If It's "Just Sex"...

[ChefChiTown]

...then why is it that when you ask someone how many people they've had sex with, their response is usually "THAT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS"...???

I mean, it's "just sex", so what's the big deal? If you honestly believe that it's "just sex" and that people shouldn't be judged or treated differently because of the number of their sexual partners, then why act as if it's something extremely personal and not anybody's business?

Also, if it's "just sex", then why doesn't it come up in everyday conversations? For instance...

"Hey Chef, what did you end up doing this weekend?"
"Nothing. I JUST played some video games and watched some TV."

People will say things like that, but you never hear someone say...

"Hey Patty, what did you end up doing this weekend?"
"Nothing. I JUST had sex with this one guy from the bar."

:dunno:

 

[BlueBalls]

Even if it was just sex to a person, I dont see why you would want to share it with everyone. No one is that open with their friends that they will talk about everything.

People shouldnt be judged for how many sexual partners they have had, but isnt sex still a personal thing, isnt it something that consenting adults perform privatly (not always). Sex is still a taboo subject in some places, the open discussion of it is frowned upon or even protested against, isnt sex on TV still a taboo subject in the US, even more than violence and bad language?

So you can see why some people would like to keep who they have sex privatly and maybe the sex they are having has some significance to them and it would take away some of the pleasure they get from the thought of it by making it public and having everyone around them know.

But you do meet people who tell you everything, these are usually the assholes you meet at parties who love to gloat about their "conquests" etc etc.

 

[Rattrap]

I actually have a friend who I'd have the latter conversation with. We don't, though, as I only get to see her on weekends anyway and generally on those weekends I'm having sex with her.

 

[D-rock]

Sex is also a two person thing, and it's possible the other person doesn't just think of it as "just sex" and would be upset if their partner went around and told everybody about it.

 

[Skyraider22]

Well I guess I'm just different because I would tell it does not matter to me I mean if the female I was with did not want me to tell anyone I would respect her wishes but other that that If I was asked Hey what did I do this weekend I would tell them and if it happened to be sex my answer would be I had sex this weekend:glugglug:

 

[Hypergalaxy]

I have the second convo with people but like rattrap said with friends not just random people

 

[calpoon]

"my weekend was pretty good. did some ass to mouth. well, what do you say we get this conference started? third quarter numbers are looking up. And speaking of getting it up..."

how well do you think that would go over?

 

[ChefChiTown]

"my weekend was pretty good. did some ass to mouth. well, what do you say we get this conference started? third quarter numbers are looking up. And speaking of getting it up..."

how well do you think that would go over?

Well, if it's "just sex", why don't people say things like that? I just find it to be kind of funny.

 

[rwill25]

Most guys I talk to, do tell me their sex lives. My friend was telling me the other day about him fucking some chick. If you're talking to a women I doubt they will ever tell you their sex life.

I have a girlfriend, so I tend to be a little more private about our sex lives. I really don't want my friends to see her differently.

 

[Violator79]

I think it's more of a woman thing than a guy's. A guy will openly say how many women he's fucked. A woman 99% of the time won't say anything. I don't know how many women on the board here are like that, and I mean no disrespect, but I'm sure some may agree with me when I say if they tell a guy or even other women, they're afraid they'll be looked down on as a whore or a slut. A guy for the most part doesn't really mind being called a man-whore.


On a side note, try keeping the "I'm a man-whore" jokes to a minimum!!!

 

[Teddy X]

I think it's more of a woman thing than a guy's. A guy will openly say how many women he's fucked. A woman 99% of the time won't say anything. I don't know how many women on the board here are like that, and I mean no disrespect, but I'm sure some may agree with me when I say if they tell a guy or even other women, they're afraid they'll be looked down on as a whore or a slut. A guy for the most part doesn't really mind being called a man-whore.

Real Talk right there homey.....True Dat...

 

[Becks...poamr]

"Hey Patty, what did you end up doing this weekend?"
"Nothing. I JUST had sex with this one guy from the bar."

Funny, that sounds EXACTLY like more than one conversation my sister, coincidentally called Patty, has had in her life.

 

[Embryoyo]

No one is that open with their friends that they will talk about everything.

I don't believe this is too true. I have 3 friends that I can and will tell anything and everything to.

 

[D-rock]

Well, if it's "just sex", why don't people say things like that? I just find it to be kind of funny.

What if it isn't just sex? Unless your asking some sort of rhetorical question and I didn't get it, your premise in this thread seems be that most people consider it just sex, and that might not be true.

 

[lickknob25]

"my weekend was pretty good. did some ass to mouth. well, what do you say we get this conference started? third quarter numbers are looking up. And speaking of getting it up..."

how well do you think that would go over?

I used to work for a bank, and damn if I didn't giggle every time someone said "ATM".

 

[ChefChiTown]

What if it isn't just sex? Unless your asking some sort of rhetorical question and I didn't get it, your premise in this thread seems be that most people consider it just sex, and that might not be true.

The premise that I was going for is this...

Some people claim that it's "just sex". For example, I don't agree with casual sex or one night stands, but some people are all for it. Why? Because they feel as though it is "just sex".

But, those same people, with the attitude that it's "just sex", are usually the same people who get somewhat offended if you ask them how many people they have slept with. Personally, I find that to be kind of hilarious and ironic.

Here is a real life example...

I have a friend; let's call her Jane. Jane is a slut. Jane is 26 years old and has had sex with over 40 different men and has "fooled around with" countless more. When Jane and I talk about sex, she acts as if there is nothing wrong with sleeping around so much. She literally says the exact words..."It's JUST SEX".

I once asked Jane how many men she had slept with. She immediately got a defensive attitude and said that it was none of my business. FYI - She eventually told me, which is why I know her "number".

Jane seemed offended that I would ask such a question, as if it was something which was extremely personal. But, if it's "JUST SEX", then what's the big deal with telling people the number of men she has slept with? I mean, in her own words and own logic, it's JUST SEX, right?

I just find it to be hypocritical and I wanted to see what other people thought about it. I mean, if it's "just sex", then why would someone with that attitude have a problem with other people knowing about them having sex?

:dunno:

 

[RealMenSwallow]

Chef I think the problem is simply this: People don't have interesting enough sex lives to merit talking about. Since it is just sex, they find it mundane, boring, and even routine. What they clearly lack is spice between the sheets. They need the anal, the interracial, the gang banging, the big cocks, the big tits, and then maybe they'll find a way to fit it into conversation.

Like "Hey what'd you do this weekend"
"I met this chick with huge tits and fucked her in her ass three times"

That's what the world needs Chef. It's not that they don't want to talk about it, it's that they lack a sufficiently kinky sex life.

 

[Member2019]

I think it's more of a woman thing than a guy's. A guy will openly say how many women he's fucked. A woman 99% of the time won't say anything.

Now that's a statistic that is total bullshit. Hell, it was bullshit in my high school and college almost 2 decades ago, let alone in many offices since. When I was an intern, an older woman -- an executive -- made the mistake of saying a little too much to others about what we did. Not good in a time when Anita Hill was backfiring at women too.

Yeah, most of the engineering professionals I know are more discreet, but that's more of the field I work in. But I've also worked in the technology industry around many other professionals, and a lot of them in the financial industry are almost like kids at times (with big paychecks).

I don't talk about my wife other than anonymously here. I never really talked about my lovers in high school or college either. It was for my own consumption. Rarely did I confide anything with a good friend, and if I did, it was more about the experience, not that I got laid. And I never mentioned the girl, especially not if he was interested in her and I'd shrug it off for months to ensure he didn't assume I was talking about her.

To me, talking about getting off with a woman is like getting off with myself. Let's face it, some of us really enjoy masterbation. If someone asks me, honestly asks me in private and want to know, I'll let them know about some of my techniques for their own usage. Same deal on sex. I'm only interested in talking about some of the techniques and events I've had, so they know of them as well.

It's all about the enjoyment, whether alone or with someone. It's never been about the "score." In fact, when someone ask me how many times I've had sex in my life, and really push it, I'll say I've only had vaginal intercourse with two women. Especially when they are clearly looking for that "qualification." It just shows how "deep" (i.e., not) they are interested in going.