things.

honestly though, my thinking is you just shouldnt get married unless you actually know the person youre hooking up with and are ready to be married.

if you ask me, people get married without having any fucking clue.

 

[Death-Proof-69]

its one of those things.

honestly though, my thinking is you just shouldnt get married unless you actually know the person youre hooking up with and are ready to be married.

if you ask me, people get married without having any fucking clue.

no doubt...it's funny, my girlfriend and i have been together a little over five years now without getting married. we were engaged once about a year and a half in but called it off because we realized we weren't ready. in my opinion a couple is ready to get married when the marriage won't change the actual relationship. we could get married now but honestly there's not really any point. people put too much pressure on getting and being married that it often ruins what's actually important about a relationship. i see all these people i know getting married after a year and having not lived with the other person for long or at all and i laugh to myself because that's such a shot in the dark. you don't know someone that well until you've lived with them and grown with them. :2 cents: