I am 19 years old and just lost my virginity over the past weekend. We had sex 3 times in two days. During the last session, I lost my erection for the first time (I'm hoping it had something to do with the fact that I had to pee very badly). I did manage to get it back and finish up, eventually, but ever since this weekend, I have been unable to get an erection. I don't think I even got one when I was asleep. In fact, right now I don't even find the concept of sex all that appealing. Is it normal for a 19 year old to lose his sex drive from that much activity? It's also scary because before we had sex I would get an erection just from thinking about my girlfriend. Now, I can have her naked and on top of me, and I couldnt keep it up. Is it possible that I have become that desensitized to sex in such a short time? Is this a mental problem? I'm starting to get worried that something might be wrong. It is only the second day after the sex, though. I just expected to be able to recover faster than this, I used to masturbate very often and was a typical horny 19 year old who would get hard just holding my girlfriend's hand. I find it hard to believe I've gone from that to porn star/80 year old man in 3 days. How long should I wait before seeing a doctor? I'm starting to get really concerned. Has this happened to anyone else at this age, or does anyone have any advice? Thanks so much.
HELP I think i broke it...
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That's probably it right there. Was the sex disappointing for you? Did she say or do something to suggest she didn't enjoy it? If you're feeling insecure or anxious about sex, that's undoubtedly going to decrease the number of stiffies you get.
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I don't have a pp so no it hasn't happen to me. I think with this much concern though you should just see your doctor. Most people know what would be normal to them, if you are that uncomfortable about it stop stressing and make an appointment. Its the easiest way because stress is no good at any age.
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You should have went to the restroom. Holding it in is bad for you.
Just give it a rest for a few more days. If you're not better by then go to the doctor.
I think it's mental. Do you come from a Catholic upbringing or any fucked up religion that casts sex in an evil, dirty light? Do you feel guilty or remorseful?
You're entering the most enlightening, exhilirating period of your life. Hopefully you're just going through a little post coital anxiety. Give it a few more days, if Johnny doesn't start marching again then, yeah go see a doctor.
Good luck.
You're entering the most enlightening, exhilirating period of your life. Hopefully you're just going through a little post coital anxiety. Give it a few more days, if Johnny doesn't start marching again then, yeah go see a doctor.
Good luck.
bigbadbrody
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you need more time between sex so your Penis can rest
The sex was ok, I guess I feel a little ashamed about the way it went, maybe I didn't last as long as I would have liked, and I am someone who struggles with anxieties, often times of the irrational sort. I think the harder and harder I try, and the bigger and bigger deal I make out of it, the less and less successful I am likely to become. And I can get an erection, at least a 75% one, from porn/masturbation right now, I'm just scared to push it more because I think it might just need a break. Also, again, just not that interested, so it's dying kind of fast. And yeah I'm Catholic, however I'm not exactly what you'd call pious. It seems the more and more I stress about this, the worse it gets. I just don't want her to think I don't find her attractive, or this to damage my relationship.
Do you ever go through periods where you just, aren't that turned on, for whatever reason?
Thanks for the replies.
Do you ever go through periods where you just, aren't that turned on, for whatever reason?
Thanks for the replies.
bigbadbrody
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If sex does not turn you on, there must be something wrong then
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sputnikgirl
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I broke mine too. Now I have to be in a compulsive masturbators support group. I can only masturbate a few times a week...and sex, forget about it. So I feel ya man.
ok, yes overuse can cause that. three times in two days doesn't sound like a whole hell of a lot to me... but um, it seems that generally three to four times (ejaculation) a day is pretty much the normal maximum. so keep that in mind.
also a sign of depression is loss of sexual appetite. this can also be caused by stress. And it can be subconscious, where you are not aware that you are feeling this way. I am a person that doesn't let things bother me, however everyone's brain still interprets things the same way, so I often experience the physical manifestations of "bad times".
this is especially troubling, as seems to be your case, when a person tries to go about their normal routines out of impulse, but finds that they are unable to do so. I'm specifically referring to sexually here, but it can be anything where you are suffering from a physical lack of performance to an otherwise normal excited mental outlook.
also a sign of depression is loss of sexual appetite. this can also be caused by stress. And it can be subconscious, where you are not aware that you are feeling this way. I am a person that doesn't let things bother me, however everyone's brain still interprets things the same way, so I often experience the physical manifestations of "bad times".
this is especially troubling, as seems to be your case, when a person tries to go about their normal routines out of impulse, but finds that they are unable to do so. I'm specifically referring to sexually here, but it can be anything where you are suffering from a physical lack of performance to an otherwise normal excited mental outlook.
Maybe it was too much too fast? You could have over-exerted yourself. Give yourself time to rest and heal up. If you're feeling the same after a few days go to the doctor to make sure nothing is wrong. If the doctor gives you the ok, then I'd talk to a therapist or a sex therapist. It might be a mental block you have going on now. Your problem may stem from the fact that you didn't want to lose your virginity, or that it wasn't the way you wanted to lose it. I'm just guessing, so don't take that the wrong way. You very well could have wanted to lose your virginity, but in your subconscious thought it was wrong. Who knows?! But those are the suggestions I have for you. Good luck.
ya some times too much and depression makes life hell. the more you think about it the worse youw ill get. try concentrate on other things.
if you still have trouble then go to your GP. they will give you a tablet that you take once a week for a month and will work wonders.then after the month it will be fine again. some times you just need a boost to get you going
if you still have trouble then go to your GP. they will give you a tablet that you take once a week for a month and will work wonders.then after the month it will be fine again. some times you just need a boost to get you going
Congrats! :glugglug:
Maybe you realized you don't like pussy? Or maybe it is something else mental that you feel ashamed, or something. I've been with my girl for a couple years now. I still get hard just looking at her ass in some tight sweats or jeans. A stiff dick has never been a problem for me. Good luck though.
Thanks for the concern, but no I do not get aroused by men, and I'm not "turning gay" if that's even possible.
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