Look at it this way. At a circus where a Lion Tamer puts his head in the lion's mouth, would you say that "The Lion is in Control"??
Of course not. If the lion were in control he would be in the jungle humping lionesses, eating gazelle, and sleeping. The Lion Tamer is in control and is excited in part by his vulnerability. The fact that he is so very vulnerable and still in control (lion still not biting) means that his control / dominance is even more significant.
Where the woman has the most control is prior to opening her mouth. Where the lion has the most control is after closing his.