I know Hot Mega.. i have been working that out! am forgetting about her past cause she gets angry when i talk about that! She doesn't like to think about her past relationship!
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Shifty
O.G.
Whaddya mean, lunchbox?
jasonk282
Banned
Nice, but Amy was a lesbian if I recall.
Dude I would not use the Love word after a "few" months, your going to come off creepy and drive her away. So you were a virgin, not wrong with that unless your 40.
jasonk282
Banned
Wow I forget that even back then Ben Affleck was a douche. I do like Kevin Smith movies though.
Yeah. It's all fun and games until it comes to the whole sexual past thing. You see all the things she done and all the things you have not. You feel either: Upset because you were unable to have her first. Upset that she has been with another. You are slightly wishing you had found someone who would not talk about it or is on same level as you are.
It can go on and on. Thing is, if you are happy with her and she is happy with you, what is the problem? Honestly, you need to let this go and move on from the whole ex and sex thing. That is the past. Focus on the future if anything.
Basically it is Chasing Amy in a sense. It's all good until he realized all the things she did when she did and he did not. That can become a wedge. One of two things, possibly both, you wish you were able to have done it at the time, too; or you wish it was her you were able to do it with instead of another. Thing is, past is past. Get over it.
Either you like her for who she is now or you're going to have problems later on. Because soon these thoughts of jealousy or whatever will manifest. Only you truly know what it is, and what you know is what you need to deal with. Basically get over it. Don't dwell. Don't worry. Enjoy your time with her. There must be something intimate if you are better than her ex. Sure, she has experience alright, but you obviously are able to provide the emotional balance to what her ex must not been able to really provide.
Just because they were together for four years doesn't mean anything. Some are together longer than that and have nothing to do with each other except for sex and occasional outing.
You and her must have something she and her ex never had, or lost, whatever.
Do not dwell. Do not worry. Enjoy your time with her and make her happy. :hatsoff:
It can go on and on. Thing is, if you are happy with her and she is happy with you, what is the problem? Honestly, you need to let this go and move on from the whole ex and sex thing. That is the past. Focus on the future if anything.
Basically it is Chasing Amy in a sense. It's all good until he realized all the things she did when she did and he did not. That can become a wedge. One of two things, possibly both, you wish you were able to have done it at the time, too; or you wish it was her you were able to do it with instead of another. Thing is, past is past. Get over it.
Either you like her for who she is now or you're going to have problems later on. Because soon these thoughts of jealousy or whatever will manifest. Only you truly know what it is, and what you know is what you need to deal with. Basically get over it. Don't dwell. Don't worry. Enjoy your time with her. There must be something intimate if you are better than her ex. Sure, she has experience alright, but you obviously are able to provide the emotional balance to what her ex must not been able to really provide.
Just because they were together for four years doesn't mean anything. Some are together longer than that and have nothing to do with each other except for sex and occasional outing.
You and her must have something she and her ex never had, or lost, whatever.
Do not dwell. Do not worry. Enjoy your time with her and make her happy. :hatsoff:
You can use "love" or whatever word you want after a day if you think it reflects your feelings. That's not his problem. His problem is nagging himself and his g/f about her past sex life to the point where he feels like he doesn't size up (poor choice of words I know) to her ex.
Another example of why some men should not ask some women some questions.:2 cents:
Questions are fine. Thing is, if you ask you better be ready to receive and accept the answer.
Exhibit A As to why some men shouldn't ask some women some questions.
I agree with this wholeheartedly. You never wanna talk about your pas sexual endeavors with a person that you care about, especially someone that you love. That's way too touchy of a subject and irrelevant to ever bring up!
Thanx whimsy! and EVRYONE ELSE that its giving me GREAT ADVISE!!! I wish you all the best! and its true.. I MUST ENJOY THE MOMENT and FORGET ABOUT THE PAST!
I will ask more questions 2 you guys since it helped me A LOT! :thefinger
This part from Mega is spot on.
I was amazed as I read through the posts here just how clearly it seemed to me that you could judge an age of the poster by the response that they gave:
I thought I noticed younger posters saying, "shush, don't ask, don't think about it, asking is terrible"
and older posters saying things like, "so what if she's had a past, she's with you, or her experience can be good for you both, or her past is what makes her who she is, in every aspect, so embrace it"
I'm paraphrasing of course but you can really tell, I think, that as you get older your attitudes about your current partners sexual past will not bother you as much, and in fact might actually help 'move you both' toward more adventurous attempts of sexual things.
I'm not trying to trivialize how you currently feel, but note that things will seem much different in future relationships. And perhaps you aren't so much jealous of her sexual past but the lack of yours.
PS no joking here now: Buy a few Cosmos, read up on new things to try, take Mega's advice and make it so that if there ever is another after you...she'll remember her second more than her first!
Elwood70
Torn & Frayed.
...and vice-versa.
More people should abide by this rule:
Don't ask a question unless you're really ready for the answer.The world could use more honesty.
I generally agree but women tend to have a different perspective on things like this than men.
From what I've seen, typically the only thing that matters to many men is whether you've had better sex with someone else than them. Women typically care if the man they're with loved or was emotionally attached more with someone from a previous relationship than them.
That's why women are usually better equipped to forgive for infidelity than men are. Infidelity is usually only about sex so as long as the woman doesn't perceive the other woman to have moved into the emotional space they occupy it's easier for most women to forget about who men have fucked IMO.
But yeah.. as a general rule, why wade into water if you're unsure whether or not it's too deep for you only to find out that it is in fact too deep? In many cases it's too late then.
In other words, it's too late to figure out if you can handle the answer to a question after you've gotten the answer.
Lol easy captain just trying to give you some advice about your girlfriend if you can't take a little criticism this is not the place for you IMO.:nanner:
Wow.. you people give great advise! have this happened to you before? Did you just move on and have fun!? Cause it looks that most people here have pass through my experience!
have this happened to you before? Did you just move on and have fun!? Cause it looks that most people here have pass through my experience!Wow.. you people give great advise!
In a 'round-about-way I have. I wasn't in your position though. A woman I met once turn out to be (unbeknown to me at the time) in the middle of a break up with her long term b/f. When we met we were both hot for each other and had sex literally the same day. We had sex just about everyday for a week until one night her b/f followed her over to my place and waited for her to come out....long story short...I didn't want to be involved with the situation and told her (in so many words) that I didn't want to be involved until she got a resolution to that situation first.
After about a couple of months she started calling me saying it wasn't working and she want to be with me. Apparently he was badgering her for the gory details of what went on with me and her. She apparently told him how we met, and that we were intimate and even how many times...because she wanted to show him her honesty since he was asking.
According to her that wasn't good enough...he became consumed with it, kept badgering her about whether she was thinking about me, wanted to have sex with me again, etc. Even to the point where he made her come over to get a picture of herself from me that she kept on her keyring that he noticed was missing (probably a bigger mistake on his part because the first thing she did was hug and hold on to me for a couple of seconds.) He was trying to force sex on her all the time and when she didn't want to he rode her about it. According to her, she became frustrated one night and unloaded on him with everything and that she did wish she was still fucking me and a whole lot of graphic details of how I did it, etc.
At that point she just wanted out of the relationship. I suspect it would have been much easier for her to get over it if he didn't keep bringing it up to remind her.:2 cents:
I'm not proud to admit I have cheated on some women in my life too. For the most part when they figured it was just sex they got over it much easier than I think I would have.
Wow.. you people give great advise!
As with most things in life you go from having to be told about things to giving advice in the blink of an eye. The main voice resonating throughout these responses is: Live in the now!
true that!Similar threads
