Another installment of I will never understand women.

[Jack Davenport]

So here is the deal. A woman I have known for about 3 years comes to me and asks me to help her with a legal matter. We actually dated about 3 times but we never became intimate. Over the past month I have had quite a bit of contact with her, letting her know how her situation is progressing ans so forth. I am doing the work for her pro bono. She has thanked me and offered to pay me later when her financial situation improves and I told her not to worry about it. Today I ran into her best friend at the grocery store and she was telling. me about her and that she knew I was representing her. Then she says to me.., " she is worried that she will be obligated to you or that you want something from her"

I said to her friend " make sure you tell her that all I am doing is trying to help her through a tough period in her life. I am not wanting a relationship out of this nor am I looking to sleep with her . Just trying to do her a favor and help her.

Two hours later she calls me and asks about her situation and is very cool acting. So now she is pissed off because I conformed to her friend that my helping her is strictly platonic? No good deed goes unpunished as the saying goes.

 

[tiger1977]

Is there no confidentiality agreement between the 2 of you?

 

[24788]

Well, she seems different of course. I don't know not all woman are that way even though it seems this way at time.

 

[Jack Davenport]

Is there no confidentiality agreement between the 2 of you?

There is no formal retainer agreement. And any details of her situation were divulged to her friend by her. I did not discuss details.

 

[Jack Davenport]

I meant to say " confirmed" not "conformed" to her friend. Too late to edit.

 

[Rydog11]

Hey, hit it and quit it my friend

 

[Rey C.]

Maybe she's not used to having people (men) do anything nice for her without having to give something in return, or maybe she's one of those people who mistakes kindness for weakness.

But yeah, it's been my experience that good deeds often come back behind you and sink in their teeth. It's unfortunate. But you can't let that change your nature or your sense of right & wrong.

 

[STDiva]

Hey, hit it and quit it my friend

 

[Sparky Shortz]

What a dumb bitch...obviously does not appreciate a good man trying to hep her out. As a small token of her appreciation, she should take you to dinner, get you drunk and finish it off with a surprise BJ...I sure would :nanner:

So here is the deal. A woman I have known for about 3 years comes to me and asks me to help her with a legal matter. We actually dated about 3 times but we never became intimate. Over the past month I have had quite a bit of contact with her, letting her know how her situation is progressing ans so forth. I am doing the work for her pro bono. She has thanked me and offered to pay me later when her financial situation improves and I told her not to worry about it. Today I ran into her best friend at the grocery store and she was telling. me about her and that she knew I was representing her. Then she says to me.., " she is worried that she will be obligated to you or that you want something from her"

I said to her friend " make sure you tell her that all I am doing is trying to help her through a tough period in her life. I am not wanting a relationship out of this nor am I looking to sleep with her . Just trying to do her a favor and help her.

Two hours later she calls me and asks about her situation and is very cool acting. So now she is pissed off because I conformed to her friend that my helping her is strictly platonic? No good deed goes unpunished as the saying goes.

 

[Jack Davenport]

Maybe she's not used to having people (men) do anything nice for her without having to give something in return, or maybe she's one of those people who mistakes kindness for weakness.

But yeah, it's been my experience that good deeds often come back behind you and sink in their teeth. It's unfortunate. But you can't let that change your nature or your sense of right & wrong.

Thanks for that Rey. I just think she told her friend that I probably want to sleep with her, and her friend came back to her and told her that was not the case and was a blow to her ego.

 

[Jack Davenport]

What a dumb bitch...obviously does not appreciate a good man trying to hep her out. As a small token of her appreciation, she should take you to dinner, get you drunk and finish it off with a surprise BJ...I sure would :nanner:

A woman taking ME out to dinner and not vice versa? That would be a welcome change. Thanks Sparky, very nice thing to say.

 

[Kingfisher]

I would suggest to break off contact unless she's paying you for your knowledge and services. Don't give away the milk for free. There's other fish out there too.

 

[Sparky Shortz]

I'm old style and respect men 100%...not a women's libber...can't sit around with a bunch of women and gossip, bitch and complain about guys...guess that's why all my friend are males :rofl2: :rofl2: :rofl2:

A woman taking ME out to dinner and not vice versa? That would be a welcome change. Thanks Sparky, very nice thing to say.

 

[Jack Davenport]

I would suggest to break off contact unless she's paying you for your knowledge and services. Don't give away the milk for free. There's other fish out there too.

I'll give it a couple of days and see if her attitude changes. If not, I may refer her to another attorney that she does nor know and ask them to take it over pro bono as a favor. I need to see who owes me one.

 

[Jack Davenport]

I'm old style and respect men 100%...not a women's libber...can't sit around with a bunch of women and gossip, bitch and complain about guys...guess that's why all my friend are males :rofl2: :rofl2: :rofl2:

I haven't seen you around here in a couple of days. Glad you are back.:glugglug:

 

[LukeEl]

Give it a couple of days is the best course of action. If she is still being uappreciative of your efforts to help her through a rough time. The best thing to do is wish her luck and pretty much lose contact with her. Don't let someone else's problems make your life hard it isn't worth it. Because they are women out there that do enjoy noble acts of kindness from men, even when there isn't a hidden intimate agenda involved. Holy shit did I just say that, I must be losing my mind or sundowning.

 

[Jack Davenport]

Give it a couple of days is the best course of action. If she is still being uappreciative of your efforts to help her through a rough time. The best thing to do is wish her luck and pretty much lose contact with her. Don't let someone else's problems make your life hard it isn't worth it. Because they are women out there that do enjoy noble acts of kindness from men, even when there isn't a hidden intimate agenda involved. Holy shit did I just say that, I must be losing my mind or sundowning.

Yeah they exist. Sparky is one of them.

 

[Legzman]

stop trying to understand women. Its one of those things no one will ever understand. They are so fucked in the head I don't even think women understand women...

 

[Philbert]

I wrote a great treatise on the subject; I use Firefox and was in CoolPreviews...moved my mouse and lost it all.
So...succinctly put..."Without worshipers, even the great gods die."
Or..."Don't touch me! What...you don't want to?!?!?! You SOB!!!"

Not a guy way of thinking, but a common and simple female approach to a situation such as yours.
Good luck!

 

[~~whimsy~~]

This sounds like the most generic and shittiest porno script I ever read! I would change the script up a bit and make it less cheesy.

In the meantime I'm sure things will go fine. Just lose the cheesy edge in your writing. I mean I could clearly hear the cheeky '70s soundtrack in back of me mind whilst reading this.