Girlfriend says she doesn't feel like having sex; Is it alright to start offering money for it?

[JasonCook78]

Am I the only one here that doesn't see a problem with sexual transactions for cash taking place in a relationship? :dunno:

If your in a relationship, and you like role-play; I don't see a problem with it:

Her: Oh Mr.Cook I can't pay for my English books, I might have to drop out.
Me: I can give you the money for your books, (whips dick out)
Her: Oh Mr.Cook your so naughty.

I don't see a problem with that. I have a problem with giving money to my girlfriend for sex, when she could do the same thing if we got married. Doesn't make much sense to me.

 

[Red Spyder]

Kind of like the guy and gal who made a deal. He told her "if you want sex but I'm not in the mood for it, I'll rub your left breast three times. If I want sex but you're not in the mood for it, you rub my cock about three hundred times" :tongue:

 

[SpexyAshleigh]

Quit being so logical.

I can't help myself

 

[Shifty]

It's time to invest in a few beach volleyball players. :2 cents:

 

[Mr. Daystar]

Am I the only one here that doesn't see a problem with sexual transactions for cash taking place in a relationship? :dunno:

We do pay for it....a diamond isn't cheap. Your friends and relatives usually drive us up a wall, and to be honest...it's not the outfit that makes your ass look big, we lie so you don't break down into an emotional basket case over your self image, and proceed to deep throat a half gallon of Ben & Jerry's double chocolate fudge ice cream.

Oh we pay....WITH OUR VERY SOULS!!!!

 

[Little Red Wagon Repairman]

Maybe it's time for us to start offering her money.

 

[Deepcover]

Quit being so logical.

I kinda admire logical women.

 

[squallumz]

disagreeing with the OK to offer something to them when they arent in the mood.


if shes cutting you off, something's wrong. start there. this isnt rocket science.

also, if shes a bitch, she'll milk you for these so-called "incentives." thats a downward spiral. ive seen that shit in real life from grown couples and its an awful awful thing.

monetary exchange for sex is done with a hooker, not a loved one. the only trade-off and exchange for sex in a real relationship should be emotional gratitude only.

 

[Harley Spencer]

disagreeing with the OK to offer something to them when they arent in the mood.


if shes cutting you off, something's wrong. start there. this isnt rocket science.

also, if shes a bitch, she'll milk you for these so-called "incentives." thats a downward spiral. ive seen that shit in real life from grown couples and its an awful awful thing.

monetary exchange for sex is done with a hooker, not a loved one. the only trade-off and exchange for sex in a real relationship should be emotional gratitude only.

I do agree with this but I also somewhat agree with the exchange for sex. I wouldn't want money in exchange for sex in my relationship, but something like a massage. I don't get enough massages and I have some serious neck problems that cause me headaches every single day. And in my current relationship, I never, ever reach orgasm. Ever. But he always does, of course. So seeing as sex isn't great for me, also considering that he almost always gets anal (which bothers me sometimes, it's the only way he gets off anymore, so my vag doesn't get much attention at all), I am very rarely in the mood for it. Maybe once a month, maybe less. It's sad, really. If sex was good for me, I would be in the mood more often.

 

[DJCowboy]

I do agree with this but I also somewhat agree with the exchange for sex. I wouldn't want money in exchange for sex in my relationship, but something like a massage. I don't get enough massages and I have some serious neck problems that cause me headaches every single day. And in my current relationship, I never, ever reach orgasm. Ever. But he always does, of course. So seeing as sex isn't great for me, also considering that he almost always gets anal (which bothers me sometimes, it's the only way he gets off anymore, so my vag doesn't get much attention at all), I am very rarely in the mood for it. Maybe once a month, maybe less. It's sad, really. If sex was good for me, I would be in the mood more often.

I'll help! Oh wait, you don't want anal as much anymore... Well my offer to help still stands but it'll probably just end up where you're at now

 

[Deepcover]

I do agree with this but I also somewhat agree with the exchange for sex. I wouldn't want money in exchange for sex in my relationship, but something like a massage. I don't get enough massages and I have some serious neck problems that cause me headaches every single day. And in my current relationship, I never, ever reach orgasm. Ever. But he always does, of course. So seeing as sex isn't great for me, also considering that he almost always gets anal (which bothers me sometimes, it's the only way he gets off anymore, so my vag doesn't get much attention at all), I am very rarely in the mood for it. Maybe once a month, maybe less. It's sad, really. If sex was good for me, I would be in the mood more often.

Whaaaa?????? Serious? Nooooooooooo. If you were my girl i'd give you a real hard, smooth, erotic massage until my hands fell off or I'd try to find a way to please you in any way possible so you can reach an orgasm. Even if I was at a point of exhaustion or i'm backbreaking myself, doesn't matter. I'd still wouldn't give up in making you feel good. If I was having sex with you I am only thinking about pleasing and satisfying your needs you know? Whispering soft words in your ears, petting, carressing, soft tongue, working the sides of your face, working that neck like a freaking chiropractor. Anything in order to rev up the pussy and get you turned on the best way possible. Heck I'd even break out and use your toys if it makes it any better for you to feel stimulated. You know what I mean?

I still fail to understand why your man doesn't please you the way you should feel pleased:bang:

 

[STDiva]

I do agree with this but I also somewhat agree with the exchange for sex. I wouldn't want money in exchange for sex in my relationship, but something like a massage. I don't get enough massages and I have some serious neck problems that cause me headaches every single day. And in my current relationship, I never, ever reach orgasm. Ever. But he always does, of course. So seeing as sex isn't great for me, also considering that he almost always gets anal (which bothers me sometimes, it's the only way he gets off anymore, so my vag doesn't get much attention at all), I am very rarely in the mood for it. Maybe once a month, maybe less. It's sad, really. If sex was good for me, I would be in the mood more often.

What do you get out of this relationship? I know sex isn't everything, but cmon. Does he know.you aren't satisfied and not care? Does he even try? Guy sounds selfish and inconsiderate.

 

[m.i.l.f_hunter1]

no sleep with her mom or if she has a sister sleep with her.

 

[jinxypie]

...If you were my girl i'd give you a real hard, smooth, erotic massage until my hands fell off or I'd try to find a way to please you in any way possible so you can reach an orgasm. Even if I was at a point of exhaustion or i'm backbreaking myself, doesn't matter. I'd still wouldn't give up in making you feel good. If I was having sex with you I am only thinking about pleasing and satisfying your needs you know? Whispering soft words in your ears, petting, carressing, soft tongue, working the sides of your face, working that neck like a freaking chiropractor. Anything in order to rev up the pussy and get you turned on the best way possible. Heck I'd even break out and use your toys if it makes it any better for you to feel stimulated.

Um... hi there. I'm Jinxy, and this sounds like heaven. :kiss:

 

[squallumz]

I do agree with this but I also somewhat agree with the exchange for sex. I wouldn't want money in exchange for sex in my relationship, but something like a massage. I don't get enough massages and I have some serious neck problems that cause me headaches every single day. And in my current relationship, I never, ever reach orgasm. Ever. But he always does, of course. So seeing as sex isn't great for me, also considering that he almost always gets anal (which bothers me sometimes, it's the only way he gets off anymore, so my vag doesn't get much attention at all), I am very rarely in the mood for it. Maybe once a month, maybe less. It's sad, really. If sex was good for me, I would be in the mood more often.

a massage.. i get. thats pretty close to sex. i mean sex is a massage in essence. its rubbing that feels good. but when you start integrating monetary exchanges and things can have monetary value, there's something seriously wrong with that.

a date is cutting it close. ill have sex with you IF you take me here or buy me this... i wouldnt fly right with that at all. thats dangerous teritory.

as stated before, relationships are all give and take, but this is very dangerous territory. i do things for my girl all the time as she does thigns for me. but there shouldnt be a tally sheet or the need for one. it just happens. shes gets me a glass of water earlier in the day, and ill make her lunch later when shes tired.

she does the dishes, and i try and remember to unload the dishwasher. she does my laundry so i got her and put together a hamper thing to separate colours. shit like that.

fuck, even the cosby show had this laid out in black and white. but sex.. man. again, if the situation gets this bad, then something is wrong. you have deeper issues in the relationship. bribing her with actual money is the biggest insult i can think of. it demeans her and demeans your relationship. even if she wants the money, its just not right.

we all have our off days, and weeks even, but this isnt the way to work it. not if you love the other person.

 

[bobjustbob]

Me: Honey, what a day I had today. I rescued poeple from a burning building plus I just won $7 million. How about some sex.

Her: I'm not really up to it.

(Me thinking if offering her some money would be worth it.)

Me: If having a hero as a mate and winning a lottery can't pick your spirits up then have your shit out of here by the time I get back from Vegas bitch.

 

[SpexyAshleigh]

a massage.. i get. thats pretty close to sex. i mean sex is a massage in essence. its rubbing that feels good. but when you start integrating monetary exchanges and things can have monetary value, there's something seriously wrong with that.

a date is cutting it close. ill have sex with you IF you take me here or buy me this... i wouldnt fly right with that at all. thats dangerous teritory.

as stated before, relationships are all give and take, but this is very dangerous territory. i do things for my girl all the time as she does thigns for me. but there shouldnt be a tally sheet or the need for one. it just happens. shes gets me a glass of water earlier in the day, and ill make her lunch later when shes tired.

she does the dishes, and i try and remember to unload the dishwasher. she does my laundry so i got her and put together a hamper thing to separate colours. shit like that.

fuck, even the cosby show had this laid out in black and white. but sex.. man. again, if the situation gets this bad, then something is wrong. you have deeper issues in the relationship. bribing her with actual money is the biggest insult i can think of. it demeans her and demeans your relationship. even if she wants the money, its just not right.

we all have our off days, and weeks even, but this isnt the way to work it. not if you love the other person.

Everyone does their relationships differently and thats the way its supposed to be. What works for you won't work for others, and what works for me won't work for others either. In my last relationship, this exchange worked well. Him having a higher sex drive because of my hormone treatments, , and him wanting me to please him constantly got exhausting and frankly, painful. Wound up starting to feel like my feelings weren't being considered. So- in order to get something in return for my efforts to his sometimes thrice a day sexdrive, I asked that if I'm gonna sex him (and sex him good I might add) when I wasn't feeling it, then its only fair that he make ME feel a bit special too and he was eager to please. Flowers once in a while, taking on a bit more of the housework once or twice a week, taking me out to buy a new pair of pjs so I could have a comfy nite...IMO isn't any different than providing sexual favors for your spouse. (I call them favors only if they're one sided) The end result is making your spouse happy, and satisfied. If my snatch is too sore to play and I'm too tired to enjoy it, why not give me something that I CAN enjoy at the end of the nite in exchange for me giving him somethin to enjoy too? Seems like a fair trade off and again, the system worked beautifully. He was super eager to make me happy because he knew it meant I'd be making him happy in the end too. Both partners happy= what relationships are all about. It doesn't have to always be romantic and super hot...long term relationships go through sexual ups and downs and dry spells...this was just a way for me and him to work through them. Again, doesn't work for everyone, but I can guarantee that if some unhappy husbands had a bit more to offer their frigid wives, there'd be a whole lot more sexin going on and happier wives too. Sometimes sex just isn't what some women want...but I can guarantee there's always something she does want from her man

 

[Petra]

We do pay for it....a diamond isn't cheap. Your friends and relatives usually drive us up a wall, and to be honest...it's not the outfit that makes your ass look big, we lie so you don't break down into an emotional basket case over your self image, and proceed to deep throat a half gallon of Ben & Jerry's double chocolate fudge ice cream.

Oh we pay....WITH OUR VERY SOULS!!!!

Cthulhu approves this message.

 

[StanScratch]

Come on, guys, you are so overlooking the obvious.
You just saved a bunch of old people, a high an noble cause. Nail one of the old broads. They'll be begging for it.

 

[lurkingdirk]

There is another way to look at this. Why do your sexual needs have to be met, regardless of your partner's desires? Do you strip down every single time she gets a twinge? There are times I say I'm not in the mood, too - too tired, too sore from some physical labour/exercise I did, whatever. How about just respecting each other's desires, and doing everything you can to please her whenever you're able, and trust her to do the same?

:dunno: