Re: The Official Harley Spencer Thread!
Well, consistency shouldn't be too great an issue if the guy is aware of it. Have you discussed this frankly with the men you've been with and made it very clear that you need this?
Well, what might not be comfortable for you, isn't necessarily the same way for everyone else. I mean, obviously the position she takes up matters, but I've never had too big an issue getting comfortable with a woman mounting my face.
Yep he knows, we've talked about it a number of times.
Sadly, he's not young anymore. By age 59, you start to develop some libido problems, like soft erections, stamina issues, and trouble maintaining an erection. I know he's into the sex so I don't take it personally at all, it's not something he has control over. So what I mean by this is that sometimes I can't always have total consistency because even when I get into a rhythm, he loses his erection sometimes in which case I'm riding him while he's soft, which isn't easy to do, so we stop and do other stuff until he gets hard again.
As for going down on me or using fingers, it's hard for me to explain what it is that I need. The thing with other girls who get off that way is that they like the wetness and the soft tongue. That doesn't seem to do it for me. As for fingers... well I've only been able to get myself off with my own fingers a few times (maybe like 3 times, ever), so I can't imagine it's going to be any easier with someone else's hands.
But hey I don't think it's the end of the world if I can't cum while being eaten out! That's not such a bad thing at all. Means more action for the guy, right?
Thank you, Harley.
Thank you, very much indeed.
I am suitably aroused.
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You're welcome, Larss.
That emoticon is interesting, I don't think I've ever seen that one before.
I know Happy has just said as much, but talk to your man. I would hope most guys who want their lady to reach orgasm do so because they want the lady to have that exquisite pleasure and not just to satisfy ego or in hope of receiving similar treatment in return, and if that requires a little blunt conversation, they'd be more than happy to engage in it rather than know you weren't being 100% fulfilled. During the act itself, you'd be amazed at how far a "just like that" or "don't stop" goes. I recently had the pleasure of going down on a lady of some experience (in her early 40s) and I was blown away at the confidence and knowing what she liked to the point where she was telling me what to do and how, and for how long. I was a little worried myself that I wouldn't be able to push her buttons given the difference in experience (I'm a novice by comparison) but she helped me please her so we had an equally enjoyable experience. Having said that, what Happy says about the back-brain element of "is his heart in this" is a big factor too. The biggest compliment I got was "what made it great is you ate it like you loved it" - which was true.
It sounds to me as though you might have had enough good sex to know certain feelings where you think "if I have enough of this for long enough, I'll orgasm" - get this across to your bloke and you're golden. In fact, I can't think of anything better to hear than "just like that" or "keep doing that" when engaged in an act purely for lady's pleasure. It makes me want to keep doing it until the end of time.
Sorry to stick an oar in if it's not welcome. Hey..... sticking an oar in, have you tried that? <jk>
You're fine

I'm more than happy to have actual discussions in my thread rather than the typical banter of posting photos for everyone to drool over
I know my guy's heart is in, so there's no issue there. I can tell just by his reactions when he goes down on me and whatnot. He gets hard, very heavy breathing and sometimes moaning himself, and even gets wet.