Cheating or not cheating?

[Mr. Daystar]

I think most of us will be more than fine if his woman has sex with other women. With oter men, Petra has a point, yet who does that, giving the all-clear for dating other guy's, too?
And in reverse, imagine a woman finding out her man makes out with other men, that is a stopper right there.

I once told my wife, that if she ever felt the need to play with another girl, or wanted to try it, all I wanted out of her was the truth. She was free to experiment with a girl, as long as she was honest, and the girl was clean....I didn't even expect to be allowed to watch, provided the other girls boyfriend/husband was not present. My wife thanked me for understanding, and giving her the freedom to explore that part of her sexuality, then told me......


And by all means, suck as much cock as you want, just be honest about it!

 

[Johan]

If she confesses -by herself, not after the guy confronted her- as soon as possible, then I would not considering this as cheating.
But if she tries to hide what she did, if she lies about it, then yes, it's cheating.

Because, to me, cheating means to abuse the person's trust.

 

[hYdl1d3]

She should keep her eyes on her own notes.

 

[FreeOnes_Adam]

You can't cheat unless you've agreed to be exclusive if you ask me.

 

[Anonyne#017]

As long as the guy buys her a drink or something, then it's not considered cheating (porn girl logic), because then it's called "work" and she just sold herself pretty cheap.

You can't cheat unless you've agreed to be exclusive if you ask me.

Then that is called whoring and basically is the same either way or you could always cross your fingers behind your back while making an agreement, so then that agreement doesn't count...

 

[Little Red Wagon Repairman]

Ok so let's say for instance we have a guy who is dating a girl and she goes out to the bar with her friends one night and makes out with a guy just for fun, would that be consider cheating?

Yes.

Now what if the girl goes out and gets drunk and makes out with a girl for fun, would that be considered cheating?

Yes.

 

[LaLiLuLeLohan]

It's cheating either way. Although, I have to admit that I think we put too much emphasis of fidelity and physical intimacy sometimes. I know for a fact that my fiance has been having a fling with her male co-worker and she has no idea that I know. I like the idea of her having her own fun. She's not depriving me of anything, she's just having a good time.

 

[pool_hustler]

It's cheating either way. Although, I have to admit that I think we put too much emphasis of fidelity and physical intimacy sometimes. I know for a fact that my fiance has been having a fling with her male co-worker and she has no idea that I know. I like the idea of her having her own fun. She's not depriving me of anything, she's just having a good time.

You're planning on marrying this woman and it doesn't concern you that her being deceitful and disrespectful to you in this way means she's likely to be in other ways as well - ways that may very well matter to you?

 

[FreeOnes_Adam]

Then that is called whoring and basically is the same either way or you could always cross your fingers behind your back while making an agreement, so then that agreement doesn't count...

Oh yes, and don't forget the pinkie swear! That will keep her from screwing all your friends for sure!

 

[BusterLoads]

It's cheating either way. Although, I have to admit that I think we put too much emphasis of fidelity and physical intimacy sometimes. I know for a fact that my fiance has been having a fling with her male co-worker and she has no idea that I know. I like the idea of her having her own fun. She's not depriving me of anything, she's just having a good time.

If she's willing to cheat on you, you have no idea what else she'll have no quarrels about doing in the future to you in the future. You should really drop her and run for the hills; at the VERY least not fucking marry her.

 

[LaLiLuLeLohan]

You're planning on marrying this woman and it doesn't concern you that her being deceitful and disrespectful to you in this way means she's likely to be in other ways as well - ways that may very well matter to you?

She's an amazing person. I think people are capable of giving into temptation without there being anger or cruelty behind it. She's incredibly generous to me in every way. We have an incredible sex life. So if she gets a thrill out of sneaking out and having some fun in secret, I understand that and I'm cool with it. She deserves all the good times she can get.

 

[BusterLoads]

I think people are capable of giving into temptation without there being anger or cruelty behind it. She's incredibly generous to me in every way.

So she's out fucking god knows who else, comes back to you, bats her "generous" eyes at you, and that somehow means what exactly? Because that just describes 'typical manipulative bitch move 101.' It'd be one thing if she came out and said, "I'm fucking this person and that person" because at least there's honesty there. But the fact that she's doing this behind your back (or at least she thinks she doing it behind your back) means she's playing you for a fool and has no respect for you. And the fact that you won't even confront her about it is just icing on the "smh" cake. Also, one doesn't have to be angry to simply not give a fuck about a person. She's got you wrapped around her finger and she knows it. And just because she's "generous to you in every way" doesn't mean she isn't out laughing at you to her friends, or even the people she's fucking, about clueless you are.

 

[LaLiLuLeLohan]

So she's out fucking god knows who else, comes back to you, bats her "generous" eyes at you, and that somehow means what exactly? Because that just describes 'typical manipulative bitch move 101.' It'd be one thing if she came out and said, "I'm fucking this person and that person" because at least there's honesty there. But the fact that she's doing this behind your back (or at least she thinks she doing it behind your back) means she's playing you for a fool and has no respect for you. And the fact that you won't even confront her about it is just icing on the "smh" cake. Also, one doesn't have to be angry to simply not give a fuck about a person. She's got you wrapped around her finger and she knows it. And just because she's "generous to you in every way" doesn't mean she isn't out laughing at you to her friends, or even the people she's fucking, about clueless you are.

I guess we're gonna have to agree to disagree on this. I used to feel the same way as you do, but my attitude changed over the years ago. There's actually a huge part of of me that is turned by the thought of my fiance being a dirty girl behind my back. A few years ago, I was the one who brought up the idea of watching her fuck another man. And after rejecting the idea, she finally decided to give it a chance when the perfect opportunity came up. Since then, we've experimented with a lot of things. Hell, a couple years ago she had a male fuck buddy who'd come about every week or so and the two of us would fuck her silly. Watching her with another man drove me crazy and one of the most amazing feelings ever was fucking her after another man left a load inside of her.

So this relationship wasn't some cookie cutter, traditionally monogamous thing that got ruined by infidelity. The two of us have definitely ventured out into territory that we never would have imagined we'd be into years ago. If my fiance came to me and asked if it was cool to fuck her co-worked, I'd not only most likely be cool with it, I'd hope I'd get a chance to witness it. So the only thing that has changed this time is that she's doing it without telling me about it.

 

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[Rey C.]

You can't cheat unless you've agreed to be exclusive if you ask me.

^^^This.

Until there's some agreement about the nature of the relationship, I don't think you can really call it cheating. Of course, if one or both continue playing the field while dating (and not admitting it), then I guess that says that it's not going to ever be a (trusted) exclusive relationship.

 

[whalers90]

this is the be all, end all. ....

Cheating doesn’t mean you have to kiss, meet or have sex with someone else… Once you find yourself deleting messages so your partner will not see them, then you already are there. ~Unknown

 

[Jack Davenport]

All I can say is that the male in this hypothetical better not ever date Mariah.

 

[Jane Burgess]

Define going out? If it wasn't an exclusive relationship, than it's not cheating.

Curious about something guess this pertains to dating...

STORY: Ok so let's say for instance we have a guy who is dating a girl and she goes out to the bar with her friends one night and makes out with a guy just for fun, would that be consider cheating?
Now what if the girl goes out and gets drunk and makes out with a girl for fun, would that be considered cheating?

Any thoughts?

 

[thatbigsecret]

IF there is a clear waver that short of sex, everything is ok and open, no. Outside of that, both scenarios are cheating in my opinion.

 

[Deepcover]

Jane Burgess[/URL][/B], post: 8949771, member: 201847"]Define going out? If it wasn't an exclusive relationship, than it's not cheating.

They are in a relationship. So yes exclusive. Would you say it's cheating or not?