how about some advice from u freeones visitors

[Maggie Green]

If she's not currently in contact with him, don't bring it up. If you do, be prepared for her to be pissed that you checked her emails. I'd probably dump you just for that!

 

[Mr_Stiffy]

So if you suggest that trust is required for a relationship...

I do. Not just required, critical. The foundation. I agree that trust is earned, not just given, but if you've been seeing someone long enough that you're using words like "relationship" and "love" then you should trust them, else your relationship is knackered. Snooping through someone else's email is a terrible thing to do to anyone, not least someone you're supposed to love.

2nd reply,within 1 minute of the 1st reply.More Brilliant?

You misunderstand. It's not just the speed of reply that is hilarious, it's the fact that whalers didn't have his plea for advice up for five minutes before someone swooped in asking "can we see these nude pics, fap fap fap"

 

[Ace Boobtoucher]

My favorite piece of advice for people looking for relationship advice on a forum dedicated to porn:







DON'T ASK FOR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ON A FORUM DEDICATED TO PORN.

 

[Mr_Stiffy]

I dunno, Boobs. I mean, there's no guarantee that you'll find advice from anyone that knows how to make a relationship work, but you can be damn sure there's a treasure trove of experience of what it takes to make a relationship fail.

 

[TheVern]

If she's not talking to him anymore, and hasn't for a couple years as you said, I'd say don't worry about it, and so long as she hasn't downloaded the photos and videos to her computer and purposefully saved them and is keeping them behind your back. Jealousy of your partner's past is pretty common, we're all guilty of it to one degree or another, but so long as the past stays in the past, there should be no problem.

She may have just forgotten about the emails, and never deleted them prior to you out of sheer laziness. I hardly ever delete my emails unless it's junk, and I'm sure many others are the same way. I wouldn't doubt it if I have emails with nude photos from 5+ years ago, between people I haven't talked to since then, and they're buried in thousands of other emails. I wouldn't worry about it too much.

If it does bother you that much, then just ask her about it. If she gets upset and puts up a fuss about deleting them, then she could be hiding something, but if she loves you and her past is just that, the past, she won't think twice about it. And don't accuse of her anything when you talk about it, such as still having feelings for her ex, because like I said, she could've just forgotten about them, so approach her calmly. How would you feel if you had emails from a girl that you knew years ago and have had no contact with since, and she started yelling at you about it? Getting upset about each other's pasts isn't productive. It's your present and future that's the most important.

I think this is the best response, but make your own choices. If you really love this girl. Her past relationships shouldn't be an issue

 

[Ace Boobtoucher]

Right about now that chick is probably getting her uterus pulverized by the dude she's been emailing.

 

[whalers90]

#1 i have been screwed-over several times by women in the past. trust is not the issue...it's not trusting other people who have contact with said women.
it's not that i don't trust my GF i don't trust this clown to not try something now that she has a BF (me!) and him feeling he needs to prove something and try to win her back or do something...anything to sabotage our relationship since he failed with her!
#2 he lives halfway across the country so ace boobtoucher nothing is happening.
#3 i don't trust any guys around her to not try something if i'm not around. we were at a sporting event and she waited at the bar while i used the men's room no sooner am i walking back there is a guy walking over to her introducing himself to her as i walk up...he asks her name and she says "her name ...and this is my boyfriend..." the guy looks over at me startled and says "enjoy the game" and moves on..
he has text her and asks how the job is going or how her pets are doing and i am ok with that, i ....me ....just feel there is always some underlying chance he will try something to get her back. she has told me she has moved on & that he is/was not the right person for her. i just don't trust him! or guys in general..

thanks

 

[xfire]

i ....me ....just feel there is always some underlying chance he will try something to get her back. she has told me she has moved on & that he is/was not the right person for her. i just don't trust him! or guys in general..

thanks

That's a cop out because she's an adult and makes her own choices. You're not mature enough to be in a relationship.

 

[bobjustbob]

My apologies to Happy Joy, Your worries are real. It's not about trust. Someone hit on your woman at a ball game. Guess what, they are hitting on her at work, at the supermarket, at the mall, at the gas station, at 7-11, .... everyplace she goes even when you are not there. Her Facebook and Twitter accounts are littered with followers. Men lurk on these sites and gain trust of innocent women. Bring this up to her friends first because you need confirmation before bringing it up to her. Everyone knows how guys are and she needs your protection from these losers. As you said, you are 40 and have been down this road before.