We love talking about our experiences in the lifestyle and hope that it helps people understand us a little more so don't worry about asking or telling too much.
For a long time Letisha had fantasized about girls, especially her best friend. We were both very jealous people and strangely I didn't like her thinking about being with somebody else, even a girl and she obviously felt the same way about me and other women. 7 years into our marriage, after we had been fighting over the whole summer, we sat on our couch and finally shared every fantasy and thought we had ever had. We both admitted we found other people attractive, it's basic human nature after all. That didn't mean we wanted to leave each other for them, just think of them sexually and "try them out" so to say. And you're exactly right, we separate the emotional from the physical. In fact it creeps me out when I'm with another girl and she tries to look into my eyes and all that. It's fucking and hanging out with fun people, nothing more. Anyway, we stepped in slowly and did a very soft swap with her best friend and boyfriend. Mostly girl play and same room sex with our partners. Eventually we took a vacation with them to the Bahamas and did a regular soft swap with oral and everything but it never moved past that (to this day they only soft swap with us still). At this time, we both agreed we would NEVER be into full swapping as that was just too much. We also had another local couple that we had been friends with for awhile and did some soft swap stuff with them but three years later when we were ready to move on to full swap, the guy's jealousy got to be too much for him.
Then came Sexcape in South Africa and shortly after that was filming for Swing Season 4. We were cast with more seasoned swingers and they introduced us to swinger dating sites which really opened things up for us. We are now deeply involved in the lifestyle and now the only people we hang out with are swingers. We like our non-swinging friends but a lot of them fear by hanging out with us we will try to convert them which just isn't true. We respect everyone's decision to participate or not. With our swinger friends however, we can be ourselves, we can make dirty jokes and we can flirt without the fear of jealousy. Which yes, at one point everyone will have to deal with jealousy. After our first few encounters we were afraid we would eventually regret our decisions but as we became more comfortable with ourselves and progressed, the jealousy vanished. This has worked for us in the lifestyle but we completely understand if it doesn't work for others. Anytime an issue arises, we talk about it right away too. We don't keep secrets, ever. We also ask each other about flirting and exchanging numbers before it happens...usually after we've decided we want to fuck a couple
As for single people, we know a few of them but we don't play with them. They're attractive and all but anything we can do with a single person, we can do with a couple. Oh and watching Letisha with another guy? It was always a great fantasy in my head but wow is it fucking hot in real life. I know a lot of people may never understand that but I absolutely love it. For me the enjoyment of the lifestyle is 50% fucking other beautiful girls and 50% watching Letisha get pleasured.
We're glad that you've come to understand the lifestyle a bit more and are more accepting of it. Even if you're not in it, we're a fun group of people to hang out with. We promise we'll share some photos soon, just give us a little time.
Also, the new season premiers JUNE 20TH And there will be a new show called Swing: Open House ----not sure what it will contain but guessing it will be behind the scenes stuff!
Chad and Letisha