I was just elaborating on my point, and answering your question about law enforcement 
Not directed at you Ban.
I didn't think it was aimed at me (like 75-80% sure), but I also didn't think what I said needed such a long response from you, nor did I think that you needed to elaborate your position, which is what instilled some doubt and the confusion.
Really, it doesn't matter why you don't want to do those things (or any things you may have or will be asked to do), it's none of our business, and a simple "I don't want to" should suffice with no further explanation needed.
Now that we've cleared the confusion about that, I feel better about making comments on what you said in your elaboration. And elaborate a bit on what I said.
Rough sex is one thing,
between two people who want it,
but the helplessness and terror that is being raped... is something else entirely. Someone who gets off on hurting and and abusing someone less powerful then themselves can hurt others and think nothing of it. If you fantasize about taking someone against their will.... do not let that become a strong fantasy for yourself. The more you think of it, the more you are excited about it, the more likely it is that you will do it. This is a basic principle even in self motivation....setting goals, visualizing, making it your most exciting thought...that's how people make their dreams come true. It's also how nearly EVERY rapist and murderer has explained how he got to the point that he was able to do the horrible things he did. He thought of it, he became excited about it, he fantasized about it, and next thing he knew he had to do it. I understand everyone who has fantasized about rape will not become a rapist, but I also know that it is a fool who believes that he can feed his mind such terrible thoughts and not become desensitized to it, and stimulated by it.
I get what you're saying, Mandy, and my context for rape being a legitimate fantasy is not as simple as I let it sound. You're right about everything you said, but the rape fantasies that I was thinking of weren't of fantasizing about actually raping someone, but more a role playing thing between two partners, where one gives up complete control to the other, aside from the initial consent to the idea and then some means to stop proceedings if things go too far. In that context, I see it as a legitimate fetish, but not actually thinking about going out and abducting someone to forcibly have sex with them against their will.
As far as the underage thing, when I was 16 I had sex with a much older man, i wanted it and he wanted it. I did not get raped. What he did was against the law and he should have had the self control to say no to me, but he didn't, and I understand that, and understand why so many guys would have fucked Britney Spears when she was 16 looking the way she did. So, underage is one thing, rape is another. I haven't had someone ask me to play a child per se, like 13 or younger, so no I haven't considered contacting law enforcement. I would blackmail them for the rest of their lives with that info anyway!
I also get what you're saying here, and heck, probably everyone in here had sex before they were of age, just not necessarily with someone much older than them, like you did. And I suspect an equal number of us also probably wish we had the opportunity to have sex with someone older when we weren't old enough. I've thought for a while now that biology says one thing, and laws say another as to when we're supposedly old enough. That there's not much difference in someone that's 16 and someone that's 18, or that somehow sex minutes before midnight into your 18th birthday is against the law, but once the clock reaches midnight, you're suddenly legal made much sense. Our bodies say we're ready years before the arbitrarily picked age of 18 the laws say, and it used to be that people got married much younger than they do now, in no small part due to shorter life expectancies, and I get that we've decided as a people that you should be so old, and supposedly responsible enough. But I've also thought that if you're within like 2 years of each other, you're close enough, but it should probably only start at like 15, so everyone more understands what's going on.
What I was thinking of as underage was definitely younger than like 15 (which I'm not sure why, with the body you have, Mandy, as you wouldn't be able to pull it off anyway), that the man would be much older, and of course that most laws say 18 or older.
Though, you could also argue along similar lines to what you were saying about rape fantasies potentially leading to actually doing something that could also happen with this type of fantasy. But, then you could also take what I said about what I considered legitimate rape fantasies and the above about biology and practically no difference between 16 and 18 but the law saying what's okay and what's not, and apply that here, and get the other side. So, who the hell knows.
But all that being said, the laws are the laws, and I have no intention of knowingly breaking them as an adult. And really, now most girls younger than like 20 look too young to me, so there's not even much temptation.
If someone has a fascination with shit that is their deal and it only affects them, so I don't have an issue with the idea, i just can't make myself play with it lol
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