Christianity... Is It Worth Putting Up With For A Girl?

[meesterperfect]

Honesty is not lying.
this "before we go any further in this relationship" stuff is not the same.
Like i said, spend time with her (if she even wants to) ,get to know her, see how you connect.
How anybody can't see the simplicity of it , i don't get.

Don't do it or "talk about it up front" is just bad advice, period.
Tells me a lot about the average member of this boards experience with women.

ok Op, if you go out with her start talking about religion on the first date, see how far you get.

P.S. American women aren't into gameplaying? Women in general aren't?
The whole damn things a game.
The sooner you realize that ...............

 

[Facetious]

Seek out a catholic instead, evangelicals are usually much too puritanical - uber disciplined for most peoples tastes. If you really think that catholics are religious zealots , ya ain't got a clue whatcha talkin 'bout !
I've told you all about the all girls catholic high school just down the way from my high school, yea, well, if you saw a yellow 66 Nova SS, a root beer brown '701/2 Z-28, a red '71 SS 350 Chevelle, a factory dk green '69 Chevelle SS396 or maybe a black '65 El Camino in front of the school at the eight, noon and two thirty time slots, you knew me and my buddies.:thumbsup:

"Hey Tiffany, says Caroline, adjust that skirt, brush your hair, adjust your lash and a fix your lipstik, gyrl ! Sister Delores is gonna know that sumthins up!'' :nannerf2: :gigglegiggle:

 

[mrtrebus]

Though I usually cringe when people put there personal lives on here, I'm gonna reach in a little and ask some advice.
Long story short, been in love with a girl (bosses daughter! *gulp!*) for a loooong time, we've been friends, I finally broke it down to her today and she seemed a little interested.
Only bomb she dropped was that she was into Christianity (which I knew) and that she needed a man who was into the same things as her and wanted to get right with god first before getting back into a relationship (shes divorced 2 years).

I've heard horror stories about dealing with Christians and that it was usually THEIR way or no way...I've been in love with this chick for years and I've made up my mind to do whatever it takes........I'm about as holy as Swiss Cheese and go to church for weddings and funerals only!

I'd ask Will E. but hes not available lately!
:dunno:

Simple answer, don't take it any further. If this is a make or break for her then sorry it's not going to work. If you have no faith becoming religious for the sake of a women is a mistake &, even though I am an atheist, I would see it as disrespectful to the faith. You are only going to church & praying etc because you want to get into some birds knickers.

If you can genuinely look at yourself & say, yes I believe in god but just am not into the whole church thing, then maybe you can find a faith this way. But to become a Christian because you have been prompted by your cock alone is a no no as far as I'm concerned. . .

She has been honest with you. Just be honest with her & yourself. If that means there is no hope of a relationship with her, then so be it.

 

[Facetious]

So who's sitting in for mr. t-bus today ? :hatsoff:

Welcome, whoever you are. :glugglug:

 

[mrtrebus]

So who's sitting in for mr. t-bus today ? :hatsoff:

Welcome, whoever you are. :glugglug:

 

[alexpnz]

Jesus Christ! (oops, sorry! )

What can I say, I'm flattered and happy that this many people had such GREAT opinions on the matter!

Like I said, nothing is set in stone, I'm just doing a little research on the matter based on what I've heard about dating Christian women. Bottom line is we've known each other for 15+ years and she knows me well enough to know how far she can go to try and "turn me", so to speak. Theres been conversations about it over the years and theres been numerous times where I have made fun of her over it and she never took it personal.

I'm at the age now where if I have to broaden my horizons or make a few sacrifices to get what I want or need, so be it. Like a few have said, I'll go along for the ride and see what develops. If I have to go to church a few times a week or help build houses for broke ass peop....er, the less fortunate or stop cussing so much or fart in public, how bad can it be??:1orglaugh

I don't think shes gona have me selling bibles or carrying crosses or anything like that, BUT if she discovers I'm on here posting links and talking to fellow perverts THEN I'm screwed!!!:1orglaugh

Again thanx for all the opinions and I'll keep posted if anything occurs.....If you see me with a Jesus avatar and a signature of the Last Supper, send help!

Wait.....Is that Christian!???:rofl:

 

[sualcalay]

Jesus Christ! (oops, sorry! )

What can I say, I'm flattered and happy that this many people had such GREAT opinions on the matter!

Like I said, nothing is set in stone, I'm just doing a little research on the matter based on what I've heard about dating Christian women. Bottom line is we've known each other for 15+ years and she knows me well enough to know how far she can go to try and "turn me", so to speak. Theres been conversations about it over the years and theres been numerous times where I have made fun of her over it and she never took it personal.

I'm at the age now where if I have to broaden my horizons or make a few sacrifices to get what I want or need, so be it. Like a few have said, I'll go along for the ride and see what develops. If I have to go to church a few times a week or help build houses for broke ass peop....er, the less fortunate or stop cussing so much or fart in public, how bad can it be??:1orglaugh

I don't think shes gona have me selling bibles or carrying crosses or anything like that, BUT if she discovers I'm on here posting links and talking to fellow perverts THEN I'm screwed!!!:1orglaugh

Again thanx for all the opinions and I'll keep posted if anything occurs.....If you see me with a Jesus avatar and a signature of the Last Supper, send help!

Wait.....Is that Christian!???:rofl:

Well, g'luck with that mate

Just...don't hurt her.

 

[meesterperfect]

Thanks Alex, good luck.
i took and interest in this thread mainly because of the lame advice you were getting.

again, don't bring up religion with her.
if she brings it up, say something positive and let it go.
if she asks you to go to church or pray, i guess that means she likes you, at that point if you see/feel that you may have something good going with her, make your decision.

good luck dude.

 

[Maria the SnakeBabe]

.....
I'm at the age now where if I have to broaden my horizons or make a few sacrifices to get what I want or need, so be it. .....
...BUT if she discovers I'm on here posting links and talking to fellow perverts THEN I'm screwed!!!:1orglaugh
...

There are millions of Christians that don't believe sex is wrong so I would not consider you a pervert. And if your wiling to broaden your horizons ask her to start with a bible study on sex.
You may find out you enjoy Christianity.

 

[Bloodshot Scott]

Corrupt her.

By Evangelical standards, if she had a divorce she is already corrupted.

What a ridonkulous question. Of course it's worth "putting up" with. The best girls are Christians.

I have seen some of the most beautiful girls on the planet at church.

Seek out a catholic instead, evangelicals are usually much too puritanical - uber disciplined for most peoples tastes. If you really think that catholics are religious zealots , ya ain't got a clue whatcha talkin 'bout !
I've told you all about the all girls catholic high school just down the way from my high school, yea, well, if you saw a yellow 66 Nova SS, a root beer brown '701/2 Z-28, a red '71 SS 350 Chevelle, a factory dk green '69 Chevelle SS396 or maybe a black '65 El Camino in front of the school at the eight, noon and two thirty time slots, you knew me and my buddies.:thumbsup:

"Hey Tiffany, says Caroline, adjust that skirt, brush your hair, adjust your lash and a fix your lipstik, gyrl ! Sister Delores is gonna know that sumthins up!'' :nannerf2: :gigglegiggle:

This is totally correct. I've met quite a few Catholics and Evangelicals and there really is a world of difference. The Catholics have always bordered on foul mouthed, (most times Irish) drunk and other types that Evangelicals have never come close to. There were some real pervs at one of the more high-end Catholic high schools 'round these parts that I knew growing up. I'm talking really, really worldly Catholics.

Generaly spirituality can be a real positive thing if you want to ditch the porn, the booze, and other unsavory aspects of your life. If you can manage, my friend Alex, you could look at the positives in this.

 

[Crazy4theBrat]

Thanks Alex, good luck.
i took and interest in this thread mainly because of the lame advice you were getting.

again, don't bring up religion with her.
if she brings it up, say something positive and let it go.
if she asks you to go to church or pray, i guess that means she likes you, at that point if you see/feel that you may have something good going with her, make your decision.

good luck dude.

The problem with your advice is that you are only watching out for your own interests. What harm is there in telling her where you stand about religion? If she's that religious, it is certain to come up almost from the start. You don't want to make an issue of it because you hope to get past the obstacle and still get into her pants anyway.

If the girl is very religious, the issue WILL, without question, come up eventually. Doing it your way, you just "make your decision" then and cut off the relationship. Unfortunately, you don't take into consideration the fact that she will be hurt when you end the relationship.

This could have been prevented if you were just man enough to be honest with her up front and let her know what your beliefs actually are. But who cares about that when you can just downplay something that will eventually be a certain deal breaker. Who cares about breaking her heart when you still have a shot at getting into her pants. Right?

 

[Nester6]

Though I usually cringe when people put there personal lives on here, I'm gonna reach in a little and ask some advice.
Long story short, been in love with a girl (bosses daughter! *gulp!*) for a loooong time, we've been friends, I finally broke it down to her today and she seemed a little interested.
Only bomb she dropped was that she was into Christianity (which I knew) and that she needed a man who was into the same things as her and wanted to get right with god first before getting back into a relationship (shes divorced 2 years).

I've heard horror stories about dealing with Christians and that it was usually THEIR way or no way...I've been in love with this chick for years and I've made up my mind to do whatever it takes........I'm about as holy as Swiss Cheese and go to church for weddings and funerals only!

I'd ask Will E. but hes not available lately!
:dunno:

Religion is a crutch that she is now leaning on because it comforts her. As time goes on, she'll probably forget religion and become as swiss cheese as you.

 

[roronoa3000]

This thread sucks.
"Put up" with a chick cause shes Christian?

...At least I got a little chuckle out of it.

 

[Elwood70]

Generaly spirituality can be a real positive thing if you want to ditch the porn, the booze, and other unsavory aspects of your life.

If you do it right,you can keep it all.

I don't consider booze and porn to be "unsavory" aspects of my life,merely parts of it.

 

[Bloodshot Scott]

If you do it right,you can keep it all.

I don't consider booze and porn to be "unsavory" aspects of my life,merely parts of it.

I hear you, but it's had a particularly negative bearing on my life. I come from a long line of Scand' drunkards (by no means am I proud of that). Rolled one car already because of my eratic drinking and have lost 10's of thousands in the process. You're lucky not to have that burden.

 

[roronoa3000]

If you do it right,you can keep it all.

I don't consider booze and porn to be "unsavory" aspects of my life,merely parts of it.

In excess they are.

 

[Elwood70]

I hear you, but it's had a particularly negative bearing on my life. I come from a long line of Scand' drunkards (by no means am I proud of that). Rolled one car already because of my eratic drinking and have lost 10's of thousands in the process. You're lucky not to have that burden.

Thanks,but it wasn't luck.I've had troubles as well,but not nearly to that extent.It took me a long time to learn that....

In excess they are.

...but when it finally got through,it was a new beginning.

 

[roronoa3000]

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...but when it finally got through,it was a new beginning.

:thumbsup:

 

[Bloodshot Scott]

Thanks,but it wasn't luck.I've had troubles as well,but not nearly to that extent.It took me a long time to learn that....

I'm just lucky I never fell into poppin' benzodiazepines or other trashy substances. I've had access to them and never fell victim to that addiction. I've had a close friend fall victim to meth and man you wanna talk about a living, breathing train wreck that poison can make a person's life. It's tragic what addiction can do. I count my blessings in the grand scheme of everything and try to remain optimistic. But damn I wish I could have my car back. I fuckin' loved that car (both of them that I totalled).

 

[Vlad The Impaler]

Maybe someone already said this, and no offence,but if you love this girl so much why would you want to ruin her life by bringing such a negative attitude about her faith into it. Your obviously dead set against it. I say let her find someone who shares the same ideals. Just my opinion.