Any thoughts?
I have been dating this guy for three months. (new rel.) We spend every weekend together and it's been really nice. I've seem to like him only 60-75% of the time but in the last few days I began to feel alot closer.
He introduces me to everyone as his gf which made me happy. He is a super geek which takes some getting used to but its been a nice change too.
Now last night I just found out that he kissed two different chics in a bar one month ago, while I was away on vacation for three nights. (So we had been seeing each other for 8 weeks by this point) :crying:
What bothers me is that he didn't stop at one chic and feel any guilt, he even went on and did it again with a second girl - tried to get them home/failed. Then he texted them both for dates a few days later. What also bothers me is that the second Im outta town, he went for it, straight to a bar and full steam ahead.
It all came out because I asked a few questions after he mentioned he had planned lunch with 'a friend'. I asked more about this friend, where they met etc. He told me that he met her while he was dating me, initially thought there was something there with this girl, but now realises that there isn't and he is not attracted to her so they have stayed friends and do lunch sometimes and that lately he has become alot closer to me/wants me. <rolls eyes>
He knew I was getting suspicious of him, so he fessed up to kissing those two girls in a bar while I was away. It seems like 'lunch girl' may have been one of them.
I asked him if he ever cheated on his ex gf and he said yes. Great. Bad pattern developing here.
I've noticed he also logs into an adult dating site once a month. Not cool.
He said he knows he needs to redeem himself and win back my trust and that he will do all sorts of things to do it. So far this morning he has deleted all dating applications on Facebook etc. then emailed me before he went to lunch to say he was going alone lol.
Anyway, I am super wary. I have spelled out exactly what I expect in a rel, and I like to give everyone a second chance but I am wary of wasting time and getting deeper and getting hurt.
Makes it a bit more complicated that its real early days - when we're all usually establishing how we feel about someone.
I have been dating this guy for three months. (new rel.) We spend every weekend together and it's been really nice. I've seem to like him only 60-75% of the time but in the last few days I began to feel alot closer.
He introduces me to everyone as his gf which made me happy. He is a super geek which takes some getting used to but its been a nice change too.Now last night I just found out that he kissed two different chics in a bar one month ago, while I was away on vacation for three nights. (So we had been seeing each other for 8 weeks by this point) :crying:
What bothers me is that he didn't stop at one chic and feel any guilt, he even went on and did it again with a second girl - tried to get them home/failed. Then he texted them both for dates a few days later. What also bothers me is that the second Im outta town, he went for it, straight to a bar and full steam ahead.
It all came out because I asked a few questions after he mentioned he had planned lunch with 'a friend'. I asked more about this friend, where they met etc. He told me that he met her while he was dating me, initially thought there was something there with this girl, but now realises that there isn't and he is not attracted to her so they have stayed friends and do lunch sometimes and that lately he has become alot closer to me/wants me. <rolls eyes>
He knew I was getting suspicious of him, so he fessed up to kissing those two girls in a bar while I was away. It seems like 'lunch girl' may have been one of them.
I asked him if he ever cheated on his ex gf and he said yes. Great. Bad pattern developing here.
I've noticed he also logs into an adult dating site once a month. Not cool.
He said he knows he needs to redeem himself and win back my trust and that he will do all sorts of things to do it. So far this morning he has deleted all dating applications on Facebook etc. then emailed me before he went to lunch to say he was going alone lol.
Anyway, I am super wary. I have spelled out exactly what I expect in a rel, and I like to give everyone a second chance but I am wary of wasting time and getting deeper and getting hurt.
Makes it a bit more complicated that its real early days - when we're all usually establishing how we feel about someone.
