Intimate Relationships with Active Pornstars

[Smallville22]

If it was with the right girl, we would marry. I would have no problem with her still being active after marriage after all it's just her job.

:dito:

 

[Maggie Green]

I'll settle for friends with benefits. If she is fucking around on camera, it's only fair that I get me some trim on the side as well. :yesyes:

Then you totally don't understand that porno sex isn't real sex.

 

[Sicario]

Then you totally don't understand that porno sex isn't real sex.

Oh really? So please enlighten me regarding the difference between real sex and porno sex.

 

[Mr_Stiffy]

Oh really? So please enlighten me regarding the difference between real sex and porno sex.

I'd say the biggest difference is when you're having real sex it only matters if it feels good, and when you're shooting porn it only matters that it looks good.

That and having your positions and duration of fucking dictated to you, finishing when you're told whether you actually want to or not, having a room full of people watching, having to fuck regardless of whether you're too tired/hungry/not in the mood/got something distracting you and you'd really rather not, the locale or environment being uncomfortable/too warm/too cold, having sex with someone you don't find all that attractive as opposed to someone you really want to fuck....

..... and some things I'm sure Maggie can add that I've forgotten.

 

[GibbsGrad2002]

open relationship

 

[ban-one]

Open marriage with me getting the chance to make it with her fellow female performers.

 

[Armanaeus]

Other: there is no way I could have an intimate relationship with anyone in this world, whether I like it or not.

 

[Maggie Green]

I'd say the biggest difference is when you're having real sex it only matters if it feels good, and when you're shooting porn it only matters that it looks good.

That and having your positions and duration of fucking dictated to you, finishing when you're told whether you actually want to or not, having a room full of people watching, having to fuck regardless of whether you're too tired/hungry/not in the mood/got something distracting you and you'd really rather not, the locale or environment being uncomfortable/too warm/too cold, having sex with someone you don't find all that attractive as opposed to someone you really want to fuck....

..... and some things I'm sure Maggie can add that I've forgotten.

You pretty much covered all the bases. It's nothing like the sex that you have at home. We only make it look like it is.

 

[cestmoi2010]

You pretty much covered all the bases. It's nothing like the sex that you have at home. We only make it look like it is.

I realize Sex in personal life has feelings and emotion while on screen it is just physical and as soon as the scene is over time to move on but I still couldn't handle it. I admit it, though. IF we had an "open relationship" I would be OK with her being with other guys because I am with other women but I just couldn't handle this.

 

[luis1972]

marriage forever

 

[Lonilover]

pure sex, so a fuck buddy.... won't let my heart to get involved.. If i'll do that I want her only for myself and then it will be a problem

 

[tarzanyaa]

One night works for me

 

[Anonyne#017]

yes, i think doing g/g is way different than doing b/g. in regards to ethics, companies are not going to care if you had a relationship. if the female is so against working with her ex i assume she would add him to her 'no list'. i think an ocsm would answer this question better though since they can possibly speak from experience

Yep, first paragraph was rather directed towards our pink members. And yep, while normal man does not see other women as mating competition, they do not want to share with other men. This could be something from very base of animal instincts that our society so hard tries to deny. Men see women with women something like; the more the merrier, more pussies to fill with magic dust, higher chance to continue his golden lineage. Then again, I wonder if this same vision would apply if 50% or more of population were gays/lesbians from the start and people learned to see competition everywhere. Can just give a guess how world would be nowadays if protection was never invented...

she could be the greatest woman in the world, i would stll not get into a serious relationship with her. when i say that their job isn't an issue, i mean i don't look down on pornstars in any way like some people do. they are people just like me and you and deserve the same courtesy (just in general speaking). but when it comes to a relationship, being with an active pornstar is not something i could see myself doing.

You wouldn't even accept the greatest woman in the world who'd love you like no other? That's some picky tastes you have there man... You realize that your answer sound very typical double-minded answer which you are dressing up to look nice and mixing with bit different matters. What you are saying is typical selfish pick where I'd say that you actually do look down at them; You accept their job when it comes to your own personal gain, pleasure and joy for your dick, you see them as sexual objects, but you do not fully accept their job or them as a girlfriend because of your beliefs. You are also mixing in some "every living being is equal" -matters in with accepting their job which you use as argument saying that their job is OK, while in reality you do not fully accept their jobs to your standards. I'm not saying that this kind of thinking is wrong. We are all driven with our natural needs, we are all teach from the beginning that our bodies are our sacred vessels. Only closest and chosen person gets to get close enough to taste all the fruits of garden of eden. We all want to feel special, but porn then again breaks all those old rules and even thought pretty much everyone do watch porn less or more, porn in public is still considered as shameful thing.

I'd say the biggest difference is when you're having real sex it only matters if it feels good, and when you're shooting porn it only matters that it looks good.

That and having your positions and duration of fucking dictated to you, finishing when you're told whether you actually want to or not, having a room full of people watching, having to fuck regardless of whether you're too tired/hungry/not in the mood/got something distracting you and you'd really rather not, the locale or environment being uncomfortable/too warm/too cold, having sex with someone you don't find all that attractive as opposed to someone you really want to fuck..

You forgot to mention most important difference between real sex or maybe better to say making love and porn; real emotions, feelings, bonding with person you love. Also real sex in many cases can be much closer to porn as how you define it there. When we start to add typical behaviour and problems of relationships, it's reality and part of many and many relationships that are much closer to porn than you think there.


Related to on-camera sex, I will save time eyes for people and skip huge essay about natural human bonding, forming of emotions, breeding and even our society and marriage's affection to all these things for good and instead I'll just question something bit differently here.

I've understood that pornstars can always pick male actor and are not forced to perform with anyone they do not want. How pornstars pick their male actors? Do you pick one from list, do you pick one you like the most or do you go with one you have least connection with? I have seen some pornstars giving both kind of answers. Both cases are proof of emotional connections attached to work, base of all relationships, which could be considered unprofessional behaviour for any business. Most likely many pornstars (maybe not all) have emotions connected to their job, but they are rather just denying their feelings that might already exist, to make it look more professional. Picking one they like, they are willingly fucking with person they feel most natural connection with and are basically fucking a person in scene who is closest to person who they would fuck in real life. Picking one you do not like, might sign that one might be afraid of her feelings and probably picks to not have sex with person she might end up liking, thus also having emotions attached and controlling work. Wouldn't correct professional answer here be; to pick male actor who you think will help selling your content the most? Never one you like the most or don't like the most, which both are answers leading to direction that emotions are dominating their choices and it's much more than a just an act. Not forgetting that to get the best out of performance one has to really get into it and enjoy it...

 

[Ygor Dragunov]

If I were ever to see a pornstar I would want it be an incall escort situation where money, boundaries, and rules apply.

 

[Mr_Stiffy]

You forgot to mention most important difference between real sex or maybe better to say making love and porn; real emotions, feelings, bonding with person you love.

Given that the question was in response to Sicario proposing the open relationship with a pornstar where he wants to "get me some trim on the side as well" I neglected to consider much in the way of love or bonding.


In terms of how pornstars pick their male on-screen partners, I'd say I'm inclined to believe that for someone established in B/G it's more likely that "no reason to be on the No List" is the requirement for working with someone rather than necessarily having to have reasons for them to get onto their "Yes List." The guy has a decent cock and knows how to use it, you work with him, unless he gives you a reason not to.

 

[bobjustbob]

I would not want her to tell me how her day went. I don't want to hear about any of that nasty shit. Getting people to pay you for fucking other people. I'm not even sure if I'd even touch them. Who knoes what diseases these people bring home with them. Those in the profession are fucked up just for thinking that this is how they want to earn money. Stay away from me.

Edit:This is about lawyers, isn't it?

 

[Maggie Green]

You really think female actresses "hide" their feelings in porn and become "bonded" with the male actors? LMAO...seriously this is funny. On occasion some do and they end up dating that person or even marrying them but if that happened every time we shot a scene, that would be a mess.

No, you don't always pick the guy you work with. You basically have a no list and a yes list. If your no list is too extensive, you'll never get any work. Depends on who you are of course but this is the basic way it works. You think the chicks who work with dudes like Rodney Moore pick him b/c they find him attractive? It's a job. Some of you don't understand that and keep looking for explanations as to why things happen in porn and try so hard to understand how people can be in relationships with porn stars. If you keep questioning it and putting up polls like this over and over, obviously you aren't the type of person that could ever be with an adult actress. And that's totally fine for you. No loss to us.

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If I were ever to see a pornstar I would want it be an incall escort situation where money, boundaries, and rules apply.

So you want to illegally hire a prostitute?

 

[Rex Hermaykup]

Can't really answer without having met one. It could be marriage depending on the person.

 

[humperbink]

I wouldn't mind if her partner wore a condom. I don't know if women can wash the inside of their vaginas with soap and water (I imagine it burns) but I certainly know that I don't want other guy dick germs on my dick. I'd also imagine a woman doesn't actually tell her husband what kind of dirty sex act she's going to be participating in before leaving for work. I could be wrong. It's more like the boyfriend/husband knows, she certainly knows, and neither one wants to explain it any further. It's really not a big deal unless you're surrounded by people who like to criticize others for having sex on camera. Distance yourself from these people.

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

You really think female actresses "hide" their feelings in porn and become "bonded" with the male actors?

Well obviously. You must be a virgin or you'd know about the Magical Powers of the Penis™. You see, it's a well known fact that all women are man-hungry and that whenever a penis enters them it's magical powers make the woman fall instantly in love with whoever it's attached to. Invariably they will try to force this person to marry them, since this is the goal of all women everywhere: to land a man. I'm pretty sure the world's women have written that down in a manifesto somewhere. See... this is why most men are complete pigs, because by acting like total assholes men can occasionally counteract some of the Magical Powers of the Penis™, making this the only way to avoid women becoming too clingy. It's a scientific fact. I'm pretty sure there was a study done. By Dr. Phil I think. I believe it was called "A Treatise on Women: Bitches Be Crazy".

I'm at least 0% sure all of the above is mostly correct.