Conflicted about her wanting two men at a time...

[lahaina70]

Okay, this is a hard one to even broach, so I'm just gonna spill it.

I'd like to know your thoughts (girls especially) on why I'm so turned on by my girl wanting to have two guys (or more) at once, but that I'm really not sure I'm comfortable with her/us doing this.

Truly, I fantasize about her doing it all the time; spit roast, dp, train, etc. I just think and feel that once its all over, that I may be a little (lot) disturbed with it all.

I want her to be satisfied, it was her idea (did it once or twice with an ex), not mine, and I really do think it'd be hot as fuck, just not sure why I cant get past the "what if's" that may come up.

So, what're your thought?

 

[sputnikgirl]

If you're not totally okay with it, don't go ahead with it - or let her pressure you into doing it. If she really cares about you and your feelings, she'll respect whatever decision you make - even if it means keeping it as a fantasy only. If you think it's against your principles (even a little bit) don't go through with it. Otherwise your relationship will probably end due to resentment, jealousy, and all the other associated emotions.

 

[lahaina70]

Thanks for the input, and I really understand and can appreciate what you're saying, but it doesnt address the fact that I think about it a lot when I fantasize.

Yeah, I understand that some fantasies just shouldnt be carried out, this one just weighs on me more than others.

 

[Jagger69]

Sounds like one of those things that might be really hot while it's actually happening and really destructive afterwards. I would say it depends how serious the relationship with your GF is....are you willing to risk losing her over fulfillment of this fantasy?

Fantasies are just that....wild shit that just doesn't happen. JMO of course....go for it if you think you can withstand the aftermath.

 

[SacramentLoG]

Sounds like one of those things that might be really hot while it's actually happening and really destructive afterwards. I would say it depends how serious the relationship with your GF is....are you willing to risk losing her over fulfillment of this fantasy?

Fantasies are just that....wild shit that just doesn't happen. JMO of course....go for it if you think you can withstand the aftermath.

Agreed

 

[member006]

Sounds like one of those things that might be really hot while it's actually happening and really destructive afterwards. I would say it depends how serious the relationship with your GF is....are you willing to risk losing her over fulfillment of this fantasy?

Fantasies are just that....wild shit that just doesn't happen. JMO of course....go for it if you think you can withstand the aftermath.

:thumbsup:

I don't share and if my guy approached me with such an offer that would be the end of us. Yes, I would end it. I am the one and only or not the one at all. Many people out there I know can get past that and separate the two, its just not in me. I think sex is a wonderful perk of a relationship, not a recreational sport. Something personal, private and one on one. You meld with passion and love and two become one. Threes a crowd in my book. Just my:2 cents:

LL

 

[LBP 76]

:thumbsup:

I don't share and if my guy approached me with such an offer that would be the end of us. Yes, I would end it. I am the one and only or not the one at all. Many people out there I know can get past that and separate the two, its just not in me. I think sex is a wonderful perk of a relationship, not a recreational sport. Something personal, private and one on one. You meld with passion and love and two become one. Threes a crowd in my book. Just my:2 cents:

LL

I can't give you positive reputation; but I agree with everything you said 100%. Fantastic post.

And to lahaina70? Get a hobby. You have too much time on your hands. So does your partner.

 

[Peter Gazinya]

I have....an open mind and 2 questions:

1. What is a "spit roast"?

2. Where do you live?

 

[john_aero]

spit roat is one from behind and other getting bj in front while girl in doggy position.

other thing i want to say its all well and good fun but of your into a long term relationship then things like this can destroy relationships between 2 people

 

[Will E Worm]

I'd like to know your thoughts (girls especially) on why I'm so turned on by my girl wanting to have two guys (or more) at once, but that I'm really not sure I'm comfortable with her/us doing this.

So, what're your thought?

You're turned on by the idea, but you're not comfortable with the idea?

So, is she saying you're not enough for her?

The only way I'd consider a female my one and only is if she only wanted me and I was her one and only partner.

 

[DOA82]

When it comes to fantasies like that, ive always believed it to be a turn on because you are seeing your perfect, innocent significant other doing things usually reserved for the dvds. You cant have it either so its no suprise it might become a dirty little secret of yours to want it, unfortunately tainted by the belief that if it looks that good on screen, it will play out that way in life.

Unfortunately its usually the other way around and in fact it will probably destory whatever you have since if you are to watch that happen, your opinion of that loved one will be tainted by the image. Little bit of dirty fun it might be, but its never worth it, unless your opinion of that loved one is already low enough that it wont harm your relationship.

Then if you push the envelope to sharing her and basically abusing every orrofice she has, you expect to go back to normal sex afterwards? Sounds like opening pandoras box to me, but then, I dont share my toys!

 

[hedonis]

If you're not totally okay with it, don't go ahead with it - or let her pressure you into doing it. If she really cares about you and your feelings, she'll respect whatever decision you make - even if it means keeping it as a fantasy only. If you think it's against your principles (even a little bit) don't go through with it. Otherwise your relationship will probably end due to resentment, jealousy, and all the other associated emotions.

This is the best advice ^^^^ right there above my drivel.

If you don't want to do it, or you feel uneasy about it:

DO NOT DO IT. No good can come of it. :2 cents:

H

 

[smallville206]

The other danger of bringing other people into your relationship would be losing your girl to that person. What you thought would be fun in a controlled environment could quickly turn to her and him meeting away from you in secret. If she is someone you hope to be with long term it's not worth the risk.

 

[jamrak]

this reminds me of anecdote:

A: - Would you like to participate in a group sex orgy?
B: - Wow! Of course! And... who else will be involved?
A: - You, your wife and me.
B: - WTF?! Hell no!
A: - Ok. I'll scratch you off a list

the moral of the story is obvious: if someone has already decided that they want it, try to get your portion of pleasure from it, or they will do it behind your back.

 

[Peter Gazinya]

spit roat is one from behind and other getting bj in front while girl in doggy position.

Ok, so it's nothing like the Pittsburgh Platter?

 

[Mistyck]

If you're not ok with her doing this, then you shouldn't go through with it. If she has the same feelings for you that you have for her, then she will understand why you don't want her to go through with it. I don't think it will do anything for your relationship in a positive fashion. If you're having a conflict with yourself about her doing this now, then it will only get worse if she goes through with it. If she's not understanding and still wants to go through with it, then maybe you should evaluate your relationship and see if this is someone you truly want to be with.

 

[squallumz]

i need more info. but if she really wants to do it, and you always think about it, i say do it. i would. it could be a fucking great time, but you have to be sure u want to. dps are hot. give the girl her fantasy if you feel it will bring u closer. it just might!

 

[Becks...poamr]

go for it if you think you can withstand the aftermath.

Yep, that's pretty much it.

 

[D-rock]

If your comfortable with it then do what you want. Just remember to be careful what you wish for, and that all actions have consequences.

 

[Manrodd]

Okay, this is a hard one to even broach, so I'm just gonna spill it.

I'd like to know your thoughts (girls especially) on why I'm so turned on by my girl wanting to have two guys (or more) at once, but that I'm really not sure I'm comfortable with her/us doing this.

Truly, I fantasize about her doing it all the time; spit roast, dp, train, etc. I just think and feel that once its all over, that I may be a little (lot) disturbed with it all.

I want her to be satisfied, it was her idea (did it once or twice with an ex), not mine, and I really do think it'd be hot as fuck, just not sure why I cant get past the "what if's" that may come up.

So, what're your thought?

I'm in the same boat dude.
It's all i think about.
I just love the symmetry of it all.
Cock on either side pointing up. It's sacred.
My partner wants to experience it but we know of know one.
All my friends are "mingers" according to her.
Plus it would create weirdness between any friends that took part.
I think the best bet is one night stands.
Or at a doof like gathering.

Get her to go out and find a man to bring back to you.
They don't exchange real names or numbers.
He leaves when all is finished and gooey.




If you need an anonymous male
Let me know.
I love my partner, but i see a difference in "making love"
And sex as "adult play".

I say go for it otherwise you'll be on your death bed regretting everything you didn't do.

mmmmmm mmf's

I recon the males would climax stronger in that situation.
Primal thoughts, the chick can only get pregnant from one of you.
So in order to win the game of life you would have to cum harder with more of it.

love it.